I feel like I am at a crossroads in my life and if I choose one path, I might find happiness but it is so scary, I can't even imagine taking the leap of faith? I could continue to live this boring little life alone with no children and no husband (I'm 35, btw) and not risk anything. It's not so bad is it? I read somewhere that there are hollow people in the world that made a bad choice somewhere and then just never recovered from it. Do you know anyone like this? What did they do?
2007-02-17 05:07:21 · 7 answers · asked by SelfGrill 3 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
I read a quote before that may answer your question...
"People have a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar." Thich Nhat Hanh, Buddhist monk and poet.
I have found this to be very true. Even when people are not happy in their present situation they often continue because they know what to expect. They know how to deal with it, even if it makes them miserable, so they continue. Change is often scary and sometimes difficult, it requires you to step outside of your comfort zone. If you never take a chance though things will not change...yes, there is a chance it could be equally unhappy but you already have that so there is no real loss there. There is much greater chance though that you will find something that will bring joy into your life.
The way you recover from bad choices is you have to decide that you are worth the effort to keep going. You have to make a conscious decision to move forward...and if you don't know which direction right this moment then just move away from the bad point you are in. Sometimes if you stay too close to the situation you cannot see your way out...so distance can be good. Start small and build up your confidence and determination. Every journey starts with one step.
If you need help to get the courage to make the leap, write a list of what you are unhappy about in your present point in life. Make a list of things you can do to change them (including the small steps for when the big ones are too scary). Make a list of the rewards you could get from taking the leap and moving forward and make a list of the things you will miss out on staying where you are (yes, it is a one sided list, but the point is to have pros of moving on and cons of staying put). Refer to your lists when you are scared and find a friend or group you can rely on for a nudge or pep-talk when you need it.
You CAN move forward and find happiness. Know that you are worth it, be good to yourself and you will find your way.
2007-02-17 05:31:27 · answer #1 · answered by Starshine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal that humans are afraid of changes basically because people as human beings like things to be "as usual" and only the rare ones want some (huge) changes in their lives.
But if you don't take a risk you never win anything!!!!!!!
So my advice to you is-go out there, do something for yourself, it doesn't necessarily means getting a husband and kids I just mean do something for yourself, change your life a little bit, don(t be just stuck in one place, you will see how invigorating a change is.
It will give you new power to live. Promise!!!
2007-02-17 05:14:28 · answer #2 · answered by Jellyfish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 12:45:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the exact same problem (I also read your reach for the stars answer and relate to it). For me, I think it's because if I don't try there is no chance I can fail, and I can always imagine that had a tried I would have succeeded. If you want to talk about, email me.
2007-02-17 05:14:21 · answer #4 · answered by Marilyn Green 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why move forward, why not rest awhile,gather some strength become strong,then move slowly,little steps not leaps.Rest once in awhile take stock what is around you,then when you are ready again move .
2007-02-17 05:15:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How poor you are... I guess you always think about bad thing and no brave to go forwards, so from now starting to make great decision to change your life and also praying...may God bless you
2007-02-17 05:32:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it girl. Find a man that'll love you, you'll find happiness. Here's hoping for you kid!
2007-02-17 05:48:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋