haven't been married before but sick of how much i read and see and listen about marriage routine, dull sex life and "getting used' to one another.
HELPPPPPP MEEEEEEEEE.
2007-02-17 08:25:00 · 12 answers · asked by sara_s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
don't tell me "don't get married.. problem solved" just for the sake of the two extra points.. i love my bf and i want to live with him forever without having to go through all the things i mentioned.
2007-02-17 08:29:03 · update #1
Marriage isn't supposed to be life with rose colored glasses and your perfect mate won't actually be perfect. Everyone has flaws even someone as perfect as I think I am. It comes down to whether you both can deal with the flaws and find them cute instead of annoying. Marriage will only be as interesting as you both decide to make it. It can be the greatest experience you will ever have or the worst mistake. If you truly love each other you will always feel like newlyweds no matter how routine things get.
PS - My wife and I have never considered using the phrase "having sex". When you have a good marriage - it's called "making love". There is a big difference. One way takes a few minutes. The other way can last a couple of hours.
2007-02-17 08:55:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well - I can say I am finally happily married. I knew my husband and was friends for many years before we dated and got married. I couldn't imagine what we would fight about, until we lived together. It took us a few YEARS to learn each other and now we have been married 10 and I am so happy. That being said, I don't know if I could do it again. Sometimes the adjustment period is tough. The routine, dull sex life? That's up to you. Your marriage is what you put into it. Talk to your bf now about all these issues. Try to start on the right foot and keep the friendship throughout your marriage. I can't imagine sharing my life with anyone else. Some people just don't mix. Hopefully you have the right mix and can be happy.
2007-02-17 09:03:17 · answer #2 · answered by lucki female 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two people who are truly in love, never get sick and tired of seeing each other. Sex becomes "making love" and never gets boring. Some people have personal or relationship issues and may have difficulty "Staying In Love" once the honeymoon is over. It helps to do a little research, before taking your Marriage Vows. Find out your partners school and work history, these things tell about their ability to commit. Also check out their financial situation, this tells if they are able to keep their word.
Love is not enough, Love is the foundation that the relationship is built upon, but committment is what makes Love Grow.
Committment is when the husband sits down to watch the Superbowl on the only TV in the house, and the wife comes over and asks to watch her favorite program instead. She snuggles up next to him and they both watch her favorite program. It works both ways. Two people who continually, give, give and outgive the other will build a foundation of Love that can never be broken.
2007-02-17 12:14:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a list of all the questions and concerns that you have about marriage. Then discuss them with him. If his views are not acceptable, do not marry him or negotiate with him. Keep looking.
Many marriages end in divorce because, your hormones take over your brain.
2007-02-17 09:21:18 · answer #4 · answered by kenneth h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look. Marriage is an adjustment. The beginning can be awesome. Of course, you have to realize that when two people get used to living with eachother they get comfortable. Life is what you two make it.
2007-02-17 08:50:48 · answer #5 · answered by noitall 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not marriage: it's living together which dulls the senses.
So just don't do it. Live in separate flats.
Siimple.
And those who find it odd are just a bunch of fools.
2007-02-17 08:34:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a social institute where you mature together routine is the enemy but this can be avoided with communication.. good luck
2007-02-17 08:40:28 · answer #7 · answered by kitycat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't get in a hurry to get married then. Take things slowly and get to know one another.
Presto! Simple huh?
2007-02-17 08:28:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do too....the correct answer is to find someone who don't care if you marry...no one ever said you had to be married to be happy...I am not married and i am very happy....good luck to you
2007-02-17 08:30:27 · answer #9 · answered by futurecreationsusa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get married and find out it may work
2007-02-17 08:50:32 · answer #10 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋