18 and want to have a baby?

Question

Well here is how it goes. I am an 18 year old graduate and I have a car and a place of my own. I also have a steady secure job that I am pretty happy with. I am not into the party scene and enjoy peaceful nights at home. My fiance and I want to have a baby. He is also working. We usually bring in about 800 dollars a week combined and plan on getting married this summer. I really want to have a child and I have been facing a lot of moral scrutiny over it. i am just looking for opinions. Do you think it is wrong of me to want a child though I am mentally and financially stable? I just dont see what is so wrong with me wanting a child?

I do NOT want to go to college. College is not for everyone. I am in the career that I want tops out at 22.50 an hour and thats good enough for me to be happy.

But thank you for everyones comments. It is better than what I had expected

1600$ a month LOL 3200$ a month sweet heart math honey math......

oh yea me and my fiance have been together for 4 years. We have had a lot of time together... actually we've done pretty much everything together we feel that were ready to move to the next thing.

oh yeah I keep forgetting things!! We are getting married ina couple months. By the time I have the baby we will probably already have been married a year or more since it takes most couples 6 months to conceive

oh yes to the person who said furniture is expensive.. i already have furniture... LOL I have a place. what do u think i do sit on the floor

Answer 1

i was pregnant at 18 and I'm now 20.IT was the best thing i have ever done.my partner and i are in almost the same situation as you- we have been together 6 years this November and we have always had our own houses and cars and a combined income just a bit more then yours.I got lectures of some people but for those who knew me best (mum,dad,sisters,aunties)they all supported me 100% because they knew i was ready and that's what i truly wanted.I believe you wont regret and it will be the best thing you have ever done-babies are wonderful.I was never into going out when i turned 18 or before that and nothing has changed but if i did decide to go out i have millions of people fighting for who would have Katelyn for the night!!!its not the end of the world.I'm not married,i didn't go to uni/collage to be honest i didn't even finish school but it was my choice to settle down and have a family.I wanted to be a stay at home mother while my bf is happy to work and support his family-this is how we both like it.So go for it if that's want you want young mums are great my fertility specialist said the same thing!!!!! GOOD LUCK i hope every thing works out great.

Answer 2

im also 18, and been married since i was 16, my husband and i have been trying for a baby for a year and a half about, so i say there is nothing wrong with it at all. as long as your in a stable relationship and you can financially support yourselves and the baby without too much stress. There is nothing wrong with you wanting a child, but it is gonna be ALOT of hard work and it is a commitment for the REST of your LIFE, you will always have the responsibility forever, and they certainly are not babies forever. I think if thats what you want hunni, and your partner is also happy with that then go ahead and start making babies :-P i hope you hear the pitter patter of tiny footsteps soon, Good luck, Sarah xxx

Answer 3

it sounds like u and fiance have it together for a couple of young people. if it really is what u want then go for it, but i will tell u, kids are a TON of work and responsibility. 1 thing i would think about; what type of support system do u have? on good terms with moms and dads? the biggest expense is really child care. 1 thing to think about, if u wait a year or 2 u will save some money, have time in on your job, and could maybe take 6 mnths off to be with baby, and if hubby has health plan, u would all be under that. lots to think about. good luck!!! happy baby making!!!

Answer 4

It is not wrong for you to want a child, however your only 18. You may think that you are mentally ready,but who is to say in 2-3 years you will have the same menatality.The person you are at 18 is not going to be the person you are at 21,25,30 or even a year from now. You should at least be married be before you try to concieve.I don't know how long you have known each other, but you need to know each other at least 5yrs and been living together for at least.

Answer 5

I think it's perfectly normal and fine for you to want a baby. but does it really matter what i think? if you and your fiance are ready for a baby then go for it. You bring in enough money to support one, start saving now for college funds and emergencies. I think you'll be fine. Something I plan on doing when I get pregnant is to buy a pack of diapers every week from the time I found out i'm pregnant... and not newborn and 1-3 sizes either b/c that's mostly what you get at showers. well Good Luck and remember it's your life, do what you feel is best!

Answer 6

I speak from experience when I say- if you are really planning to get married, do that FIRST. Once you get pregnant, and moreso after the baby is born, there's slim to no time to get any major wedding plans off the ground. I had my baby girl in October with my fiancee, and before that we were planning to get married this July. Things that we should have done practically last year are getting put off- I only ordered my dress last month and it won't be in until late May. If you're really comitted to being a family, wait for the baby, it will make it all a lot easier to focus on one thing at a time.

Also, I recommend you take a really analytical look at what a baby will do to your stability. Diapers, formula, clothes, they all cost money- and furniture is very expensive, borrow as much secondhand as you can. Figure that your income will be less if you take time off from work to raise it, or if you have to pay for babysitters.

Just things to think about.

Answer 7

It is up to you, but I would seriously wait a good few years, I was a single mum for three years (I am not suggesting you will split up if you have a child but it is a huge strain) and it is a prison sentence. I have just re read that, and I have made it sound really bad, obviously it's the best thing you can do, and the good things out weigh the bad by miles, but you are so young, don't you wanna be free for a bit longer? You could always do it when you are twenty, but if you do do it, it's done forever!

Answer 8

My husband and I got married at age 22. We waited 5 years to have kids. To pass the time, we bought a house and traveled. We also got to know each other as a married couple. I look back on those times as one adventure after another. Now that we have kids, things are a little slower and take planning, but we still do stuff. It was just nice to have those 5 years to us and remember the things we did together. Good luck, it's your life.

Answer 9

You know, if you are ready, no one should be telling you that you aren't. I'm 19 and my husband and i are pretty much in the same situation.. (he is in the marines, so he deploys next month) but we are stable and secure.. and i am 3 months pregnant. If you are okay with it, everyone else will end up there too. Don't discuss it until it happens if you don't want the scrutiny. My dad wasn't okay at first, but now he's ready to be Grandpa :) Do what you think is right, besides.. its your life, no one else can live it for you!

Answer 10

Hello. I don't see nothing wrong with it. But i would wait till i got married and give it a year. Im 18 and pregnant and all that lol but i wish i would of waited a year befor we tried cuz we really dont get a chance to have the newlywed experience cuz i wanted a baby and so did he. Don't get me wrong though Were happy it's just once the baby comes there's allot more to do and all. cuz we were engaged but i wanted to get married first but the baby was a surprise after we got engaged so thats not the reason were getting married. But were happy just make sure its what you want its allot of responsibility. and it will be a while befor i get pregnant again lol i want to spend time with my soon to be husband and our new house. good luck on congrats on getting married