How do I get over my low self esteem?

Question

.I was real shy in hs...now im in college(been attending for a few years)..and so I'm just starting to get the hang of it..as far how to socialize with girls..I go to a junior college and its totally a different atmosphere compared toa university...ppl usually just go there to take classes, meet there friends...(I just can't wait to go to a university ) i asked my sister and wow was she a jerk about it...i asked how long and how do i know when to ask a girl to hang out...she said..idk one month...girls just show it if they like the guy...she was just getting frustated and said IDk!...now it just makes me feel like even my own sister doesn't even think I have a shot cause she dont feel comfortable talking about it...and not only dat..she always be talkin about how tall my bro is and askin how about his life w/girls makes me fe.(is that really true?..ugh..is it that obvious..and when i meant ask out i mean as FRIENDs not neccesarily a physical attraction as a potential bf or w.e

Answer 1

Well, first of all, girls (or women) are not generally attracted to guys with low self esteem. We are almost always inclined to go for the bad boys. So, my suggestion would be to first, change your attitude a little bit. You need to be bolder, a little more straightforward to get a girls attention. Even if you are lacking on self-esteem, you CANNOT show it. Be abrasive, bust a move. If you are lacking in the looks department, maybe you can improve your wardrobe or shave, try a new cologne...If they still look the other direction, you might be screwed. You're never going to know unless you GO FOR IT. Stop being so shy-no woman likes that!!!

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Answer 2

particular that's actual.people who have low self-worth all have it from diverse motives in there existence.One would experience unattractive,because of the fact of facial advantageous components or physique aspects,and so on.on occasion while human beings unconsciously attraction to abusive human beings its,because of the fact they have witnessed abuse of their lifetime so even nevertheless its incorrect and it hurts its what they are used to. that is no longer an uncomplicated ingredient to handle.so a techniques as your self-worth do no longer difficulty approximately what human beings look as though or what style tendencies are in. Do what looks sturdy on you. Ex. coiffure,makeup,outfits,and so on.save telling your self you look sturdy and with your super character that no possible precise you.at last others will see that your advantageous and have not have been given any decision yet to admire and renowned you.then you definately will consciously make the main appropriate judgements approximately who you date considering the fact which you will care adequate approximately your self.

Answer 3

You worry too much. Just go and do things and stop seeking for approval. If you like someone, ask her out. If she say yes - that's great; if she says no, so what? You cannot go in life ponder what if - take that first step. It will be easier each time. Hug and smile.

Remember
As a man thinks in his heart so is he [Proverb 23:7]

Answer 4

Read books, listen to tapes about self esteen. People see you how you see yourself. Write a list of all the good qualities and stick it infront of your mirror. I have attractive eyes, Im a giving person etc and repeat this exercise everyday.Program yourself, sending your mind and body postive thoughts. Exercise, drink lots of water, eat healthy, and avoid people who bring you down.