how can i know if he is cheating on me?

Question

a person who he was close still sends me mails stating that he is in touch with her but he denies it., i need to know whether its true please help me it's difficult for me to ask her directly since i fear other problems with my divorce please help me am really waiting for someone to help me out with this

Answer 1

why are you answering or even looking at e mails she sends you? Also, if you are getting a divorce, than why are you so bothered by it? Apparently you are getting divorced for a reason. You are only worrying yourself worse by reading her emails so just stop, don't read them and don't respond to them.

Answer 2

Is it not ok for your boyfriend/husband to talk to this friend? Or do you believe there's some hanky panky going on? Is that what someone is telling you? Do you believe this person unconditionally?

Well, you have a couple of options:

1. Ask your boyfriend/husband outright.
2. Ask the friend outright.

Think about it, and try to make a rational decision as to whether they have both given you credible answers. If you don't communicate, you'll never get anywhere.

I would certainly do that before doing anything else. Plus, there's always option #3, which is to hire a private investigator. That may not work, however, if they're just chatting via email. Plus it's pricey.

I'm sure many people would recommend snooping (i.e., email account, cell phone records, etc.) but that could turn around and bite you in the *** if your suspicions turn out to be wrong. Then your boyfriend/husband and/or friend will have serious trust issues about you. (Come to think of it, hiring a P.I. may have the same result.) Either that, or you'll get your answer and will then know the truth.

Good luck. It sounds like an icky situation.

Answer 3

not sure if a understand the question fully but I would say you need to decide...DO you trust the friend who is giving the info to you about the contact? Why would they lie about it? Is it via email? If so you could ask them to forward you prove of the conversations. I think you need to approach the situation with care and honesty. You do not want to put the man on the defensive and so you could approach it with really soft words like, "i do not believe this true but I have to ask you something"... you must know and so you need to choose your words carefully and with love so that you do not damage the relationship if the rumors are not true. Good luck.

Answer 4

If you're getting a "divorce"...dont worry about what he's doing and with whom.
She could be full of it...Knowing that it will get to you. Stop reading her emails.
ANd if you're not sure and want to persue it....Try following him....but I would just let it be. Sounds like you need to focus on getting a life*

Answer 5

I frankly don't find anything wrong with a man still communicating with female friends. I still have male friends that I would be very upset about if my husband told me to no longer have contact with them. I go to lunch with them and everything. When he sees his female friends, just knowing that I"m secure with it, makes him love me that much more.

Answer 6

it depends on his action if he has the signs that hes been fooling around then it might ring some truth to it , you also have to look at if shes trying to split you up on purpose, if hes a good guy and treats women good she might just want him still so i would be careful and lay lo and just look for signs before you jump to conclusion

Answer 7

Trust your gut. Usually it is right when it comes to feeling of the heart. You need to just ask, what have you got to lose? If he is, you are better off knowing. The saying "ignorance is bliss" is crap.

Answer 8

If he is a player or cheater, chances are he is a smooth talker, and all the girls like him.

Answer 9

Don't let him shower until you have smelled him.

You should be able to pick up the scent.