his son is 12 and last yr they did go on a vacation together .(i could not go because my kids were in school)he had a health scare and did not wnat to travel alone. so the ex went. he knew i was not happy and said he would not go on another vacation with her. lately he and his son hint around how they want to go with her. I feel for his son wanting to go with both parents. and that my bf feels time with his son is precious since his bypass 3 yrs ago but I also know that she regrets the divorce and wants to go. and i think he wants to take her for his own ego . to show her what she is missing. he was very very good to her. i have to say we did go on our first vacation together (the three of us) was great . now working on vaca with all of us (my 2 kids) we also go on plenty of vacations withuot our kids. what to do?
2007-02-17 04:12:11 · 14 answers · asked by m2m 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If this is happening while you are dating imagine what will happen when you two are married.
2007-02-17 04:27:16 · answer #1 · answered by Celeste P 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is doing exactly what he ought to do. You are a mere girlfriend. His ex was not. If "I do" means anything, it does not mean "until we get tired of each other and find someone new," especially when there are children involved. Just because they got a divorce does not mean they do not still have a moral commitment to each other. There are so many families that break up where the kids end up in a tug of war between the two parents. If they can do things as a family and have a civil relationship, that is commendable and ought to be encouraged. Like it or not, you simply are not part of that family. You can't expect to write on a clean slate with a man who was married.
2007-02-17 09:32:11 · answer #2 · answered by curiousme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I think it's fine, your friends are most likely just looking out for you, but I wouldn't listen to them. I think it's admirable you have that trust in your boyfriend, to me it seems a completely innocent gesture merely on behalf of his child. If his son wants him to no one could really tell him not to do it.
2016-05-23 22:47:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if hes in a serious relationship with you and involved with your kids, and your involved with his, its probably safer if he doesn't take a family trip with his ex, it could definitely rekindle things. its irresponsible of him to get involved with your kids and you his if he is at all interested in getting back with his wife. if he insists on going on a vacation with her i would end the relationship. now a day trip to spend time with both his parents would be ok, but not for more than the day.
2007-02-17 04:22:48 · answer #4 · answered by frostytink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids add a unique complication, but generally keep us guys away from those we've had sex with in the past ... It's easy to slip back into that trap.
2007-02-17 04:44:35 · answer #5 · answered by Scott 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to be so blunt- it all comes down to if you trust your bf or not. If you trust him, let him go. Talk to him about what your feeling though- let him know you are concerned. Ask him how he would feel if you were going with an ex on vacation.... maybe he'll relize how you are feeling.
2007-02-17 04:20:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is OK. The best thing for everyone involved is that he and his ex get back together. You may not agree, but thats the truth.
2007-02-17 04:32:11 · answer #7 · answered by The Central Scrutinizer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he should be going with just his son or if the ex wants to go then u should be there too. he is in a new realtionship with you and has no right going with his ex wife. i dont care if they are doing it for the kid or not. its disrespecting you.
2007-02-17 04:17:33 · answer #8 · answered by thepainter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i dont think its right for you guy to be going any where with her alone its not cool at all , you better watch it they might be fooling around
2007-02-17 04:18:27 · answer #9 · answered by DIAMOND 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are u completely NUTS to even ask this question..
ofcourse its wrong! tell him to wait until you can ALL go.
by ALL i dont mean his EX!!!!
2007-02-17 04:32:58 · answer #10 · answered by lisa baby... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋