2 of my best friends both asked me to go somewhere wit them on spring break. one asked me to go to colorado to go skiing wit her and one asked me to go to oklahoma to stay the week there with her. i cant choose cause i dont wanna choose the wrong person b/c if i choose one the other one will get mad at me for not choosing them. also im turning 14 over spring break so i dont kno who i should spennd my birthday wit. i dont wanna hurt someones feelings by choosing the other one and not them. where should i go.
2007-02-17 06:21:34 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
and the one who wants me to go to colorado. me and her are gonna go on a cruise in the summer. so should i choose oklahoma to be fair like 1 in the summer and one on spring break.
2007-02-17 06:23:49 · update #1
ya i kinda told both i was for sure going wit both of them. it was my mistake now i have to take it back from one i told.
2007-02-17 06:31:11 · update #2
Emawee, just tell 1 of them to take someone like me instead. Even though I am 16. I am also from TX and pretty spoiled, so they would probably never know the difference.
2007-02-17 08:04:36 · answer #1 · answered by Lori 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I think you should pick the one that is NOT going to Colorado since you will be spending time with her over the summer. She should understand this as long as you didn't tell her you were for sure going with her. I've lived in Oklahoma all my life (I'm 20) and it has a reputation for not having anything to do but if you are near Tulsa or OKC then you should be fine. There are plenty of things that girls your age can do for fun in those cities (it's people my age that have trouble finding things LOL). If you pick the Colorado trip then it might be more difficult to explain to the other one why you didn't pick her but she'll get over it, probably. Anyway, the malls are really good here- I've traveled quite a bit so I know. The water parks are fun but they might be closed still on spring break I'm not for sure. And for some reason we LOVE our zoos here! It's kinda weird but people love the Tulsa Zoo more than is healthy so it is really cool and the OKC zoo isn't bad!
2007-02-17 06:28:56 · answer #2 · answered by Amanda 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are turning fourteen then it is time you made Adult and mature decisions for yourself and Not for your friends!
You seem to have a conclusion already and that is one spring
break and the other during the summer. I would advise you to be honest with them both and at the same time as a friendship does require total honesty and must be worked on always to keep it a
healthy friendship and a close one. On the other hand if anyone
should become angry at you for your choices then they are not re
specting your feelings at all and are in a way forcing you by using
their friendship with you to manipulate you into having it their way!
Therefore, if you do not have an answer that would please both and they would be satisfied with then make your own plans and stay nutural as no one should force you to choose but respect your decision as they will never respect your choices if you do not take a mature stand for yourself and it is because you care
about both of them!
2007-02-17 06:55:39 · answer #3 · answered by babbsf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're lucky to get the choice...why let strangers tell you what to do? If they are really your best friends I hope you can talk to them honestly and then choose what would be more fun for you. I know....easy to say from someone not having to deal with this personally right now!!I had a best friend that would go to FL with me when I was a teen, that way I wasn;t bored to tears hanging aroun all my mom;s aunts, uncles, and cousins I didn't know (but now appriciate). Maybe one of your friends NEEDS your company more than the other. Only you (and your parents) can choose! Good luck and have fun!!!
2007-02-17 06:35:09 · answer #4 · answered by mamma-mia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I have been in place of you, previous any doubt i visit opt for lovable and mature one. For arguments sake we would say exterior elegance isn't sustainable, nevertheless it has have been given a much extra magnitude in amorous affairs. on a similar time adulthood is likewise that significant, we can't overlook it. So choose for a mix of it.
2016-10-02 07:27:09 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would choose the one that might never happen again, so I didnt have to wonder how much fun it would have been and kick myself in the butt for not going. The other friend......I would tell them like this :
"You know I love you but cmonnnnnn you wouldnt pass this up if it were you would you?"
If she gets mad, just tell her to put herself in your shoes and that you will call her every day and hug her.
2007-02-17 06:29:56 · answer #6 · answered by C C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go wherever you want to go, you don't need their approval, you shouldn't do what you don't want to do just because you think you are going to make someone mad, it's your summer. Believe me, I did that alot and I regret it. Just be diplomatic. If you still don't want to make them mad, tell them your dilemma and that in order to be fair you should draw- write each place on a piece of paper and draw.
2007-02-17 06:31:43 · answer #7 · answered by strawberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that is a good idea one at one time and then another at the other designated time and that keeps it fair
2007-02-17 06:27:14 · answer #8 · answered by C_Mommy101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go on the funner one - i would go skiing much more fun!!!!
2007-02-17 16:57:35 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Booger♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pretty good ide... explain her what u just explained us
2007-02-17 06:44:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋