He thinks it's weird now... he doesn't realize that he's not going to hurt baby and me and I can't convince him otherwise still.
2007-02-17 04:38:17 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I suggest that you speak with your OBGYN together to discuss the risks and benefits. I couldn't imagine going through pregnancy without having sex- my libido was through the roof! Fat pregnant sex is the best sex ever!
If your husband still has issues after you speak with the OBGYN I suggest you speak with a marriage counselor. A lot of times men have a difficult time seperating the mother from the woman when they look at their wives. This can lead to SERIOUS marital issues if he cannot overcome his fears. Best to get it nipped in the bud immediately.
2007-02-17 04:45:17 · answer #1 · answered by iampatsajak 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is normal for some guys. They are actually scared of hurting the baby or thinking that the baby will know they have had sex. The baby cannot feel him at all!! Try to talk to your husband and explain things. Good luck
2007-02-17 04:54:16 · answer #2 · answered by KAYLA S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first of all it sound's like this is your first baby. Congratulation's! Next if there aren't any problem's with the pregnancy then you can still have sex with no problem. Even the doctor will tell you that . Maybe he needs to hear it from them. But i was with my husband the day i went in to have our child. It's all how you see it. But he has nothing to worry about. He's not going to hit it or anything. And that's the biggest fear with most men.
2007-02-17 04:46:32 · answer #3 · answered by suzzy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have him talk 2 your doctor on your next visit that should ease his mind if that doesnt work then have him talk 2 different doctors and read books like the book i recomend 2 everyone is WHAT TO EXPECT WHEN YOUR EXPECTING. That will help both of u on multiple questions throughout your pregnancy.
Im 36 weeks and when we found out i was pregnant my boyfriend felt the same way. All guys worry about it but most if not all figure out its ok.
2007-02-17 04:48:56 · answer #4 · answered by caspergirl144 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think this is normal. Try being sexy! Set the stage (romance him you start the foreplay etc.) and get him excited. Once a man is all hot and bothered it is pretty hard to say no.
If this is a first child, he is as new to this as you. Help him understand you and your body. Read the book What to Expect When You are Expecting together. Show him you are still a women with needs.
2007-02-17 05:10:05 · answer #5 · answered by Oh me oh my...♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend was scared at first, it is normal with men. He will get over it and everything will go back to normal. With mine he wants it more than I do right now, I am just too big and uncomfortable. If he is particularly stubborn on this have him talk to your doctor for reassurance or to a friend of his whose also had a baby.
2007-02-17 04:49:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have him go to the doctor with you and if he won't bring it up, then bring it up to the doctor yourself. 9 months of pregnancy, plus 6 weeks after the birth is a LONG time to go without sex!
2007-02-17 04:44:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
at least its him and not you. i dont want to have sex and it is causing a lot of problems in our relationship. my best suggestion, coming from the other side of this, would be to just talk to him and see exactly what it is that bothers him. and then explain all of the reasons why the things he is worried about are nothing to worry about. and then dont bother him about it. if i wasnt asked about it so much, there is a possibility that i would want it more. i hope that helps!
2007-02-17 04:50:21 · answer #8 · answered by ashley s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him to your next doctors visit. Let him ask as many questions as it takes to put him at ease. Also, remind him that you'll be getting bigger, and at times you won't be able to stand the sight of him, let alone his touch. And lets not forget that once the baby is born you will be more concerned about naps than nookie.
2007-02-17 04:55:53 · answer #9 · answered by nenehazeljordy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
show him through websites (babycenter.com, americanbaby.com, etc) that it's safe, and take him to your next ob appointment and ask the doctor while he's there if it's safe and what the risks may be to the baby. it may take him a little while but he'll come around eventually. he's just worried about your safety as well as your baby's.
2007-02-17 04:53:41 · answer #10 · answered by Pixie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋