Ok, we have already decided that we are getting divorced, so that's no longer in question. Here's the situation.... We have 2 young children together, and husband provides all the income while I go to school and care for our children. (youngest is not in school yet) So the problem is this... My lawyer says that I will probably get some spousal support, and of course child support when all is said and done, but in the meantime she reccomends that we cont. to live together until the divorce is final, due to the fact that I do not have any income of my own right now. I don't really want to do this because husband will not make living together very easy or peaceful right now because he does not want the divorce. Has anyone ever been in a similar situation? Is there any way to get around this, or any resources that anyone knows of to help get me off and living on my own while the divorce is pending, or am I stuck living here with him for the next 6 months or so?
2007-02-17 05:44:02 · 7 answers · asked by DW 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well if you cant live with him, do you have friends or family?
2007-02-17 05:48:09 · answer #1 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear k r,
Get a job, you sound as though as you are helpless so I'm going to help you; If you can't get welfare by living on your own while going through with the divorce then you need to work. A husband that does everything to take care of his family and gets nothing in return but a woman who doesn't know what she wants can't help himself and he holds onto what he has because you're kicking him to the curb. Yes you will prevail and he will never be on top again. People like you are very selfish and only think of themselves believe me I know! You don't appreciate anything you just want, you take care of the kid's that's correct that's both of your responsibility. A word to the wise, You would be better suited for marriage counseling as to divorce as you're kid's will suffer in the long run (you may not think so). Been there done that!
2007-02-17 14:18:46 · answer #2 · answered by beamer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know here in Canada you can get welfare until the money kicks it that he will be paying you..
If you can stick it out then do so but of course if things get really bad like you think they are going to (and usually do) then leave..
Many people including myself go through phase were you know the divorce is coming and that's final but you try to make things work for the kids.. And in the long run it usually hurts the kids more because they hear the fighting (even when you think they don't) and they can sense something is not right.. I would call welfare and see if they can help you.. No one wants to do this but sometimes we have no choice!! Good Luck
2007-02-17 13:51:50 · answer #3 · answered by BLONDE BEAUTY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too was in this situation. It was a bit different as my children are teenagers. I knew for years that it would come to getting a divorce but I tried to hold on for my children. When I filed, he refused to move out. I was able to file for a temporary relief hearing so that the judge could decide who should leave. If you are the one that must leave he will have to provide for you and your children. If you are allowed to stay the court will also make provisions for you and your children. Have faith but demand that the court come up with a solution better than making you live together for 6 more months. It will become unbearable and unhealthy for the children. I finally got relief from the court after 3 months. My children and I remain in our home. You have the support of many just keep the faith.
2007-02-17 19:27:46 · answer #4 · answered by ameritoy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to enlighten you Sweet, but two young children translates into you will be living with this guy for a long time, regardless if its as husband and wife or in the same house. Life is too short for you to be concerned for the well being of your kids, your are much too special to let that get in your way. You go girl!!
2007-02-17 13:58:43 · answer #5 · answered by The Central Scrutinizer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
leave and get on welfare they can help you to get a job i went on it when my kids were little because i had no income either
2007-02-17 13:54:59 · answer #6 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i would wait until i finish school if you leave now with no income you could end up messing up your education
2007-02-17 13:48:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋