Whenever I have an argument with someone, anyone, I always feel like I have to be the understanding one and nobody every bothers to understand how I feel about the situation. How do I change that? How do I get people to acknowledge my feelings about something?
2007-02-17 04:20:15 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Stand up for yourself! There's nothing wrong with being understanding, as long as you don't forget to express yourself at the same time.
Try phrasing your opinion like this "I understand how you feel. (rephrase what they said). But I believe that (what you think) because (why, and how it may counter what they said)." It shows that you have listened, understood, and respected where they came from. You have also stated your opinion, supported it, and (if you're trying to win a debate) shown how it contradicts or undercuts theirs.
If they keep arguing, just remember, you can't convince everyone. One of the best ways for people to respect and acknowledge your feelings is if you can respect that they may not agree with you. At some point, be ready to say "I appreciate that we can discuss this maturely, but it's obvious we won't agree. Our individual life experiences have given us different viewpoints and we should just respect that and move on."
If in the future they begin a behaviour that offends you, just remind them that you've discussed how you feel about this and that you would prefer that they respect your feelings the way you have respected theirs. Your good behaviour towards their personal beliefs will make them want to respect yours. :) Always work towards compromise, not a one sided solution.
2007-02-17 04:31:09 · answer #1 · answered by Charade 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The loudest person in the arguement is always wrong. They are trying to get their point across by drowning you out. Generally when this did happen to me- I would simply say in a normal tone of voice. "Whenever you want to discuss this in a calm manner let me know," and then leave. The room, the house, the town, whatever it takes, you will achieve acknowledgment by being calm. Good grief what kind of people do you know? I choose to live a peaceful calm existence, if that means I have to give in I will.
2007-02-17 04:27:39 · answer #2 · answered by dtwladyhawk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feminists will tell you that you've been conditioned to adopt a certain social persona in which you perform the behavior that you're describing, but the truth is that you should just be more assertive and stick to your guns more often. If you don't want to go somewhere, then say no and mean no.
2007-02-17 04:28:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 05:54:12 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not about who's feelings are being acknowledged. Whats important is whats true and right. Feelings are not important.
2007-02-17 04:53:55 · answer #5 · answered by Mike D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It probably will never happen, people are too self centered and closed minded to consider someone else's point.
Don't spend so much time arguing THEIR point. Just state yours and stop there.
2007-02-17 04:32:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to be polite, but firm about your thoughts. Tell them what you think, and if they just ignore you, tell them they better listen because not just their thoughts are important, but so are yours. Hopefully, they will listen, but if not, I would suggest that you walk away and wait for them to actually take in interest in your feelings.
2007-02-17 04:30:10 · answer #7 · answered by Kate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should have more courage in yourself... you have to believe in your own ideas and don't let them go so easy.. be strong ! life it's not easy but you have to be able to tell your opinions no matter they are good or wrong! so... more courage !
2007-02-17 04:27:26 · answer #8 · answered by nobody100 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋