not considering any sircumstances what-so-ever, is it so bad that I've found the person I want to spend the rest of my life with & I'm only 18?? I'm not looking for "well, you shouldn't get married this young, and you should finish college first" ... i know all of this, I'm not completly stupid. I wouldn't even consider marriage untill we both have stable careers, and I'm a bit older. But we love eachother very much, and I cannot picture my future w/o him in it. he is my world.
2007-02-17 07:57:15 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Many people get into relationships when they are too young...they settle for the first person who comes along. In saying that however, I firmly believe there is that perfect person for us all...most people dont find him/her until later in life, but that doesnt mean you dont find your perfect partner at anytime during your life. Maybe this guy is your perfect partner.....only time will tell if he is. Maybe you are one of the lucky ones...you have met your soul mate when you are 18. Sounds like you have a sensible head on your shoulders by not jumping into marriage until you both have stable careers, etc....so whats the harm....you are both following your career paths and are madly in love with each other. Time will tell if he is trully the love of your life....so just enjoy every day you have with him....love is a precious thing to find and if he is the right one then that will become very clear as time moves on. People love at all ages....it is not exclusively the right of older people. I met the love of my life when I was 19. I am 52 now and I still think he was my soul mate...I have been married twice, and have been in love many times, but this man I still think about still believe had we continued with our relationship I would still be happily married to him now. Age means nothing where love is concerned. Emotions are ageless....we all feel them deeply....at 16, and 18 and 60....so dont let anyone put you off...if you love this guy and he loves you then it will fall into place naturally.
I wish you all the best.
2007-02-17 08:10:03 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True Love knows no age. Just make sure you know each other very well before making that kind of commitment. Have you known each other 6 months, a year, two years? People who date don't tend to show who they really are for quite a while. They don't wear signs saying I cheat, I'm a liar, I'll only love you until someone better comes along. These traits can show up after a month or it may take a couple of years and marriage isn't something that you should look at as if I don't like it I can just get a divorce. The courts are already loaded with enough people of all ages that didn't know the love of their life would tear their heart out just because they didn't know them well enough. Tread carefully, if it's your fate it will happen and you're young enough that the time you spend making sure of him will make it that much more special when you do get married. You can still have commitment to each other without a piece of paper and it's easier to escape if things aren't working out. Try asking him first if you both can make a promise to commit to seeing just each other and see if that works for awhile.
2007-02-17 16:17:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forming such solid feelings usually requires a long relationship. The background of both of you has much to do with compatibility as does the goals for the future. Time may change feelings so do not seal the deal just yet. Be sure you look at the long term and especially the compatibly of careers and family plans.
2007-02-17 16:05:41 · answer #3 · answered by mr conservative 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's wonderful that you found the right one. It is great when you have found love and there is nothing wrong with it. I think you can find love at any age and it is as real as you want it to be. Others just judge because they think your supposed to be older or something to experience the real deal. That however is not the truth and doesn't always hold up. So just be glad that you are happy and ignore the ones that make you feel bad for it. Who knows maybe they are just jealous that they don't have what you have. Good luck!
2007-02-17 16:05:28 · answer #4 · answered by poetryprincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can know at 18. I have a friend who said she knew at 15 that she should be with her boyfriend forever. They got married at 24, and just had twins this year. They have been married for four years now.
I think sometimes people may jump the gun on it, but I know that when my fiance and I started dating, it didn't take me long to realize he was the one for me. And for me it wasn't like an epiphany or anything...I just knew it was right. And I had dated plenty of men before, and never felt that feeling.
2007-02-17 16:03:18 · answer #5 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's ok to be in love at 18. but don't confuse being in love right now, with wanting to spend the rest of your life w/ someone. at 18 it's hard to comprehend what "the rest of your life" really means, or 10 years even for that matter. you're young, have fun, be in love and enjoy it. why even waste your time worrying about whether it's for the rest of your life or not.
2007-02-17 16:09:01 · answer #6 · answered by heynow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think you are too young to know. If you still feel the same way later in life and so does he, go for it. Best of Luck to you both. If it is your FIRST relationship though, you may be surprised if you ever get with someone else.
2007-02-17 16:04:48 · answer #7 · answered by Deb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not at all. Some people discover this even younger. If you think its the real deal then go with it and see where that path takes you. Good luck.
2007-02-17 16:02:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you saying your a virgin and in order to have sex you have to be married? Cause you've said that you LOVE him a bunch. What the heck girl go for it.
2007-02-17 16:02:24 · answer #9 · answered by Love Me Tender* 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey if you know that u will be with him forever, and he knows too. Go for it, no need to waste time.
good luck!
2007-02-17 16:00:29 · answer #10 · answered by aricalyn10<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋