I love my husband, but seems like everytime he is home, he doesn't communicate with me and that is the same when we go out someplace, he always talks to his friends and I feel ignored. Everytime I bring this up, it just ends up in a huge fight and he ignores me even more and doesn't talk about it. Is there anything I can do to try and over come this?
2007-02-17 04:07:02 · 12 answers · asked by sept_chic2001 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
do what my wife does to me, she either traps me in the bathroom when i am taking a crap...yes, she walks right in, and sits in front of me..........we have a relationshiop you would laugh your head off at....or she will say, hey lets go to the mall, or the lake or some place she knows i like......she drives, and then just starts talking...i can't really jump from a car that is doing 70 down the interstate, and yes we have had our fights, but we have also made up......and when you and hubby have quit fighting in the car, find a motel and rent it for the day, or night or ever how long you two want to.........and yes, we have done that too.........aint nothing like a fight that ends with the sheets flapping...if ya need more advice, write me and i shall tell ya more of our exploits in the wonderful world of travel
2007-02-17 04:56:32 · answer #1 · answered by phishsports 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is a two-way street. Talk about something he cares about sometime, and he may return the favor... assuming you aren't boring--smile. That's another thing, it helps if you are interesting.
I hear this complaint a lot from both men and women, and usually the person complaining has no great passion, isn't really all that dynamic, and I almost fall asleep when I am in the room with them listening to them complain all the time about how nobody listens to them.
I'm not saying that's you. But a lot of people will throw up their hands and say "we can't communicate" when all they do is complain and blame others for not listening to them complain or talk about the same things over and over and over.
Just think about it, because there's nothing that'll make you want to buy two guns and put one in your mouth and the other to your head (so you don't miss) than trying to actively listen to somebody who has little to say that does not involve whining and complaining (ever notice the high rate of suicide among psychologists?).
Tuning somebody like that out is a self-defense mechanism (you don't have to hate them or commit suicide because you aren't listening).
2007-02-17 12:14:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn off the TV and the puter. Put on some nice music Light some scented candles put on something sexy or something he likes to see you in, pour some chilled Austi Spumante put out some hor de'vores And tell him about your dreams or things you'd like to do and go from there. If he doesn't respond to that he's a butt and needs a wake up call. Good Luck
2007-02-17 12:49:29 · answer #3 · answered by blastabuelliac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you with this guy? How can you love someone who doesn't acknowledge your existence. No communication means no marriage. Tell him he must change (he probably won't) or you'll leave. My advice-no more fights-go out without him-find friends to hang out with-invite them to your house-ignore him-no sex-don't cook for him-don't be any kind of a convenience-treat him as if he weren't there. If he doesn't get the message and change, just say good-bye.
2007-02-17 12:13:27 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ignore him. Go out with your own friends, and pretty much just stay away from him as much as possible even if you have to go out alone. That will wake him up. He's taking it for granted that you are always going to be there. TRUST ME I KNOW!!! Good Luck!!!
2007-02-17 12:14:24 · answer #5 · answered by Tonya W 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is clear that he does not love you at all.He has not a clue about what the word marriage mean deeply indeed.Tell him: no sex,until he change his behaviour.It is not making any sense his behaviour.This is one of the reasons, why many marriages end in divorce or cheating.Good luck.
2007-02-17 12:32:07 · answer #6 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you actually said to him and asked why do you not talk to me??
have you said why do you ignore me when we go out??? you do you know???
what is your problem??? do you not like me anymore??? where you always this way and i never noticed????
do you and or we need therapy???
who care if it causes a fight he is yelling at you at least.
2007-02-17 12:27:09 · answer #7 · answered by picture 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
try taking him to dinner, to a quiet resturant
and talk while your eating
that way you wont have no distractions and just talk about your problems. BUT DO NOT NAG AND MOAN. well try not to.
just ask questions and let him answer.
2007-02-17 12:25:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is key in a marriage if you don't have that you have nothing. Don't be his doormat.
2007-02-17 12:14:16 · answer #9 · answered by C E 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
stand in front of the tv to get his attention and bang on your chest 'I am woman I need to be heard".
2007-02-17 12:20:19 · answer #10 · answered by bubba 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋