where i grew up and my restraints growing up have left me to feel like i am stuck to a certain social status and will never be able to achieve the level of success that i would like. the place i want to be just isnt here and i have to some extent irresponsible in my actions and thoughts thinking that i will confined to this sort of life for the rest of my life. i am only 20 years old but am already starting to feel like where and how i grew up is where i will be stuck to my whole life. am i being realsitic or am i holding myself back from reaching my full potential? how do i change my life around? i know you say look the other way but for now i am stuck here. what are the first steps in me leaving this hell-hole and living the lifestyle i want to live achieving the success i want to achieve.
2007-02-17 05:15:17 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
i feel like everyone around me is successful and im not. what is everyone else doing right that i am doing wrong.
2007-02-17 05:17:00 · update #1
i am currently a student at columbia university. i am a english major. but still i feel like no matter which direction i go in my life i am confined to the life my parents lived.
2007-02-17 05:21:30 · update #2
Hey buddy, I go to Princeton majoring in sociology so I can understand your feeling of inadequacy in the midst of such talented people like yourself...when i was in high school, i was usually one of the above-average students so i always felt like i was on top of the 'food chain' per se. but now, i am surrounded by folks who has the same level of motivation and desire to work hard as myself, if not greater. in situations where you feel like you're just a little fish in a big pond, it's easy to get swallowed up in believing that you are not worthy or talented enough to navigate your own dreams. First of all, recognize that you are attending one of the top universities in the NATION and you have access to more resources than the average joe walking around in the city...believe it. now, if you are unsure of future plans, talk to a career peer adviser or local career services branch to offer more opportunities for summer internships which may help you to narrow down your interests. In terms of social status, I personally come from a middle class background...nothing was ever handed to me but I did grow up in a supportive environment where education was stressed tremendously (another ivie in upstate ny...) I know that status anxiety is a major issue facing many folks including college students so please don't feel that because you may have grown up in a less privileged or more privileged background, that this factor will solely determine your life status...your education alone will aid you in this quest...if you want to be a writer, submit articles to local papers then work your way up to the NY times and the like...if you want to be a lawyer, visit the LSAT webpage, and other law school sites to see what school may fit your qualifications...if you want to be a firefighter, visit one of the local stations and ask them about their experience and the risks involved in the field...truly, you can BE whatever you want to be. But, realize this, your profession is not always indicative of your true desires and passions, unless you align them to be that way...be proactive and investigate your interests in your spare time..as my mom used to say as quoted from a famous person, "baby, your future shines so bright, it burns my eyes." ...so keep on burning! :)
2007-02-17 05:32:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok man, I felt like you did when I was 18. Feel like your stuck in the same place and going to settle for what life gives you? I grew up in a small farming community and I wanted out. I joined the ARMY, I experienced so much. I have seen things, that people only see on TV. You will find out who you really are, you think you know yourself? Are you willing to challenge yourself physically and mentally? But the military isnt for everybody, let me tell you that first. I have friends from all over the country and I have no regrets, pay no rent, eat for free, no electricty or water bills and money for college hmmmmmm, sounds good dont it? People will say go to church, there is nothing wrong with that, but some of the biggest hypocrites are those who wait for your tides and offerings, don't listen to a guy behind a podeum who doesnt have the same experiences as you and telling everyone what is right and what is wrong, he does not have the same experiences and beliefs as you, dont let them brain wash you. Food for thought: You make the bed you sleep in! PS: I am not a recruiter.
2007-02-17 05:29:02 · answer #2 · answered by dirtyneedlez 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off. Always realize that you could be worse off. Some people don't even get a chance to go to college. You have to discover who you are. You can't live anyone else's life. You can't live for money or prestige, it's all empty. I've felt like you before. Success is a funny word. This may be hard to take or understand, but truly finding meaning in this life is only found in knowing God. Otherwise you'll always be on a chase to fill yourself up, whether with money/sex/drugs/stuff, anything else. you'll always feel empty, it's a calling to know him. Without God you are not an individual with your own calling but you're subject to other peoples opinion. Read this, it will help you out.
2007-02-17 05:36:33 · answer #3 · answered by yaabro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a 28 year old 2nd year college student with 4 years ahead of me, first of all, let me say that you are NEVER stuck. I was born in a town of 5,000 people, got in trouble (a lot), got addicted to drugs and drinking, yada yada... I found a girl that started my turnaround. God played a HUGE part as well. Honestly, I think that you have to want to make something of yourself, believe that you can do it, and then, most importantly, DO IT!. I hate to say this, but it sounds like you are still in the "Why does my life suck" stage...to get anywhere, you have to get out of that first. It doesn't matter WHY life sucks. Just recognize that you aren't happy with your situation, and then change it. I know....How do I change it? This is a giant cliche, but the first step is the hardest. does your dreams involve a career that requires a college education? If so, sign up for classes (and actually go to the classes). you have it in you to do whatever you want. You just have to decide to do it.
2007-02-17 05:23:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lokk i feel the same way. i am in a point in my life where i feel like regardless what i do i'm alsways gonna be in the whole. i'm always gonna be stuck in this stupid town and im gonna end up like everyone else...broke.. but then i realized how lucky i am..two years ago i was getting into alot of trouble and was so close to staying back. and here i am. i got accepted into one of the top high schools in florida and when i come in. i feel so stupid, everybody is richer, and smarter than me..here i am with a gpa of a 2.6 and these kids have a 6.0. i felt that even if i go to college regardless i am gonna be stuck in life.but then i realized i gotta stop thinking like that. i worked my *** off to get here and here i am so close to quitting. You have to think positviely. Insetad of being envyous of people that got a better life than you be happy for them and pretend thats happinig to you.Be happy for yourself.Instead of think what you don't want and what you hate think about what you do want. write down what you want in life.keep that and keep it to your attention.know that its comming. and step forward and DO IT. don't say your gonna try. you either do it or don't do it. trying is failing wiht honor. Just think positively.
Believe in yourself
Be brave...but it's ok to be afraid sometimes
Study hard
Give lots of kisses
Laugh often
Don't be overly concerned with your weight, it's just a number
Always try to see the glass half full
Meet new people, even if they look different to you
Remain calm, even when it seems hopeless
Take lots of naps..
Be weird whenever you have the chance
Love your friends, no matter who they are
Don't waste food
RELAX
Take an occasional risk
Try to have a little fun each day.
...it's important
Work together as a team
Share a joke with friends
Fall in love with someone..
...and say "I love you" often
Express yourself creatively
Be conscious of your appearance
Always be up for surprises
Love someone with all of your heart
Share with friends
Watch your step
It will get better
There is always someone who loves you more than you know
Exercise to keep fit
Live up to your name
Seize the Moment
Hold on to good friends; they are few and far between
Indulge in the things you truly love
Cherish every Sunday
At the end of the day... PRAY
....... and close your eyes
And smile at least once a day!
2007-02-17 06:14:15 · answer #5 · answered by The REBELution! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't already done so believe that Jesus Christ paid the penalty for your sins on the cross and go to a church that actually teaches what is in the Bible. These churches are hard to find these days, but at one time they were very prevalent. All the answers in your life are found in this type of teaching. For starters you can go to the website and order the free mp3's until you can find one of these churches. You will be surprised what you will learn!
2007-02-17 05:25:03 · answer #6 · answered by Lamont Cranston 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you and God know the specifics of your situation. Faith and Prayer will provide you with the strength that you need. Galatians 6:1-10 (1) My friends, if someone is caught in any kind of wrongdoing, those of you who are spiritual should set him right; but you must do it in a gentle way. And keep an eye on yourselves, so that you will not be tempted, too. (2) Help carry one another's burdens, and in this way you will obey the law of Christ. (3) If you think you are something when you really are nothing, you are only deceiving yourself. (4) You should each judge your own conduct. If it is good, then you can be proud of what you yourself have done, without having to compare it with what someone else has done. (5) For each of you have to carry your own load. (6) If you are being taught the Christian message, you should share all the good things you have with your teacher. (7) Do not deceive yourselves; no one makes a fool of God. You will reap exactly what you plant. (8) If you plant in the field of your natural desires, from it you will gather the harvest of death; if you plant in the field of the Spirit, from the Spirit you will gather the harvest of eternal life. (9) So let us not become tired of doing good; for if we do not give up, the time will come when we will reap the harvest. (10) So then, as often as we have the chance, we should do good to everyone, and especially to those who belong to our family in the faith. If you ask for help in Jesus' name you will receive it. Luke 12:22-32 (22) Then Jesus said to the disciples, "And so I tell you not to worry about the food you need to stay alive or about the clothes you need for your body. (23) Life is much more important than food, and the body much more important than clothes. (24) Look at the crows: they don't plant seeds or gather a harvest; they don't have storage rooms or barns; God feeds them! You are worth so much more than birds! (25) Can any of you live a bit longer by worrying about it? (26) If you can't manage even such a small thing, why worry about the other things? (27) Look how the wild flowers grow: they don't work or make clothes for themselves. But I tell you that not even King Solomon with all his wealth had clothes as beautiful as one of these flowers. (28) It is God who clothes the wild grass---grass that is here today and gone tomorrow, burned up in the oven. Won't he be all the more sure to clothe you? What little faith you have! (29) "So don't be all upset, always concerned about what you will eat and drink. (30) (For the pagans of this world are always concerned about all these things.) Your Father knows that you need these things. (31) Instead, be concerned with his Kingdom, and he will provide you with these things. (32) "Do not be afraid, little flock, for your Father is pleased to give you the Kingdom. Have faith and don't be afraid to ask God for his Help.
2016-05-23 22:57:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try going to college maybe. Even if it's only part-time.
2007-02-17 05:19:56 · answer #8 · answered by spasmolytic25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋