Ok, he and i split at 4 months pregnant. I am now a little over 7 months, and since the split, he has accused me of cheating and has denied this baby to be his son. Before we split, he was excited and thrilled that we were going to have a baby boy.
Understand that this man is an alcoholic, and circumstances surrounding that is the reason we split. He had quit drinking when we got together and was sober for over 6 months. He started drinking again about 2 months before we split this last time. He is a wonderful man when he isnt drinking, and everything i could possibly want in a partner. However, he knows the drinking is something i couldnt tolerate.
So, anyway, when we split i was the one who left and he knows its because of his drinking and circumstances surrounding it. Since that time, we have only talked a few times either by text or messenger and each time, he says hurtful things like denying his baby and that i was a control freak. Its like he is lashing out at me.
2007-02-17 07:03:14 · 6 answers · asked by Truth Teller 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This has gone on for the past four months, denying his baby, accusing me of things, putting me down and everything. Its like he is trying to justify his feelings by trying to convince himself that all of this is true and not take responsibility for his actions.
So i get an offline from him today, telling me that if this child is his son, that he wants him 3 1/2 days a week.
Why after denying the baby, and telling me he is going to be nothing to me or the child, is he now saying this? And how do i respond to his request after being anything but cooperative with me for the past 4 months?
2007-02-17 07:06:50 · update #1
He wants the baby 3 1/2 days a week because that is 50/50 and doesn't want to be responsible for child support...most likely...
If he is indeed the father, he does have a chance to get the child for 50% of the time however since he has a drinking problem that could cause problems obviously.
Good luck!
2007-02-17 07:58:04 · answer #1 · answered by froalskiner 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he drinks like that, the baby doesn't need to be around that, you sound smart enough to know this.
I would just tell him, good if he denies the baby, a child doesn't need to see that side of anyone.
One day you will meet a nice guy and he will raise your
child as if it were his own.
2007-02-17 15:09:59 · answer #2 · answered by twyla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't even mess around with him if he has got a drinking problem...misery loves company....and for the childs welfare Keep him away from the father too....who knows he could take him for a visit and drive with him drunk and have an accident...if he needs visits then i would have them supervided....stay away from the drunk....If his drinks are more important then let him have his way....He is not worth your time....you don't now or ever have to put up with that crap for anything....good to hear you split from him....keep up the good work...good luck to you....and your child....
2007-02-17 15:12:15 · answer #3 · answered by futurecreationsusa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either you allow visitation or you could wind up in court with him suing you. Take your pick.
2007-02-17 15:33:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him take me too court. he most lilely won't, because guys like to make threats when things are not going there way.
deal with it as you see fit.
2007-02-17 15:10:59 · answer #5 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
most likely to get on your nerves and maybee grew up a little.
2007-02-17 15:07:59 · answer #6 · answered by Me777 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋