What are some good comebacks when my boyfriend asks me to sleep with him and i don't want to?

Question

this is what he says:

i really love you

nobody'll care

if you loved me you would do it

what are the odds that you'll actually get pregnant?

and

lets just take our clothes off and be with each other, we don't have to touch or anything




i'm only 15 and we haven't done anything yet, but what can i say when he says the above to let him know that i don't want sex?

Answer 1

Ok, here's what you say



i really love you "then you'll wait"

nobody'll care " ok, lets' ask my dad"

if you loved me you would do it " if you loved me you wouldn't keep pressuring me"

what are the odds that you'll actually get pregnant? "none, if we don't do anything"

and

lets just take our clothes off and be with each other, we don't have to touch or anything: "do i look that stupid to you?"





good luck!!!

Answer 2

Say "Well, you obviously haven't." Remember to stress 'Obviously'. And of course you'll have a boyfriend! Oh, you poor thing. I know as well as anybody else how you feel. I had a boyfriend a while back and he left me for no reason, but that doesn't mean I have to stop fighting for what I want and need. If you like somebody, then by all means, find some way to show them. in time, you'll be the happiest girl in the world. :)

Answer 3

I've never met a truly good friend who tried to convince their partner to do anything they didn't want to do, unless it was a matter of their health, but this is clearly not that!

Here are several articles you can glean reasoning from, perhaps even sharing some of the articles themselves (or, parts of them) with him ...

Good Friends--Bad Friends
> The Need for High Moral Values
> Sizing Up Potential Friends
- The Most Important Things to Have in Common
- Benefiting From Differences in Age
> Improving Your Friendships
> You Can Have True Friends
http://watchtower.org/e/20041208/article_03.htm

You Can Remain Chaste in an Immoral World
> Thinking Ability to Protect you
> Beware of a Smooth Palate
> Too High a Price
- "Drink Water out of Your Own Cistern"
> Need for Self-Control
- "His Own Errors Will Catch the Wicked"
http://watchtower.org/library/w/2000/7/15/article_01.htm

What's Wrong With Premarital Sex?
- What Fornication Includes
- Serious Threats
> Learning Self-Control
http://watchtower.org/library/g/2004/7/22a/article_01.htm

Youths---Let Your Parents Help You Guard Your Heart!
- Why Obey Your Parents?
> Attraction to the Opposite Sex
- The Persuasive Power of Your Peers
- Worthy of Honor
http://watchtower.org/library/w/2004/10/15/article_01.htm

Why Am I Drawn to the Wrong People?
> What Is Behind the Attraction?
- The Role of Family & Other Influences
> The Power of Friendship
http://watchtower.org/e/20050722a/article_01.htm

Teen Pregnancy :
> Mothers Too Soon
- A Global Tragedy
- Facing the Challenges of Teen Motherhood
- Help and Protection for Young Ones
http://watchtower.org/library/g/2004/10/8/article_01.htm

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Answer 4

If your virginity actually means something to you, don't fall for the "I love you" crap. I did. And it ruined our relationship. He ended up cheating on me, and I was with the guy through most of high school. I have graduated and am 21 now. I lost my virginity at 17. I wish I wouldn't have lost it to him. I wish I would have lost it to my husband, a person who I truly love and that is true love not teenage love. Trust me, even if you get on the pill, and he uses a condom, you'll freak out every month if your period is a day late. Its not worth the stress. and a guy that pressures you... well... I could say he's a bad guy but I don't know him and that won't help you any.

Just tell him, "Look, I'm not ready, you know how I feel about you and I shouldn't have to prove how I feel through sex. I will tell you when I'm ready, but until then, lets just take things easy and slow. Because you know I care about you, and you know I want to be with you, just not now because I'm not ready. If you keep pressuring then I'll just pull away further and I don't want that."

Answer 5

I really love you-"if you loved me, you wouldn't pressure me". He might say:i'm not pressuring you, i'm trying to help you" "if you were helping me, it would be a whole hell of a lot more obivous to me, in my opinion." he might say: well, you're stupid if you can't see that i'm tryin to help you. "if i were so stupid, why would i still be refusing to sleep with you. I know the consequences, and i know what kind of a person you really are for pressuring me. A DUMBAZZ!"

Nobody'll care-"Go home, ask you mom and dad, then come home and tell me exactly what they say. I'll go ask me dad, ok? (start to pick up a phone or walk out the door.) "Thats not what i meant" -Well what did you mean? Say what you mean and mean what you say, because the first thing that comes out of your mouth is usually what you really mean.

If you loved me you would do it-"Well, if thats all you think of me, you don't love me, and i most certainly don't love you." But i love you!-"No, you don't. again, i repeat, if you loved me you wouldn't pressure me. "

What are the odds you'll actually get pregnant? -Oh, the only way there aren't any is if we don't have sex. What about STD's? You think it doesn't matter if i get pregnant, don't you, because you can just run away, can't you? "You know i would never leave you" Oh do i? i would just love to find out. Unfortualtely for you and me, you'll never get to. So let me show you! -honestly, with someone like you, i'm not willing to take the chance.

lets just take off our clothes and be together... "Lets not and say we did" (say it seductively, and if you're wearing something even the slightest bit low cut, suddenly pull it up around your neck, and walk out.

And honestly, stick it to him. If it takes shouting, scream at him ntil your lungs get sore, and he closes his ears and begs you to stop: "NO MEANS NO..NO MEANS NO..NO MEANS NO. IT WILL NEVER CHANGE! nO MEANS NO! IF YOU'RE THAT DESPERATE, BEAT YOUR OWN MEAT!

Answer 6

You can say:

I really love you but I want it to be special for us when I decide to have sex with you. Don't you love me enough to wait when i feel it is right?

I don't care about anybody else thinks... I care .. about me and us.

If you love me you will not ask me until it is right for me.

The odds are really high as it only takes once to get pregnant and I will not take the chance as I have to carry the baby for 9 months you don't.

Well it is good enough to see you the way you are... if you love me you will not want to see me naked... anyway.

You are 15, you are very mature woman, you are very intelligent, about sex. You boyfriend is just horney and he wants to have sex for sure. Most likely what will happen is once you have sex with him he will just be satisfied and pay no attention to you after that until he wants sex again. Beware and be strong. Sex is up to you and you only, you are in the drivers seat and you control your life not him. Stick to your guns, every boy and girl that date and are in love goes thru this same old lines. Your future should not be formed by one night of 3 minute sex. It is not really worth it. When you feel it is time for have sex with whom ever, then that is ok, go to the doctor get a check up, get on pill or patch, have him wear a condom, and never have sex with him if he doesn't wear a condom. Congratulations for knowing your mind.

Answer 7

you can tell him the odds of you getting pregnant are very high i am 17 and decided to do it with my boyfriend we used protection and everything now i am have a almost 1 month old son and no daddy so i would watch it and keep telling him no cuz you can get pregnant and your just not ready is a good answer if he cant except that maybe u shouldnt be with him

Answer 8

well make it clear that you dont want to do anything yet tell him your not ready for that commitment yet and the odds are vary big many teenagers get pregnant and if that dont work maybe you dont need to be with him if hes tryin to push you into something your not ready for but if you dont want to leave him come up with someting that works for you like if my parents found out.......or what if i did have a baby neither of us are ready for it and if he still trys to push you into it tell him the most action hes gettin is his right hand

Answer 9

When 2 single people engage in sex, it is called fornication.

Tell him it says in the Bible that we should not commit fornication if we want to go to heaven. Tell him he is nice, but heaven rates more. Give him this Bible verse: 1 Corinthians 6:9--Here it is,

9 Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites,  nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God.
The New King James Version. 1996, c1982 . Thomas Nelson: Nashville

Answer 10

I got preggo (age 23) while on birth control pills, so I advise you don't for these reasons! If you are on the pill, it is NOT fully effective, and if you aren't on the pill, even worse!

So I say to tell him, "If you love ME you will Respect me, and my wishes, because I simply do NOT want to do this at this time."

If he TRULY cares for you, he will respect you. Trust me on this. If he can't respect your wishes, he is after one thing- sex. Don't give in to him! Step up and if you have to break up with him if he won't stop. Stand up for yourself! You seem to be doing fine so far!