Please give me your best advice, I find it so hard to speak in public or in the class room?

Question

Generally speaking, I am an intellegent student. I do take the courage to raise my hands to volunteer for answering or adding a comment. But in the meantime, if it is a new class, or new audience, my heart starts beating fast, my face blushes, my voice changes and worst of all my hands shaking. I do want to change this and be bold enough to stand and speak out my mind withhout getting stage freak. Please everyone contribute your own personal experiences on how to overcome this. Thank you.

Answer 1

If you've ever been afraid to talk to someone interesting or find that your inability to speak to people is holding you back in life, you've probably wished for a way to beat shyness. Well, you're not alone. Many people have suffered from shyness at some point in their lives, and even movie stars have struggled with chronic shyness. Here are some tips to help you beat shyness right now.

If you have to make a phone call or talk to someone, write down what you want to say. Having a prepared script, which you don't necessarily have to stick to, will help you to feel more confident. You won't be stuck without the words you need and you won't be caught stumbling over your thoughts.

Instead of focusing so much on yourself, turn your attention to others. If you show an interest in what they have to say, you won't be so worried about what you have to say or how you look. And it's flattering to others for you to show genuine interest in them. You might just come away from the conversation with a new friend.

Try humor when you're feeling anxious. If you're stuck at a party or gathering and don't know what to say, make light of the situation and laugh. It helps you relax, and so will the people around you.

Answer 2

I had the same problem but you have to practice and just keep pushing yourself. Focus on a point just above people's heads and look along an imaginary line so it looks like you are looking at the people. Breathe deeply and concentrate. I used to feel physically sick as well. It really is a case of just pushing your boundaries.
I had to practice for ages at giving presentations but it's fine now. It might help looking after or assisting a group of young children too. You have no choice but to speak up then. Hope this helps.

Answer 3

I needed to focus on something that was not human within the room. If I had to speak in front of the class, I would look above the heads of the people to something on the wall behind them.

Answer 4

I give the speech to my bedroom mirror at least fifty times in the week preceding the speech.

(If you have a podium or desk available, try resting your hands on it)

You're not alone. More people fear public speaking than death, so speaking from a statistical standpoint, at a funeral you're better off being in the casket than giving the eulogy.

Answer 5

I think being very well prepared really helps. And like any thing else, the more you do it, the better you will be come. Having stage fright is not uncommon!

Answer 6

Stare at something in the back of the classroom or pretend your sitting at your desk. I usually stare at things in the back but don't look at people. You should stare at people though. Stare at your friend. Just dont look at any other people. Thats what I do

Answer 7

always think that there's nothin bad can happen would be worse than having ur mouse shut when u wanted to talk

people admire dare more than shyness, and only urself can transfer the feeling of ur shyness, or weakness

Answer 8

i have the same thing, but sometimes i'd think to myself, "screw what they think about me, i dont care"..i mean, hey you're you, and they probably want to know what you're like. i find it easier when i read something off a paper, to me, it feels like someone else wrote it and im just reading it off