I've known my girlfriend for a while now, and I'm going to Iraq for a whole year in a month. I want to eventually ask her to marry me after I get back, but I don't know how long I should wait. Suggestion please!
2007-02-17 05:18:00 · 11 answers · asked by Joel V 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm going to assume that if you love this girl enough to be thinking of marriage you do not think that she will cheat on you during your deployment, or any other time. I know that Marines think about that, because I am married to one. Besides, if she (or you)were going to cheat, a ring really wouldn't prevent it. The two of you either have the necessary trust to endure deployments or you don't. I'm sure she has considered what you will, or will not, do while out in the desert for a year as well. There's a lot that goes with being a Marine Corps spouse, and if she still wants to marry you knowing what it means, then give her credit for that. No one can tell you when you should ask her - you have to do what feels right. The only advice I have is this - if she's the right girl then timing doesn't matter. I say, why wait?
2007-02-17 06:14:14 · answer #1 · answered by tagosb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are ready...we can't answer that question for you. I would wait until a few months after you get back from Iraq though if you want my opinion.
My husband is currently in Iraq...has been for almost 5 months and he has told me stories about men that come back from Iraq and their wives have left them. So please be careful about who you choose to marry. Make sure that you trust her completely.
I am so grateful that my husband trusts me 100%. I would never do anything to hurt him or betray him no matter if he is at war or here at home.
You should have a gut feeling telling you whether she is the one or not. Go with that feeling.
2007-02-17 05:24:45 · answer #2 · answered by His Angel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think a Promise Ring would be a good idea. Before you go tell her that you want to marry her someday and you hope that she will wait for you. Ask her to wear the ring as a symbol of what is to come in the future. Then when you get back, you can see how things go, and when the time is right, you can propose. A promise ring is not as serious as an engagement ring, but it will let her know what your intentions are, and you might be able to get a better idea of when the right time to propose might be based on her reaction!
2007-02-17 05:23:55 · answer #3 · answered by yentruoc311 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
In all fairness you are making her wait. can you trust her to wait the year without the engagement? I mean by leaving the promise that gives her hope but also the connection keeps her trapped.
i say discuss it with her first. It may be too hard for her to handle and with you gone that can lead to cheating.
If you have to ask this question it may be because there is a trust problem.
good luck
2007-02-17 05:25:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You can ask her now, that will keep her busy planning a wedding,
( you don't have to marry her, soon as you return) give the two of you sometime to get use to each other again, you both will need some adjusting time.
2007-02-17 05:29:07 · answer #5 · answered by 520 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe you 2 should get married like 2 months after you return. That way it gives her this time that your away to start planning. So that way when you get back it gives you a little time to readjust. Take care and God Bless you. Ill pray for you while your in Iraq
SEMPER FI DUDE
2007-02-17 05:27:17 · answer #6 · answered by Tbrat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
jointly as the militia usually trys to maintain couples on an identical accountability station in the event that they are married and of the two enlisted/enlisted or officer/officer rank, the two one in each of those branch's would be stressful positioned to maintain you 2 jointly considering the fact that there are very, very few Air stress human beings on a Marine/military base and same is going for a Air stress base. in case you do do it, sturdy success, that is gonna be interesting to declare the lease. sturdy success to you the two.
2016-11-23 15:07:57 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you return you should ask her.
time bring you closer or further,
most women cheat after you go on long tours.
wait and see if she is still interested after your return.
look at the married soldiers, they get divorsed when hubby returns from war.
soldier- us army
2007-02-17 05:23:33 · answer #8 · answered by vulu 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ASK HER NOW AND WHEN YOU GET BACK YOU CAN PLAN THE WEDDING
2007-02-17 05:21:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask her now!!!!! the young these days says grandpa
2007-02-17 05:22:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋