how to cope with with a spouce on meth?

Answer 1

I"m not a big fan of divorce, I think it is wrong and the vast majority of the time not necessairy.

I make an exception for Meth heads.

Meth will kill your spouce. While it is killing him it will also destroy everything and I mean EVERYTHING that is near him/her.

Meth heads will do ANYTHING, will say ANYTHING, will sell ANYTHING in order to get more money for meth. It is tragic and it is sad and you don't want to be around for this.

So my advice is you DO NOT cope with a spouce on Meth.

Either your spouce gets clean, NOW and FOREVER or you leave, NOW and FOREVER.

It's hard, it's rough, it's not nice, but it is SELF PROTECTION.

If Meth kills your spouce or not is a decision that, when push comes to shove, is up to your spouce and nobody else. Either they get clean or they die. Simple enough. You can't make that choice for them, sadly enough.

If they don't get clean, it WILL kill them.

If you are still around while that is going on, it will kill you too.

Your only protection is distance. A lot of it.

Good luck and God bless.

Answer 2

The best advice I can give you is this: no expectations.

You can't expect your s/o to quit using... or quit lying... that's automatically setting yourself up for disappointment.

Meth addiction changes people, period. It can take the nicest person you'd ever meet & twist them into someone you'd never want to know at all. The only thing you can do in this situation is take care of you... FIX you.

Seek counseling for yourself. The addict won't go for help until THEY want it. You might not think you need it, but Naranon (or Alanon if there is no Naranon near you) will benefit you greatly.

Here's another site that might help you understand & learn to cope with what's happeneing:

http://www.kci.org

There's a lot of info there, and the message board is a great place to interact with people who can relate to what you're going through.

Best of luck to you!

Answer 3

You don't cope with a spouse on meth. If you care, get them the help, if they refuse, try again. Or you remove yourself from the marriage and let the law handle it. Because eventually they will slip up and get caught. You don't want to be there when it happens. They really do need treatment. Good-luck.

Answer 4

Oh my God. I been there and there is no hope till they want hope. You have to cut off all enabling. You need to do an intervention or leave. Trust me I left mine and in this town almost everyone is on some drug. I refuse to ever go through that again. Was single a long time before I found one I could count on and trust and didn't use. All I can say to you is good luck. This is a very hurt full trying situation you are in. Depends on if you want to ride this storm out with them, it lasts a lifetime. They will always be an addict.

Answer 5

You don't cope with it. He needs to seek counselling asap before he is too far gone. This is something that doesn't just go away, it only gets worse. He also needs to want to get help. If he isn't willing to seek help, unfortunately, you need to leave. there are many groups etc that he can attend ie NA

Answer 6

Look in the phone book and call for some meetings to Nar-Anon meetings for yourself. You can call AA and ask for information where the meetings are held. There is always help if the addict wants help.

Answer 7

WELL COPING NO LEAVING THAT SPOUSE IS THE ONLY ANSWER NOW .UNTIL THAT PERSON WANTS TO CHANGE THERE IS NOTHING YOU CAN DO .I MEAN NOTHING YOU CAN TALK TILL YOUR BLUE BUT IT WONT DO ANY GOOD SO YOUR ONLY RECOURSE IS TO LEAVE ...SORRY AND GOOD LUCK

Answer 8

I agree with T-baby

Answer 9

Dont "cope" with it leave!!!

Answer 10

seek counseling for them and if they don't want it move on