What is wrong with me?

Question

I find that most of the time I am stressed out and anxious about nothing. I find it hard to concentrate on studying. I obsess over stupid things like my weight and the fact that I do not have a boyfriend. There was a time when I thought that having friends would make me happy. Now I have the greatest friends, and I'm still not happy - I want more. Sometimes I feel happy, and then I just become sad again, and anxious. I feel like no matter what I do, if I am skinny and have a boyfriend and all that dumb stuff that probably sounds really stupid - then my life will be good. It scares me, because no matter how hard I try I'm not sure if I can be happy. Is there something wrong with me? Or is it normal?

Answer 1

This sounds totally like anxiety and a smidgen of obsessive compulsive. I have both with a sprinkle of panic attacks. So I know what its like obsessing over stupid stuff and it sucks. However there is nothing wrong with setting high goals for yourself. You have to ask yourself what is missing? Aiming high is great but also appreciate what you have. Work on one thing at a time. If loosing weight will make you happy then do it. But remember it will still be you. Not someone else. So love yourself not matter what. Also, maybe you should talk to a doc about starting some meds. They really do help. But also figuring out the root of the problem is very important not just masking it. I know you will be happy and I wish you well. If you need anything feel free to email me as I have lived with this for 3 yrs now.

Answer 2

I am exactly the same way. I basically know the cause for my lack of happiness, though. I'm still getting over a wide variety of abuse from when I was a child, and am only now learning to let go of mistakes I have made and such. I'm not saying that you were beaten or unloved as a kid, but it's very possible that you felt that you didn't quite get the attention or respect you deserved, then or now. You may be, as someone already suggested, clinically depressed, and medication may help you. If you don't want to take drugs right now, try fish oil. You can buy it at wal-mart, it's cheap, and it's full of Omega fatty acids that are good for your heart and can ease some depression. You may need counseling; basically, somebody who won't be bothered by things that you say, so you can let it all out. I'm not "fixed" yet, but I really hope that one of these suggestions can work for you. From what I gather in my counseling sessions, I basically just need to learn to accept myself and the things that have happened to me, accept that they were wrong and they happened, and move on. I think that you may have similar issues that you have to either accept or confront. I hope you can find treatment to help you, and just remember that you are NOT crazy, and it IS normal to feel that way.

Answer 3

you're depressed and, like almost everyone else on the planet you have no idea what you want. you think you want to be skinny and have a boyfriend, but that won't make you happy either. I lost 80 pounds, became what my current girlfriend calls an abercrombie and fitch model, and have had a few girlfriends and hookups since. Those things don't make people happy. I used to think along the same lines a lot, but I found happiness in simply living, and stop worrying about stuff. If it's something you can change, change it, and if it isn't then who cares because you can't do anything about it. It's all chill.

Answer 4

That's just what being a teenager is about, we all have our own insecurities and you can't let it control your life. The way I look at it is you may think everything is going perfect for you or even not so perfect but it's like a cycle. You get your life in order and then all of the sudden one little thing happens and throws it all out of order again, then you spend some time getting everything in order again. It stays in order for however long and then something throws it all off again. Don't focus too much on all the little imperfections or your going to miss the big picture. Everything will sort itself out eventually you just have to have patience and nothings wrong with you... this is just a typical teen problem. Good luck.

Answer 5

There is something wrong with you but do not be alarmed this is very normal. More than half of Americans suffer from this disorder. You are depressed; there are several treatments for this. I suffered from depression for nine years I am 18 now and healed. What you need cannot come from materialistic items, superficiality, or the opposite sex's validation. For me it came from spirituality but if you are not into spirituality you must first love yourself. I know this may sound trite but if you don't love yourself no one else will. I would like to help you...if you can contact me.

Answer 6

If you are still school-aged, this is quite normal. All the changes going on within you play a big role in how you think, and what seems to be important.

That does not mean that you can't speak to a counselor or therapist about what's bothering you--they can be of great help--and you can tell them anything, without fear of it being repeated.

Many people of all ages "want it all," but how many people actually have it all--few, if any.

Answer 7

hey!!! dont listen to another pple, u r totally ok n normal, u just need a cute boyfriend. THATZ ALL. i know. im in the same situation n itz normal if u feel urself desperate, sometimes... do lot of things to forget ur problem, eg. sport n after it go out with ur friends n take it easy... :) it will work. n dont forget to appreciate the small steps which make u happy... :)

Answer 8

You sound just like me. I stress over stuff like that too. I ask God to help me get through my tough times and I have realized that I can't have everything, so I just have to make the best out of what I got. Hang in there!

Answer 9

You need God. He is the one that can fill the emptyness in your life. If you are so upset with your life, remember this-God wants to get down on his knees(and he is) and he is begging you to have a relationship(that cannto die) with him. He will NEVER leave you! He loves you sooooooooo much, that he sent his perferct "holieness" down to earth in the form of a man. This man was perferct, and died a criminals death. The punishment for sin(anything we do that is wrong) is death. Since God is perfect, and we are not, we would be seperated from God forever. He doesn't want that, so his "son" died for us! So that we can be with him for eternity. This man is Jesus. He died for you, and me, and everyone on this earth. God loves you, and wants you to accept him, he loves you for who you are, and you don't have to change for him to love you. All you have to do to accept him and have him in your life, is pray. Ask God to be with you, and for him to forgive you of your sins. Ask him to stay with you, and read your bible. Pretending to do this is not gonna work. God knows everything, and knows if you are going to heaven or hell.

Answer 10

sometimes its normal but other times its not you have to try to make youself happy maybe do something that you no that makes you happy good luck and if it keeps happening maybe ask your mom or your dad maybe they can help like i said good luck