Are stepmothers and stepfathers really parents?

Question

No, they're not!
I'm an adult, but thinking about the impact my stepmother had in my life still burns me up.

Hey, woman--just cos you married my Dad does NOT make you my mother or a parent!

I put up with so much **** from this woman just for my dad's sake---cos I knew it'd break his heart if he knew how I felt about her.

She's anal, nosy, controlling, & has my dad on a leash (sometimes I wonder if she does literally, behind closed doors!).

And since my real mother is dead, now when I have children of my own they will think this woman is their grandmother. That brings me to tears.

This woman has a large, annoying, dumb family, & for years we have been playing this stupid charade that all these people are my 'grandparents', 'aunts', 'uncles', and 'cousins'.

Listen, people--take marriage seriously. If you get divorced, fine, but when you do--if you remarry, remember that your new spouse is NOT & will NEVER be a parent to your kids! They already HAVE two REAL parents!

Answer 1

Well, your right about a lot of it, but then again I know of people who had step parents that were much better then their really parents. Anybody can be a father/mother, but it takes someone special to be a mom/dad. It's sad that you feel that way, but I wish I would of had a dad/mom to be raised with. I know I have biological parents, but what good are they if I don't know them? If I had children and remarried...granted who I ever marry could never replace their biological mother, but I hope that my kids would still try to accept her because of me. They could hate her with a passion, but respect her just because she is in my life.