i'm 14. i met this guy at school who is also 14. we are going out. hes the nicest person i know and i have never been mad at him. but this past week all he talks about is sex sex sex. its getting annoying. and he wants me to go to his house next weekend to do it. i said noo. i'm a virgin and so is he. when i said no he didn't get mad he just said we wil have a normal day then and just go to the movies or something. but he still keeps bringing it up. at first hes like don't worry it might hurt the first time and you will get use to it. i was like aw hes trying to help me but i staarted thinking about it more and now i think hes just saying that so i will do it with him. but i know not too and i'm not. but what should i do? should i break up with him or just keep saying "no" until he stops asking?
2007-02-17 07:18:42 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
ok i know not to have sex until i am older! but i was just wondering what i should do? break up with him or just ignore him everytime he asks
2007-02-17 07:24:01 · update #1
Tell him it wont be happening anytime soon and he can stop asking.
I doubt the subject will ever go away, guys think about sex all the time.
Just let him know you arent ready and you want to keep dating, but if hes not ok with that then he should move on.
good luck!
2007-02-17 07:24:08 · answer #1 · answered by independent101 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he truely loves you and respects you he will wait for you and if you love him then you both will wait till you are ready i really don't think that you should what if he were to leave you when it was all said and done or what if he got u pregneat. once you have sex your life will never be the same and to tell you the truth i think it might just make thigs worse cause if you give it to him once then he will heep on asking for it and then you really might get pregneat it really is not about what he wants cause if something were to happen to you he would probally get scared and leave you are to young to be having sex i started having sex when i was 14 and i have regretted it ever since and i am 17 and i still wish that i didn't do it there are so many thing that are out there that you never know what to expect and just because he says that he is a virgin does not mean that he is he might just be saying that to get your where he wants you and that will be your down fall your body is a temple and you should keep it sacred for as long as you can cause once it is gone you can never get it back take it from someone who has a who list of **** that i regret and i can't take it back but you have the chance to chage it before it happens it is your body and it is your descion what ever desicion that you make will affect you and only you i hope i have helped please write me and let me know what you do thank you melanie god bless you for you are still pure
2007-02-17 16:21:48 · answer #2 · answered by melanie15110 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him point blank that you are uncomfortable with the conversations and sexual things he talks about. Do not candy-coat it.. let him know so that he can never say you never told me so. If he keeps pressuring and you feel uncomfy then chances are this is not a situation that you need to be in. Let a lone he could even possibly force his self onto you (not saying he would but u have to look at the bad side too) These are just things guys do.. they make you feel comfortable until you cant take it anymore and you feel he is the right one.. and chances are he probably isnt. Don't do it. This shouldnt be something you guys should be talking about at our age. I have had so many offers and I have learned to say no no matter how much I THINK i like that person. Good Luck Sweety.. And follow your gut feeling (it is usuallr right >3
2007-02-17 18:16:51 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ĴỤiiČ¥♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don;t break up with him. Just make it clear that u are not ready for sex and u like the things the way they are and when u are older and if u are still with him, then u both will know when the time is right and besides, sex can make a relationship very complicated at a young age.
2007-02-19 01:03:53 · answer #4 · answered by spacelee666 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, run-dont walk, to your nearest trusted adult (parent, teacher, police officer, relative) and tell them all this, or have them read it at least. What this boy is doing is sexual harrassment. You are 14 years old. You should be worrying about school and crushes and fun stuff, and not sex. Yes, you may like him, but, this is very bad. I have a friend who is 20 years old now and has 2 children. You know when she got pregnant the first time? 14 YEARS OLD. Even with protection, it can happen. But anyways, an adult can make him stop.
2007-02-17 15:42:08 · answer #5 · answered by collegechickbre 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Break up with him. Tell him he's a jerk bringing up sex all the time and you don't think it will ever turn out to be a good thing if you stay in a situation like that. Then, mentally pat yourself on the back for being strong and smart and walk away from the jerk.
2007-02-20 12:22:54 · answer #6 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to tell him how you feel. A true boyfriend should give his girlfriend some PERSONAL space and he shouldn't be so touchy about sex. You do not want to lose your virginity!!! I repeat: NOT!!!! If you want to get married someday, you might want to have your virginity. Guys appreciate girls that have not been used and it's not right for a guy to go for you like that. In the end if you fall for it, he may have just wanted to like you to use you. If he doesn't listen, time to break up. It's bad enough that he wants sex really bad and you don't want him to get physical on you.
2007-02-17 16:42:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should do what you feel comfortable with I am 17 and just had my first baby I wouldnt change him for anything but if i would have known what it was like i would have waited a little longer to have him I think you should bring that issue up to your boy friend even if he says he will use protection it doesnt always work trust me if it did i wouldnt have my wonderful son but im not telling you to have sex I am just saying u should bring up all the things that could happen and if he still wants to maybe you should end it
2007-02-17 16:06:54 · answer #8 · answered by Alisshia 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah i can tell he is pressuring u, u never know if he telling u truth that he is virgin or not cause most of guy are lie when girl are asked guy if they are virgin or not. but however if he make a sound like want to have a sex with u, then u need to move on cause u are only 14. find someone else that are very respect u and ur body but this guy u are dating with sound like dispresect when u said no. that's not good
2007-02-17 15:23:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, honey, i don't know if he'll ever stop asking. I suggest giving him an ultimatum. Tell him you're not ready and want to wait until you're married. Give him the choice of either leaving it be and staying together and not being sexual, or he can leave you and find someone who will give him what he wants. If he really likes you, he'll stay with you. Otherwise, he's really not worth it. You're too young to be thinking of having sex. So is he. Don't give in to temptation, you'll only regret it later.
2007-02-17 15:25:57 · answer #10 · answered by Libby R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋