I've known two people from different walks of life who tell their stories of "living on the edge" but can't understand why they both are scared to do things like spend the night in a city they aren't familiar with or are overly nervous about things?
2007-02-17 04:05:33 · 8 answers · asked by ~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~ 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I think you confuse courage with recklessness.
Courage is not an absence of fear really....it's more about knowing when you are afraid and having enough mastery of yourself to carry on anyway. But it doesn't mean you cannot feel your fear.
Being reckless, on the other hand, is all about ignoring fear and doing the thing, even when it's stupid, pointless or unnecessary to. Most of the time your folks on that TV show _Jackass_, for example, are reckless, not brave really.
Look....you do realize that *most* sane people are in fact afraid of spending the night in unfamiliar territory, especially if that territory has a violent reputation, right? It's just good sense. This is the kind of stuff fear is there for, fear is one of the things that tells us, "Whoa, hold it, this might get us maimed or killed." Fear is as legitimate as any other emotion, it is there for good reasons.
And none of this takes away from the fundamental courage of your friends, ok? This doesn't take away from their self-control or their ability to carry on in spite of "being scared" or "overly nervous about things". You can still feel fear, be a bundle of nerves, and *function*.
Matter of fact....I'd be more worried about the one who says he's *not* feeling any fear, at all....it either means he's repressing emotions (ticking time bomb, hello?) or that he's cheating (dissociated, high on drugs, drunk with "liquid courage"). Meaning he's not likely to *be* in full control of his faculties when it *seriously* hits the fan.
Just saying....take my two cents with as big a grain of salt as needed.
2007-02-17 04:23:18 · answer #1 · answered by Bradley P 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could possibly be that their stories of living on the edge have been fabricated to fit the way they wish it could be, because they dont want people to form opinions of their fears, that may seem odd to us, but very real to them.
2007-02-17 12:15:17 · answer #2 · answered by Katz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess living on the edge has different definitions to different people. I've always believed if you lived on the edge..you feared nothing. instead you face all that is difficult and extreme head on.
2007-02-17 12:14:52 · answer #3 · answered by Sassymama 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
because they are always tuning into the "edge" and it is an intense process, when you throw a whole city on them it is "go" time inside....they like to know the edge and live on it, because then they can only be approched from one direction
2007-02-17 12:09:50 · answer #4 · answered by (_)iiiiD 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are probably insecure about themselves and their insecurity shows out as nervousness. To probably 'cover themselves up', they are living this way.
2007-02-17 12:17:01 · answer #5 · answered by Brunette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They r scared of life like if some1 will *** up and shoot them so they wont go to certain crowdedb places.
2007-02-17 12:09:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
two people in comparison to 6.5 billion who exist in the world.
2007-02-17 12:08:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps going to a new place is new to them but once they are there they well love it
2007-02-17 12:40:53 · answer #8 · answered by spookygirld 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋