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everyone at my school says he is gay, but he is not, it is making him very depressed, and he is starting to cut himself. His sister is also one of my friends, but she doesnt know about it yet. He is not faking it either, he has numerous cuts in one area on his arm, and complains about it hurting constantly What should i do? i think that if hes cutting himself, that later he might try to commit suicide. I am very worried. Please help me He is making me deppressed

2007-02-17 05:50:40 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

CPR you are sick! in a time when my friend needs help the most, you go and blow it off and dont take it seriously. I am looking for serious answers.

2007-02-17 07:28:54 · update #1

13 answers

You say that his sister is your friend too, you would know what she would do if she found out. If it would be best you should tell her in order to help you friend. Cutting is a serious problem, but normally doesn't leed to suicide. You need to tell earther his parents or his sister, or if you think that it would be best you could help him. Just never stop being his friend, it would just hirt him more. Always be there for him. If you have any more questions that you would like answered then you can contact me.
Good luck. You will know what is best to for your friend.

2007-02-17 15:24:14 · answer #1 · answered by Adrie 1 · 0 0

I think you should:

(A) Talk to your friend about his issue. Let him know how it is affecting not only him but you as well, and that you want him to get help.
(B) Talk to his sister. Let her know that you want her support as you tell their parents what has been going on.
(C) Talk to his parents WITH his sister, so the parents will see that this is serious and they can make quick decisions as to what they should do.
Don't worry about if your friend gets mad at you for telling his parents. He'll get over the anger eventually. But if you don't tell someone soon, he may not be around too much longer. Your friend might be chemically imbalanced which can cause depression-it could be a number of things that are making him cut himself. But this is a serious situation, and something has to be done soon. Good luck and I hope your friend makes a smooth recovery.

2007-02-17 09:27:38 · answer #2 · answered by True Hija De Oshun! 2 · 0 0

You are in a very tough spot. I don't think he is suicidal but he is definitely depressed. Cutting is a way of releasing pain and stress and it eventually becomes a habit. Not a habit that he'll just do it when he feels like it but it will become his primary method of stress relief. It's an addiction and he definitely needs help. If you are friends with him and his sister, I assume that he has a good relationship with his family. If you don't feel comfortable talking to them or his sister, talk with a trusted teacher or guidance counselor. Your friend is in a lot of emotional pain and deep down, I'm sure he wants help. Don't yell at him and attack him for what he's doing. Be supportive and let him know what it's doing to you. Hopefully, you can have him on the road to recovery before he accidentally goes too far. When you are cutting, you don't feel the initial physical pain and therefore do not realize how deep you are cutting...That's what stopped me. I could have bleed to death but luckily one of my friends came over and found me. It took over forty stitches to close me up and the doctors are NOT empathetic whatsoever. Please talk to someone. You are welcome to email me or have your friend email me. It took me almost ten years to get control of my cutting. It's awful and I don't want it to take your friend that long to feel better. Good luck.

2007-02-17 06:03:13 · answer #3 · answered by Summer 5 · 0 0

Try to convince your friend to seek professional help...he is falling into the deep black-hole of depression and once he's too deep, he'll feel like he is trapped and can't escape....he might not know exactly what it will take to get out of it....and it's prob more than just people calling him 'gay'....a person who is secure and has self-esteem could shake that off easily....he is suffering with deeper issues....don't give up on him....keep telling him that life is worth living and hurting himself is also hurting those around him that love him.....

2007-02-17 06:34:52 · answer #4 · answered by Virgo 4 · 0 0

At this point, you must tell someone. I would hope that you would tell his parents. They need to know, they would want to know, and they can get him the help that he needs. You shouldn't have to carry this burden alone, and don't worry about your friend being mad at you. He probably will be for awhile, but his life is in danger, and you have the power to help him by telling his parents. Sorry you have to go through this.

2007-02-17 05:58:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

If you care about him, you need to tell adults about it; especially, his parents. He needs professional help.

Tell him that you care for him and that in life - you go through all things, but you must remember who you are and that's what counts. You cannot let other people play with your emotion. You cannot control other people's opinion. What other people say don't alter your character - you know who you are and what you stand for.

God bless!

2007-02-17 06:36:52 · answer #6 · answered by childofGod 4 · 0 0

I have two friends at my skool who cut themsevles. I told them to quit becuase it can get infected and that can cuase bigger problems for them. That made one of them stop. But the other firend still does that so I told an adult and that made her quit so the best thing to do is to tell an adult unless u r an adult.

2007-02-17 06:00:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

This is serious. You may feel like a rat but you need to contact someone who can help him. Counselor...parent..youth pastor. this is too much for you to handle alone and if you love him get him help right now. good luck.

2007-02-17 05:54:09 · answer #8 · answered by rob k 2 · 0 0

u have to tell an adult or family member right away. it sounds pretty serious and if he has too many cuts he might die. i suggest that u go and tell his sister first since ur friends and everything.

2007-02-17 05:55:38 · answer #9 · answered by birdy 4 · 0 0

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2016-09-29 05:58:53 · answer #10 · answered by fryback 4 · 0 0

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