i'm 21 years old, and am currently pregnant with my first child. Well, i just found out las week that it a girl ,and all of a sudden i feel panicked like--what am i going to do with a girl!!? i feel like girls are so delicate, like there's a special code that you have to abide by when it comes to raising them properly. Are there any suggestions on discipline ideas,and good ways to teach her to be a lady? any ideas anyone has, any parenting techniques would be very beneficial to me....and appreciated.
2007-02-17 08:27:17 · 7 answers · asked by modern_mother 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
my husband and i were just talking about this in the car on the way home. I always wanted a girl until I started thinking about it: boys are SO MUCH EASIER I think! Girls - yikes. I feel like maybe I just know too much - how hard it is to feel safe, how difficult relationships with your mother are, how ambiguous the roles for women are now (career and family and we're supposed to do it ALL and well before we're "too old"), how hard it is to grow up as a girl, how mean girls can be to each other, how difficult things like body image and all that are -- SCARY. I don't know what I'm having, boy or girl, but I think for either, the most important thing is to expose them to a lot, let them become who they are, not who you want them to be, teach them what you can but let them make their own mistakes, teach them how to love (not just some people, but all people, gay, straight, black, white, muslim, christian...), and let them know you will love them no matter what. I think the rest you just have to figure out along the way. If you're worrying about it already, I bet you'll do a great job as a mom. It's the ones who only get as far as thinking about how they're going to dress their new little "dolls" that concern me!! Good luck and have fun :)
2007-02-17 08:36:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is completely normal to be panicked! This is a huge change in your life. Your life will go from self-centered (I'm not trying to be mean--but it is true, unless you are completely responsible for someone else's well-being) to child-centered.
Simply running to the store for groceries will take a lot more planning. You have to go as soon as your child has eaten, so they won't get hungry during the trip, etc.
But, I'm not quite sure aboue why you feel panicked because you found out you are having a girl. Why should it be so different from having a boy? Clearly, at a certain age it will be to a certain extent. Boys are different from girls. But as babies, boys and girls have the same needs.
There is no reason for you to treat your daughter more delicately than you would a boy baby. And I really know nothing of any special code for girls. You should try to teach your daughter the same things you would teach a boy: learning is fun, don't be mean, have respect for life, be goal-oriented, etc.
2007-02-17 16:36:05 · answer #2 · answered by Laura Joy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh you have the same reaction that I did when I found out my 1st child was going to be a girl. A GIRL!!! Oh no I thought this isnt what I expected. I was planning on a boy. A boy would have been easier I thought b/c then his Dad would have to teach him guys things. But a girl, I have to teach a girl how to be a girl. Trust me feeling panicked about being a new mom is very very normal. There is no right and wrong when raising a child. Go with your gut and everything will fall into place
2007-02-17 16:35:27 · answer #3 · answered by CookFrNW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those are natural feelings. I myself had those feelings, and still have them and my daughter is now 15 months old. As a baby there will be no discipline needed in raising her. Enjoy her being little; they do grow up so fast. And if your little girl is anything like mine she is such a girly girl and I did nothing special to get her to be that way. Good luck and remember to trust your instincts.
2007-02-17 16:38:27 · answer #4 · answered by Lil's Mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 2 girls they are now 12 and 14, we have been protective of them and have tried to teach them right from wrong and proper behavior, they are pretty good kids, every child is unique whether a boy or girl. You will do fine, glad you are taking parenting serious, just remember NO ONE was a parent, until they became a PARENT, that means none of us knew what to do, but we survived. Good luck and congrats....
2007-02-17 16:34:33 · answer #5 · answered by whattheheck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a pretty natural feeling if you think about everything at one time. You will do fine. Just take it a day at a time it will be very gradually and just use your common sense in making decisions.
Good luck. My daughter is now 39 and it wasn't that hard. she turned out good.
2007-02-17 16:31:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES its normal. lol have fun. Teach her respect (herself and others), manners, and be open with her!
Good luck
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2007-02-17 16:34:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋