He has been working out, reading more spending time with our two girls. I am a stay at home mom and he does his own laundry and the linen. The problem is he works everyday, he is a fireman and works rotating shift. When he isn't working or spending time with the girls he is fixing up the house. I Have a hard time thinking about why he does all this and brings me flowers and tells me he loves me. But I am not feeling the same way lately, he seems to run the house so well and does the shopping cooking cleaning. I feel like they don't need me. He suggest I go out for walks or just out by myself because he works so much that he knows I need a break from raising two kids.
What should I do?
2007-02-17 05:04:52 · 15 answers · asked by mjS 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Kiss your husband and go out and have some fun! He is a good man. He loves his family and he wants to make you feel like a queen.
If I had a man like yours...I would flipping be in heaven. Enjoy him. Take a class. Do something special for him!!! Just love the man.
2007-02-17 05:09:36 · answer #1 · answered by Thera 9 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What should u do? U should be grateful that u have a husband that do these things for u without u having to ask he too. U have to know that there are so many women out there who wants her hubby or man to do half the things ur husband is doing for u.
Why can't u see it like that? why can't u be grateful that u have a man who WORKS! cooks, clean to the shopping and spend time with the kids? Many relatinsips and marriage have gone south because the mate doesn't do the things u mention. He sounds to me like he wants u and he too stay together and be a family. So for that I say u should work hard at trying to do the same if u love him or care anything about the family.
2007-02-17 05:14:38 · answer #2 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, suicide attempts are often a cry for help and emotional blackmail is something that can be considered abuse in and of itself. However, as a person who has struggled with anxiety and depression for my entire life, it all depends on perspective. I am a college educated, single mother, living in a foreign country with my young child. My daughter's father is a deadbeat (still living in his home country) and the man I thought was trustworthy abandoned me when I asked for help after recently feeling suicidal. I believe a big factor here is the fact the English is not a native tongue for him. It can be very difficult to adjust to a new culture, compound that fact with him being jobless and depression is bound to set in. Of course, I did not kill myself, but the urge was there and there was a point were that was the only option I believed to be viable. Earlier that day, I called a friend and asked to talk because I knew how down I was feeling and I reached out for help. This friend assured me they would come over but instead blew me off to go to the gym. I am a very strong and independent individual, I always have been and I always will be, but even the strong fall. I drink occasionally (i.e. on holidays, special occasions) so that was never a factor. But, just to let everyone know just because someone sees suicide as an option, it does not automatically make them a emotional manipulator. ALL factors must be considered.
2016-05-23 22:56:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think this is anything to worry about. It sounds like he is just growing up, sometimes it takes men longer then it does women...
Sounds like he is realizing what life is all about, and appreciating you and the children.
Sounds like maybe he has felt you have had your hands full, and he wants to show you his appreciation, by helping out, and spending time with the kids, He wants you to have some alone time, because he knows you need it.
Just enjoy this, it may not last forever, could just be a phase he is going through.
If he is still being good to you, and showing you love, just respond to him with love.
If it really bothers you, let him know you want to stil do the cooking and cleaning..etc. Let him know, how you feel.
Keep the lines of communication open, for that is the key to a happy marriage.
I wish you the best..
2007-02-17 05:27:36 · answer #4 · answered by ~Annette~ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would not think of why the heck he is nice to you...he loves you and from his actions he loves you a lot. You should kiss him and go for a walk, it will give you fresh look on things. He appreciates what you do and that is very very hard to find. They run things at home very smooth to tell you they appreciate you not because they don't need you.
I think once you go out and start thinking outside the box, you will find ways to SHOW him how much you love him...not just tell him.
2007-02-17 05:14:20 · answer #5 · answered by Ariana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all most woman would die for a man like that.Try talking to him about the way you feel,if you feel that he's taking on everything and it leaves you with nothing to do,then maybe you should get a hobby or something. But I don't know to many woman that would complain about a man doing the things he does.You should consider yourself one of the lucky ones, and just except who he is,maybe he likes doing those things,it's not that he doesn't appreciate you he brings you flowers.The time to worry is when he stops doing those things, in the mean time enjoy it.
2007-02-17 05:20:20 · answer #6 · answered by glorene b 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
So your interest is flagging because you feel he doesn't "need" you? So you're feeling inadequate? And the he's made himself available while you are becoming emotionally distant? I guess he needs to worry a bit more about his own needs and interests because you don't see him as a challenge, and you need somebody less attentive or who messes up more.
Funny because there are a whole lot of other questions from women who do nothing but complain about the opposite problems. Damned if you do, damned if you don't.
2007-02-17 05:28:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love him deeply and find other things to do for yourself to keep you busy. When you have too much time on your hands the walls will close in on you and your mind thinking will get you in trouble.
Broaden your search and reach out to other females that are at home to visit one another, play cards, have tea, keep your mind busy at all times.
2007-02-17 05:16:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound lazy to me! He does laundry, cooks, works on the house, brings you flowers. And all you do is baby sit. I would trade you in for someone that would get off her duff and do something! Keep complaining and maybe he will do something!
2007-02-17 05:17:34 · answer #9 · answered by bigh5586 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just be thankful..isn't at home and playing online video games...leaving you to everything... Embrace the freedom...raising children is hard work...And if you stil have unsettled thoughts...take him up on these "breaks" and observe his patterns...
2007-02-17 05:18:13 · answer #10 · answered by qsbookie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋