What's the difference between discipline/tough love and neglect/abuse?

Question

should a 15 year old kid have to buy her own food and shampoo, and get yelled/spanked if she leaves her shoes on the floor.

Answer 1

Discipline/tough love is done in the child's best interest. Neglect/abuse is done in the parents own selfish self-interest. A 15 year old should not have to buy her own food, it is the parents responsibility to clothe, feed, and shelter a child to the age of 18. Buying shampoo may fall to the child if she wants a brand that is more expensive than the parents are willing to pay. A 15 year old should not be getting spanked. Yelling about shoes on the floor may be reasonable if the 15 year old knows not to leave them there but continues to do so after being repeatedly told not to.

Answer 2

definetly not grounds to have child protective services come in. some parents are just tough. its more out of love than anything most of the time. I don't know the whole story but the buying own food and shampoo might be from wanting them to learn responsibility, and the yelled/spanked for leaving stuff on the floor, teaching of cleanliness and responsibility. All kids get yelled at for the most part. Spanked at that age, not many but I wouldn't say its abuse unless it was bruising.

Answer 3

That is neglect not tough love. I bought my own shampoo and stuff because i didn;t like the stuff my parents bought, but i never had to buy food at 15, unless i was at the mall with my friends i never got spanked at 15 but i did get asked a lot to pick up my stuff and if i didn't then i got yelled at but i was never hit

Answer 4

It depends, what have you done to have to buy your own stuff.. Chances are your rents are trying to teach you a lesson. Buying your own stuff, i call that tough love.. getting yelled at or spanked for leaving you shes on the floor: discipline. chances are you have probably been told to take em up so many times and you are not listening... no parents in their right mind would spank their kids just for leaving their kids on the floor unless it is a constant thing

Answer 5

You are too old to be spanked. Discipline at your age should be getting grounded or have something taken away for a while.
Your food and personal products are your parents responsibility until you live somewhere else or turn 18.
Discipline is laying the law and sticking to it. Tough love is seeing you get in trouble and letting you take the consequences like a big girl, instead of saying "awww my baby, don't take her to juvy."
Neglect is what you are going through now and neglect IS considered abuse.

Answer 6

in my books, teenagers get as much freedom as they earn. If they act like adults they get treated like on. Food and shampoo is needed to live. yelling and spanking is not teaching them how to act like adults or even to act like humans. Teenagers need examples and people to look up too. If the teenager is not acting responsibily then they should be treated like the age group that they are acting like. As for leaving your shoes on the floor, that happens. That is life. Sometimes things get forgotten

Answer 7

Your parents need to make up their minds as to whether they're going to treat you like an adult or a child. By forcing her to buy her own necessities (and, I'm assuming, have a job to do so), they are forcing adult responsibilities on her that are actually the parents' duty. At the same time, they refuse to treat her like an adult for disciplinary purposes. This is not "tough love." This is lazy parenting.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

no they should not have to buy that stuff for themselfs its a job parents are there for and if you get hit for leaving your shoes in the floor then maybe you need to take this up with your school counseler cause thats not right and thats not a good enviormant to live in

Answer 10

disciple/tough love is done out of love and is is in the best interest of the kid...... abuse/neglect is done out of hate or anger and u dont really care about the kid...... and to answer ur question.... i dont think so.....