I think there's nothing worse than an overprivileged teenager. (I'm 14) What do you think?

Question

I know I probably spelled that wrong. But anyway.

I know a kid who gets absolutely everything she wants. Her parents will buy her bellydancing outfits for thousands of dollars, as well as anything else she wants. She also gets $50 a week for anything else. Her parents never say no, they take her to all these expensive places, expensive trips, shower her with money.

Now, my family isn't poor, but we watch our money. We rarely eat out, movies are two or three times a year, we get all our clothes from Old Navy and Payless (it's a shoe store) and just in general we don't spend.

Yet I think I'm happier. Sure, my parents don't buy me stuff (although I get a hefty allowance for a lot of work), but I've also been in a stable relationship for two years, I'm responsible with money, and I know what to do with myself.

Spoiling your kid, especially as a teenager, is only going to screw him up.

This was kind of pointless, but I'd like to see responses.

If you're wondering, I get $20 a week for keeping the kitchen spotless -harder than it sounds-, keeping the dining room clean -also harder than it seems, since we live in an apartment and all our stuff goes on the table-, scrubbing down the bathroom once a week and making dinner on weekends. Out of that I pay for stuff I want, like books, music, video games, school supplies, food bought away from home, basically everything.

Sure, it sucks sometimes and can be embarrassing when all my friends want to go to a movie and I can't because the ticket is too expensive, but in the end I think I've got a better work ethic and more appreciation for the value of a dollar.

Answer 1

Wow, you are very mature for your age. I think your parents are making a MUCH BETTER decision raising you this way, then the way of your friend. She won't appreciate ANYTHING, unlike you. You understand it's important to work for your money. Good job sweetie! Continue the good work, you sound like a great girl!

Answer 2

Well that is great that you know how to handle your money. You will do very well when you go off to college or go to live on your own. Saving money is very important. Just like that kid you were talking about, I was also born with a silver spoon in my mouth. (meaning I got almost everything I wanted). In a way it is a good thing, my parents sent me to finishing school, let me travel around with them, I was able to experience things that other people would not be able to experience until adulthood. BUT when I first went out on my own, I did not know how to save money. I bought everything and anything I wanted, I picked the most expensive apartment, I would go out all the time, and my parents were getting tired of helping me. So to make a long story short, I have FINALLY learned how to live on my own, save my money, learn how to have a budge, and so on. What I am saying is that you are very responsible for your age, and you are very lucky to realize that saving is important. Good for you and you will go far.

Answer 3

You sound like every parents dream come true. Are your parents loving, are you close? Sounds like you are.
My man has a 15 year old daughter that is living with here mom and she only calls her dad when she want something. Today it was $125 for a trip to the hair salon to color her hair. She never calls to say how are you, When can I can I come visit or anything loving or anything to show she cares or want to work for the money. Daddy just a bank. I don't know what she does at her mom's house for chores. As for you - Keep up the good work!!

Answer 4

You're happier because you have more confidence. You are independent, have good life skills, and your parents probably trust you. You have learned the value of "things," and you understand that there is more to life than money. You have wonderful parents if they have the money to spoil you, but don't. It doesn't sound like you are mistreated, but you are learning early that life is much more than being given things.

Most parents don't do that, whether or not they have money. By the way, I am a single parent, with less money, however, I have, like your parents, taught my daughter how to respect others, to save and budget, how to cook and clean, and to understand the value of a good education. Through our hard work together, we were able to obtain a scholarship for her to study abroad for 6 months -- for free! It was a wonderful experience that mostly "rich" kids get, however, she had to earn this experience. But it was wonderful.

You are being raised to be a responsible, caring adult with good values. I understand your feelings toward spoiled kids because my daughter feels the same way -- she can't understand how parents can do that to their kids -- it short changes them.

Good luck to you, and your parents!

Answer 5

not to sound horrible but why does it bother you? I mean its awesome you are doing well, but what does this girl have to do with you? If her parents have the money, shoot, I'd figure why not let them share it with their kid as long as their kid is happy and will do fine on their own there's nothing wrong with being priviledged like that.

Poor people (not saying you are its just a saying) want to be rich, but how many rich people want to be poor? not many if any.

As a parent... if I had that kind of money, yes, I'd spoil my kid but not let them be brats and make sure education and what not was their first priority, and I'd make them get a job also during high school, well at least when they hit 17.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

It's not the amount of money whether rich or poor it's whether the child or youth has loving attention from the parents. Someone who cares about others will teach that to the child/youth and the child/youth will be the same way.

Even the fact that you know how to do housework showed that a parent took the time to show you how to do it.

Answer 8

I agree with you 100% I also was brought up the same as you and I'm 31 now. I admire you as I'm sure your parents do also. You have a big heart and a very mature mind.

Answer 9

yes! absolutely, i agree with you 110%. i know this girl who can get anything she wants from her dad and can do anything without getting in trouble. she is one of the most obnoxious people i know, is very immature, and has little to no consideration for other people's opinions or feelings. i know she's gonna have a really screwed up life one day but it doesn't stop me from wanting to scream and bang my head on a wall every time i'm around her. you, on the other hand, seem very wise and mature for your age =).

Answer 10

Well, I feel that neglect and abuse are certainly worse for a child than spoiling. But yes, never telling a child no does not prepare them up for the realities they will face in the "real world."