my daughter is 15 and is having sex her 17 year old boyfreind .?

Question

since this is considered statitory rape, can I get a restrainig order against him?

Answer 1

My personal experience ...I'm 23 and when I was 15 I thought I was in love..... (I WASN"T) my mom yelled at me ...she would ground me.. I would sneak out to see him...It lasted for three years that is our relationship. The guy was a complete dick. If my mom wouldn't have said anything , I probably wouldn't have been will him ..cause I was so caught up in proving to her that we would stay together. I hate him to this day. I could have done way better. My mom should have left it alone. But saying all that I'm a mom now. If I ever catch my daughter doing that..... I will put bars on her windows J/K I don't know what I would do. It makes me so nervous to have a girl. They don't come with a Manuel. I wish they did. Dr Phil is pretty good with this kind of stuff. Go to his website. I get alot of advice from him.

Answer 2

I guess I'm just not understanding the problem here. It looks like your 15 year old daughter is having sex with her 17 year old boyfriend.

With nothing else to go on, I suppose my answer would be to make sure to speak with her about protection and being safe.

I don't know where you're from, so I don't know if this is considered statutory rape; everywhere I've ever heard of, one partner must be older than 18 and the other partner must be younger than 18 to qualify as statutory rape.

I have no idea why you want to get a restraining order against the boyfriend, but you'll probably have to present a stronger case than this to a judge before it is granted. The key item that you're missing here is a REASON for a restraining order, and I don't see any.

Is the problem that you don't like her boyfriend? I don't think you'll get the order, and that's an issue you need to take up with your daughter.

Is the problem that you don't think your daughter should be having sex? That's also an issue between you and your daughter, I can't imagine a court getting involved in.

Unless her boyfriend is dangerous (abusive) and poses a threat to her safety, the courts will stay out of it. Unless you have a legitimate reason to protest your daughter's activities, I suggest you stay out of it as well.

Getting yourself more involved than you already are (with or without reason) will do nothing more than push your daughter away from you and closer to him. The bottom line is that you need to talk with your daughter about these issues before you talk with a judge.

It's called being a parent.

Answer 3

Most of you are over-reacting to this mom. First of all, it's doubtful that the boy will do any jail time at all. He'll probably just have to take a class or two or do some community service. Second, his record will probably be expunged when he turns 18 so he won't have to live the rest of his life as a registered sex-offender. Relax people. I work with real sex offenders who barely get a slap on the wrist. Not saying that the mom is not overreacting, too, but geez -- cussing her out and further threatening her is absurd. And the boy's dad IS overstepping by threatening the mom. The dad could face charges for what he has threatened to do. But mom, the best thing YOU can do is to educate your child on sexual safety and boundaries. Further, she's too young to be dating anyone-- much less a 17 year old. You yourself need to get some education on appropriate dating so you can help her set those boundaries. And for pete's sake, get her tested a.s.a.p. for STDs.

Answer 4

ok shame on you... You are the parent take control of the situation tell him to stay away from your daughter. Like everyone has said it is not rape intill he is 18. But u can place a restraining order against him at any time. But that probably won't hepl the situation have a talk with him and ur daughter where you tell them they can no longer date and start keeping a MUCH closer eye on your daughter and keep her as far away from him as possible.

Answer 5

What is the point of a restraining order? Have you tried talking to your daughter? If it is considered statutory rape in your jurisdiction then you could file charges...that may be what would happen if you tried to get a restraining order. I would contact the local law enforcement agency in your area and find out what you should do...your local laws will affect the way you want to approach things.

Answer 6

Where did you get that it's statuatory rape- he's a minor, too. Try actually talking to your daughter about it, maybe if you had done that before, you wouldn't be considering involving the police. And if you did already talk to her about it, maybe she's responsible enough to be making the right decision. Why do you just feel like you have to stop it?

Answer 7

You had better stop her from having "it" with him or else your daughter will spend the rest of her life with a fatherless baby to care for. You need to stop the boyfriend too. He is not a true boyfriend anyway. If he was, he wouldn't be doing this to her. Think about what's best for your daughter. You want her to have a free and happy life as an adult, not staying stuck at home with an unwanted baby.

Answer 8

I'm assuming you live in a state where the age of consent is over 16. I think you should do everything you can to keep him away from your daughter. Press charges against him and get a restraining order if they'll let you.

Answer 9

Instead of labeling this boy as a sex offender for a long time and ruining his life and hurting his parents.. why dont you try practicing being a good mom and watch where your daughter is going and who she is going with... Im a mom too, and i think what you are planning is lazy and just horrible of you to do. What if that was your son?

Answer 10

mama jea you could but if your daughter is willing to have sex with him and she tells you that she really has feeling for this guy and she is not doing it forcefully by him then they may grant you that restraining order but look at this way by you doing that your daughter is going to rebel if she really has feelings for this guy and to tell the truth she will still see him on the downlow with out you knowing and still have contact with him if thefeelings are serious and what you should ddo is give her advice instead beacause mosy likely she will still have sexual relationship with him no matter what so the most you can do is tell her that she should use protection and ask her about the relatioship between her and her man and let her go out with him because by you trying to seperate them she isgoin to rebel against you and your going to suffer so just try to give her advise and let her see the guy but give coditions and talk to her as a friend than a parent because thats whata mother should be a bestfriend to their kids and support her for everthing be her bestfriend and gain her trust put yourself in her shoes...