My son is 7 months and everyone is like its time just over night won't hurt but I'm really unsure. I just moved him out of his crib in our room to his baby bed in his room a month ago. But everyone keeps saying that its time for me and my husband to have a little alone time. What's your imput??? This is my 1st baby and I'm a stay at home momma. So around him all time. The longest me and him has been away from each other is for the day like maybe 5 hours. When he staied with my sister. He has only been alone so far with my sister his godmother and my husband parents. Please Help am I being to overprotective and keeping him too close to me?
2007-02-17 06:18:06 · 18 answers · asked by Sondra 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I never had mine stay overnight anywhere until they were toddlers. They said the same things to me. I had one wise nurse tell me to simply trust my insticts. I have ,and they have never been wrong. They are both older now and there's been no psychological damage. Both are very outgoing, independant, social, and didn't turn into "mamas girls". I can look back and wish I did something different at various stages of their life....but never when they were infants. I wouldn't say it would "hurt" him if you did......but if you're anything like I was......I wasn't relaxed or actually present if I was uncomfortable anyway. Besides.....kids....on their own push you away when they are ready to venture out. I was actually hurt when I did leave my girls out on their own overnight......they didn't miss me a bit! I didn't get the desperate calls to come and get them.....they were having such a great time at Grandmas house they were bummed I came and spoiled their fun! I'd rather deal with my "hurt" than have them think I hurt them.
My oldest let me know she was ready for this change a bit sooner than my youngest.....but if your with them....you "know" when that time is right. There's little indications......but at 7 mos?......trust yourself and your babies response. There's no owners manual so there really is no "right" or "wrong" answer.
2007-02-17 06:41:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He will be fine. I don't think you are being overprotective, you love him very much and I'm sure you feel the way I do about my daughter, no one else can provide for him as well as you can. Do you feel like you need some alone time with your husband? If you do and you have people that you trust that are willing to watch your son you should let them. It's not a bad idea to get him used to being around different people and different ways that people take care of him. I let my in laws watch our daughter when she was a couple of months. We've done this a few times. I didn't sleep somewhere else, we got back to thier house very early in the morning and slept there. I didn't feel right making grandma get up twice during the night becasue I know she is a hard worker, otherwise I probably would have slept at home and picked her up in the morning. My daughter is around lots of family and friends, and both our families take turns watching her once during the week when I'm at school and occasionally on the weekend. She is so adaptable. It really does help them in the long run to get him used to you going out now and then. It teaches him that you do go out but you always come back.
2007-02-17 07:30:05 · answer #2 · answered by jc2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
About me: 1st time mom to a 7 1/2 month old, and essentially stay at home (I work as a nanny, but Katie comes and stays WITH me the whole time).
My baby stayed for a four day weekend with my in-laws when she was 4 1/2 months old, and my husband and I had to go to a military event out of state. I'd visited them with her a BUNCH before that, especially when my husband was at BNCOC (military training), so, I was pretty confident they wouldn't kill her or anything.
She now goes once a month for a 3-4 day weekend (they live 3 1/2 hours away, so, a longer visit is better than a couple short ones). The in-laws can't get enough of her (only grandchild). I thought they'd kill me if it snowed this weekend and I couldn't get her to them; "It's been over a month since we saw our baby!" LOL.
Different people do different things. I'm comfortable with it, but some people might not be. Some BABIES might not be. I know that as a baby, I apparently LOVED staying with my grandma from the time I was a month old, but my sister wouldn't stay over until she was about 6 YEARS old. So far, my Katie hasn't had any trouble when she goes to see Grammy and Papa Jim, so, we'll keep it up as long as we're in driving distance (Grammy is also in bad health, so, we'd like her and Katie to have as much time together as possible).
I don't think you're being overprotective. If he was seven YEARS old, there might be an issue, but, at seven MONTHS, I don't think you're keeping him "too close". If you're not comfortable with it now, wait until you are.
2007-02-17 07:11:52 · answer #3 · answered by katheek77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well... the first time i left my daughter overnight at my parents house she was two months but my hubby and i went on our honeymoon (camping in the same city). So thats a little bit different situation. Thats the only time I've done that though. Otherwise my daughter is almost three and my son is 15 months old. Okay, besides when i went into early labor (hubby was at sea) and actual labor i had to leave my daughter at my friend's. Different circumstances once again lol.
Its all what your comfortable with. I'm around my kids constantly and I have a hard time leaving them all day long. it won't hurt your baby if you leave him with somebody you trust, nor would it hurt you. But if you aren't ready and that trusting quite yet, then i would advise not to. You wouldn't have much fun going out with your husband then because you'd be constantly worried abour your son.
Everybody raises their kids differently. This is definetly one of those where there is no right and wrong answer. Its all up to you and how you feel about it and if you'd actually enjoy yourself if ya went out. Honestly, right now, I'd take that chance if I could! lol. then again my kids are older.
2007-02-17 06:27:37 · answer #4 · answered by Rae M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I did it by 3 months and I am a stay at home mom too, but only with my mother at my house! I trust her 100 percent and noone else!!!!! It did help hubby and I get some time alone!!!!! She was a great person to have around and she still helps me alot with my 7, 6, and 4 year old! It must be a family member you trust, or you will not have fun getting out!
2007-02-17 06:23:26 · answer #5 · answered by whoa,3boys! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only do it if you feel comfortable. I don't think your being over protected because everytime I think about leavig my son I just don't think I could handle it. He's 5 mo old and I'm a SAHM And he's never been left with anybody, (we don't have family that lives close) He's my first too. I think I'm just going to try and ease myself into at first, like only leaving him a few hours or getting a motel in the same area as my parents to be close by, I know it sounds crazy to do that but I say do whatever you feel comfortable with and whatever makes it easy. Sure I would love to get away for a weekend but when it comes down to it, it's hard. I don't blame you. I feel that once we do it, it will more then likely ease our minds in the end because he will probably be just fine.
2007-02-17 06:33:37 · answer #6 · answered by KDB 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you agree that you and your husband need some alone time, and you trust the people who are willing to keep him over night I would say do it!!! Otherwise it's not a big deal.... with my first I was young and I think she started staying over night when she was about 2mths old.. first grandchild and grandmothers wanted to take turns every weekend with her.. but with my other 3 they didn't stay until atleast 2yrs. becaused I nursed them and they needed to have me through the night.... Bottom line if you don't feel comfortable letting him go then don't; peace of mind is better than a night alone....
2007-02-17 07:01:04 · answer #7 · answered by B-E-B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't leave him overnight at 7 months old. I have never heard of that! I left my daughter overnight earlier then any one I know. Ileft her overnight at 1 1/2 to 2 years becuase of my work schedule... sleepovers were sometimes easier then getting her up in the early morning.I would never leave a 7 month old over night. I think who ever is pressuring you needs to back off. You said that you are uncomfortable with that.. so why are they still on you? The resepectful thing to do is when someone says no... to back off.
2007-02-17 06:24:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
PAH! I have only left my child with someone else ONCE and he's 11.5 months. I left him for 3 hours to go to a party where there was bagpipping which is a little loud for a baby. I left him with my grandmother. And I only went because my husband really wanted to, I would rather have stayed with him
Do what is right FOR YOU and your child. Heck my son still breasfeeds so unless someone is paying for a wet nurse he is going to be pretty pissed off. He nurses at least 12 times a day/night.
2007-02-17 06:24:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are being way to overprotective!! I do understand though, its hard not to be. You and your husband need a night away from the baby. It will make you feel better and be able to enjoy your babny more! I left mine for the first time at 6 weeks. My mom watched him.
2007-02-17 06:30:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋