attention to me when he wants sex.
What would you do if you were in my situation?
2007-02-17 05:17:26 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stop paying attention to HIM!! From your other questions I've been reading, your husband sounds like a real jerk, sorry, but that's what I'm getting. And I'm also getting the feeling you're wondering what is normal in a relationship. Porn is an addiction, it's not a normal household husband/wife thing. Some couples may view it as foreplay and not very often at that, but they don't abuse it as your husband obviously does. If you're not comfortable with what he's wanting you to do, don't do it. If you have the means to live on your own, separate, show him you're serious about not having porn brought in your home. Tell him you need someone that is caring, nurturing, someone to love you, someone you can count on, someone to be your partner not only in sex but in life. There is help out there for addictions, just like AA for alcoholics, there is a group for porn addiction. Talk to him about it, if he's not open to listen, then I suggest you get your things in order and contact an attorney. Good luck to you hun, and take care of yourself.
2007-02-17 05:37:20 · answer #1 · answered by ksgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No question. Seek counseling - both of you. There is a problem that needs fixing NOW. One only divorces when they have exhausted all possibilities of making the marriage work. Then and only then can they walk away knowing they gave it their best shot. Otherwise, you are in for a long long hard battle. Get the help you need now. If may be that divorce is the answer, but that is something you need help in finding out.
2007-02-24 19:00:21 · answer #2 · answered by charliehc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex psycho tried to kill me....Good enough reason for a divorce?????
If I were in your situation, I would try to tell him how this makes you feel, an hopefully he will understand,.If he belittles your feelings, I would leave the pervert and Find a Real Man who knows how to push my buttons and doesn;'t need porn to show him how!
( got one too and the lovin up is great!)
Men do not understand that ponography takes away a womans
self esteem and we feel like they are not Makeing love to us, they are pretending to be having sex with the actress he was just watching....This does not get us in the mood in fact, we withdraw... does not make for an intense session.If a Man wants really good lovin up, focus the sexual attraction on you r halfside.God Forbid a man has to get it up over a flick just to get off on his halfside!that is wong on sooooo many levels!
2007-02-23 11:50:31 · answer #3 · answered by iwild 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband lead a triple life. He was married to me, seeing other people (both men and women). He was also a big liar stating that I was insane and swore he loved me. He was a thief stealing my things and giving them away to this person or persons. He went around telling people he was "divorced" so I made his wishes come true. He also felt that he was God's gift to the world. My husband started with pornography, phone sex chat lines and ended with acting out his fantasies with other people. I hope you will be all right and just be very careful....
2007-02-23 21:22:48 · answer #4 · answered by beaddiva 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it is obvious that he probably has an addiction to porn and the fact that he still wants to have s!x with you is an indication that the addiction is not severe. Talk to him about your needs and wants. To me personally that is not a valid reason for divorce. Now if he was physically cheating or abusing you or the kids then that's a whole different matter.
2007-02-17 13:28:38 · answer #5 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was married for 10 years and I got a divorce because my husband quit me! I think we out grew each other! He one day woke up and decided he was better than most people. He turned into a pompus ***!! Im better off now ! At least I am not surrounded by his arrogance any more!
2007-02-23 01:52:41 · answer #6 · answered by MEESH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a relationship not worth staying in.
2007-02-23 06:14:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get him counseling and get rid of the porn. It is a very scarey situation and difficult to handle. You'll only ruin urself if u continue. he needs help.
2007-02-25 02:57:58 · answer #8 · answered by chiquita39 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce him, and find someone who appreciates you. ASAP!
2007-02-24 18:00:56 · answer #9 · answered by snowbird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that he see a specialist.
2007-02-24 17:29:57 · answer #10 · answered by Patricia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋