im feeling down and im very low on confidence, i have been bullied so much its ruined my life, i have almost no social life and i have got to the point where i just cant relax when im out. my love life is non existant which gets me down as well, has anyone got any ideas on what i can do to overcome these things
2007-02-17 08:22:34 · 13 answers · asked by shylfcfan 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It's weird but my life mirrors yours, even down to being an LFC fan. I never found any way to really overcome it. I just had to live with it. I turned to education. I gained a little confidence in the fact that I am doing very well at University. It hasn't been easy but you just have to cope with life the way it is, and find something to do that you really enjoy doing, something that will help you gain confidence. Good luck.
2007-02-17 08:45:34 · answer #1 · answered by mis x 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just simply stop worrying about these things. Build your confidence by going to the gym, doing exercise releases natural endorphins which sends hormone to the brain and makes u feel good naturally. Once u go to the gym u will feel good and not care about anyone else. Have some goals, work a bit a to buy things and make parts of your life easier. Try and have a plan for your career, stick to it ( even if u dont u will learn everytime u fail) break ur plan up into tiny little goals to make it easier. You can also go on holiday, a short one or long one to get some stress out of ur system. You can also try reading, i myself have had a relatively hard life, i read a book called "A Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle, he taught me a unique lesson in life and breaks problems down to the very simple things in everyday life. If u look it uo on amazon u will find everyone gave it 5 stars, Oprah Winfrey endorsed it and he has become a phenomena worldwide although he is the most humble man on the planet through his spiritual teachings, he also holds many talks in many countries and i think he is coming to the UK soon.
Also, there is a guy called Tony Robbins i think, from the states and he has a whole empire of motivational aids. Hope it helps
2007-02-17 08:38:39 · answer #2 · answered by --- SXY --- 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join some social groups that you enjoy . In most cities and towns there are social groups you can join that are interesting with this you are likely to gain confidence when you gain friends these are sometimes in papers or for cities can be online just have a look around. If things get really bad you could go to the doctors and see about some counseling to try and get some of the bad feelings out. Keep busy find something you like, i do a lot of reading i have a friend who does cross stitch these can help to keep your mind off being bored or being down
2007-02-17 08:31:41 · answer #3 · answered by mintycakeyfroggy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to your story a little. i am not as confident as i want to be and i don't have much of a social life outside of going to school. If your looking for help with this just remember you are not alone in how you are. Forget about the past. Just walk up into a club and don't think about what is happening. A good place to gain confidence is at a gym. I lift weights every day and when i first went i thought everyone was looking at me but its not the case at all. Nobody there cares at all about what you are doing.
2007-02-17 11:43:04 · answer #4 · answered by DK-drift king 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may be a little hard at first, but start focusing on others around you. The more you help people around you, the better you'll feel about yourself. Start thinking about ways you can volunteer in your community. Go to your local hospital or rest home or something. Service is always a great way to get invovled and get out of your shell! I promise it will work!
2007-02-17 08:47:26 · answer #5 · answered by ambryll.lish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the doctor or therapy are not the way you wish to proceed, then get out some books on self-confidence from the library. Read them all, you need to absorb all the info that you can get.
I would recommend that you also talk to your doctor, as he or she can diagnosis your problem, and tell you what would be of the most help to you.
2007-02-17 08:35:40 · answer #6 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure how old you are,,,, r u still living at home with parents..?
If not :
Are you still living in the area where you have been bullied?
Maybe think about moving away...
Joining clubs or classes, takeing up hobbies ect,, thats a great way to make new descent friends who well have same interests as you.
2007-02-17 08:33:00 · answer #7 · answered by Sabreen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think you should get a calander and makes plans for EVERY weekend. It could even be sumtin stupid lie taking a walk with a neighbor.
Then i think you should try Speed dating, blind dating Etc. it will be fun and your searching for a frend/date.
When ever im down if i exercise for even a hour i am alot happier. it raises the endorphens!
Do something wild and crazy!
Dont be chicken! Face your fears i love to face my fears because its like a game to me and once ive done it im not scared anymore.
Hope i could help.:)
2007-02-17 08:33:21 · answer #8 · answered by Miss Casey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how old u r. if ur in college or younger then talk to some people in ur classes who seem interesting, like go up to them and ask if u can borow notes from some say when you were "sick." itll be a lie but its a good way to meet people. if ur in college or older join a yoga class. its grat for stress-releif, relaxation and meeting new people. go to the y near u, they have classes thoruhgt the day.
2007-02-17 08:32:50 · answer #9 · answered by Monkey Lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not join an evening class - you can do something you enjoy and meet like minded people. Over time your confidence will increase because you will be socialising and maybe even find yourself someone nice
2007-02-17 08:29:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋