Is this failure to launch or just plain ole bad luck?

Question

I'm in my mid twenties, single mom, only child, college graduate, average intelligence, okay looking.
My problem? Couldn't find a job for over a year. After I finally found one last month, the boss fired me a few wks later b/c "I wasn't a good match". Yeah right. Still can't find a new job & my funds are running low. My baby's father pays child support when he wants to and the state won't do anything about it. My friends (if you can even call them that) don't call me & I don't call them.
My father is fed up with me and I'm a disgrace to my mom.
The only things that make me happy are movies, books, and junk food.
I would appreciate compassionate answers. Please I do not have money for a therapist.

Answer 1

well there are temp agencies (which I hated) and you should be lookign at your degree to see what is available in that field (also try monster.com) hell it took me 20 work years to finally get a great job.

Answer 2

Okay, first off in the therapy world you have to move it in the right direction and don't worry about failure... Second you need to put your best foot forward. When you apply for a job no matter the area look your best. Depending on what you like to do find the website that will suit you. There are all kinds of websites for different kinds of skills monster.com is probably the best.

Well, if you are a problem for your parents boy do they suck. Sorry but parents are suppose to help guide their kids and root for them. I know my dad wasn't thrilled with me either but at least he was still in my corner.

I can really relate about your situation but if you feel at the bottom the only way now is to go is up. My ex doesn't pay his child support either and is a royal you know what... Friend out here are none and I've been pretty cautious about new ones... And it is your boss' loss if you gave the job a good try..

Hope this helps and good luck

Answer 3

First off, you need a hug and a deep breath.

Okay, now you say you do not have any money for a therapist, and that it perfectly understandable. There are places you can go to work out your own thoughts that are free of cost - specifically, your religious leader. Go to your priest, pastor, rabbi, or whatever and ask him or her for some time. Consider making a weekly appointment for help from a spiritual viewpoint.

If you are not invovled in a religious community, you should get into one. It will give you the opportunity to meet a leader for the purposes I described above, and to meet new people who can be a more consistent and loving social base and a professional network. Personally, I have all my friends at church sending out my resume to their present and past employers as I search for a career. And most of my friends are from the church.

The key to meeting new people is getting involved, so ask the pastor of your congregation how you can volunteer your time. Not only will this help you meet people with similar interests, it will also give you something to put on your resume (espeically if paid work is hard to come by) and, more importantly, a sense of meaning in you life.

Another added benefit to finding a religious community is what it can offer to your child, who is no doubt your first priority in life. You did not mention how old he is, but there should be offerings for all ages at a church, including Sunday school classes, youth group, summer camps, and daycare. I know that the JCC has similar offerings. Your child will benefit enormously from being raised in a religious tradition, and so will you.

If you were not raised in a tradition, or the one your parents practice doesn't feel right for you, take ten minutes and do the quiz at Beliefnet.org; it sounds a little goofy, but it can help match your beliefs with a larger community. I myself am a practicing Episcopalian, and I rely on my church and church community for a lot. I feel that the Episcopal Church is a wonderful, nurturing place for all people.

You sound a little depressed, especially if you really only find joy in movies and junk food, and therefore you definitely need to find a counsellor. Once you are established in a religious community and working closely with the pastor, you will find life opening up to you. You can even work on how to make better life decisions for your future and that of your child in addition to getting out of this slump.

Finally, I encourage you to use the resources you have already paid for: contact the career development department at your undergraduate institution and make an appointment. They have many resources you may never have known existed.

I wish you mush luck, and I hope this has been helpful.