Do black men still love us?

Question

makes me mad when I see a nice sucessful brother with a white woman. it's like a slap in the face to me because so many brothers praise white women but they talk so much trash about their sistas. I love my Black men to death but they make me so frustrated too. It seems that they don't love us anymore.This has hurt me in the past.I'n had at least 3 exes who have said that white women are better than Blacks women.Even my own father had said that he can't stand Black women and he left my mom for a white woman. This made me mad because this made me feel like he coulnd't stand me because I'm a black woman. I never forgave my father because he seems happy cattering to his white family instead of us. It's hard for me to find a man who will love for who I am because I'm at a disadvantage: I have dark skin and kinky hair. I'm tried of wishing that I was lighter and I had longer and striaghter hair. I want someone to love me for who I am, I wan tsomeone to love my dark skin and my kinky hair.

Answer 1

reverse racism

Answer 2

Firstly, most black men I see out are with black women. There are some white women with black men but it is not an epidemic like you make it to be in your question. Secondly, it's not your place to judge a man for who he loves no matter what color. Thirdly, why does it bother you to see maybe 5% of black men with white women? Are you a prejudice racist? If you are, that would be odd coming from a black person. Fourthly, I see just as many sistas with white men but NEVER hear a black man complain about it. Sista, you need to look at yourself in the mirror because this is your personal problem, no the black man's.

ps: For the record, I am a very open minded white man

Answer 3

YES WE DO. Well, i know I do, and I'm a black man. Unfortunately, we live in a society that is subliminally taught that "the whiter you look, the better." This includes lighter skin, longer/straighter, smaller lips, narrow nose, etc. Another reason that some black men think this way is because of the sterotype that white women are more submissive(They will pretty much let you get away with anything--I don't personally believe this about white women, that's just what my friends who have been with white women have told me). Also it is said that black women are too strict and confrontational, which is another stereotype. I just think that black women demand MORE respect more than a white woman does(generally), which is a good quality. Weak-minded men are afraid of that kind of woman that. Personally, I believe that ALL women are beautiful, however, there is none more beautiful on this earth than a "natural black"(dark skin & kinky hair) woman.


p.s.You shouldn't get mad JUST cause you see a black man w/ a white woman...cause its only skin color you are seeing...you never know that it may be real love. (however,I understand you being offended if a black man PREFERS white women over black women). you shouldn't let your past experiences with weak-minded black guys turn you into a "hater"...just know that "you, a black woman, are a beautiful woman and their are still good black men out their who still love black women""

Answer 4

Teddy Bear: Wow, that would really hurt me if my father left my mother for a white woman. I would probably never speak to him again or at the least become very distant because no offense, he sounds like the typical brain washed *****. I personally have no respect for a black men that dates outside of his race but thankfully, not all feel white is better. I'm not going to lie, alot do. Most subconsciencely do feel this way on some level but not all and most either don't realize it, won't admit it or openly admit it and rationalize it. I say look out for brothers that love sisters and not the ones that are sell outs. Thats one of the many reasons why I love my man so much. He hates white women more then I do. Thats the type of man you need, someone that sees the beauty in REAL black women and not just some brother thats chasing the typical black standard of beauty; light skin and long hair or mixed damn near white looking women. Personally, if dealing with a man and he says he likes white women, that tuens me completely off because I question is mentality after that, but if he says white women are better, he has to go because I can't deal with dumb igorant dudes.
****NOTE*******
Don't feel too bad when you see brothers with white women because they are very wack sexually and the only thing they are really good for is some oral because their vag*nas doesn't feel that great and they are not even the best at oral. Even white men sexually prefer non-white women to have sex with because they are bad in bed generally.

Answer 5

NOT ALL BLACK MEN!! I am in a relationship with a black man for the first time, and no, it isn't b/c I'm a slut!! but b/c he is very interesting and funny. Always has something to say and actually calls when he says he will n does more for me than any of my previous only white bfs!! But I really don't think it is just b/c he is black tho, he just has more "swagger". It doesn't hurt that he is the best lover I've ever had!!! I'll b screwed if he leaves me tho now!! hahaaa

Answer 6

YES black men do love us...go to the Caribbean and Africa and you'll see. I use to think like you until i went Jamaica, i couldn't believe how loving black men could be, i felt sooo special and they treated me like a queen. They were very complimenting on my dark skin telling me how gorgeous and sweet i look.
I am born and bred in the UK and the black men over here are nothing like that.over here it's like i dont exist, i suppose 1 and 2 of them might give me a whistle or a look, (which is not very often) but other than that i might as well be invisible, and that's partly why i am leaving England, after experiencing Jamaica the food,sun etc, i can't stay here. why the hell should i stay here in cold England ( as well as the people) and put up with that ****. At least in my homeland i am wanted and respected by my beautiful black handsome men.

Answer 7

Why are you so against interracial dating? What makes you think these guys would be with you if they weren't with a white woman? I'm going to give you the same answer I gave you in your last question like this: Stop focusing on your exes and what they say (That's why they're exes...forget about them) and try to find someone who likes you for you (not your dark skin and kinky hair).

Oh, and ignore the racist comments that go unnoticed by Yahoo Answers.

Answer 8

Honey, been there done that but in my case it didn't have anything to do with black and white people, it had everything to do with my father not loving me and then me going ahead and seeing my father in every guy i date and feeling unloved. The relationship between fathers and their daughters is VERY important in shaping a girl's self esteem. It is better not to have a father figure than to have one that damages your self esteem. My advice to you is first, you have to forgive your father because you, not him, will bear the repercussions of your anger towards him (though the anger may be absolutely justified). Secondly, when you date a guy, be very conscious of giving him a new clean slate and seeing him for who he is not prejudging him based on what your father did to you. One of the ways to do this is to constantly refer to your date by his name, that way you are always aware that he is not your father. Another way that accepting and forgiving your father will benefit you is that you no longer choose men that are like your dad and then hope that they treat you better than he did. Women tend to do that because we think that having a man like our dad treat us well undoes what our dad did to us. It doesn't. What your dad did to you obviously was hurtful to you, your mom and your family but that is a result of what type of person he is, not a reflection of all black men. Lastly, no man will love your black skin and kinky hair unless you love it first. There is no short cut, unless you love yourself, no one else will. The fact that your father left your mother and your family for a white woman does not mean that you and your mother are any less beautiful or less lovable than the other family.
Good luck in your dating life. I know this is a tough issue to get over because I was there and it took me a long while but i finally am where i want to be and i know you will repair your self esteem. i wish you all the best

Answer 9

ohhhh get a life! there will always be interacial relationships whether u like it or not, u gonna be hating on all of em? maybe u dont have a man coz u spend too much time hating on black ppl in interacial relationships than u do looking for a man? u givin us (black women) a bad name, u seem to be liking assholes instead of men who like u for who u are. maybe ur exes were tired of listeing to u mourn about how u dont like black men dating white women. get some help.

Answer 10

I love Black women. I'd like to know if Black women like unsuccessful Black men? I'm not talking criminals but regular guys with steady jobs who don't drive a Benz,Lexus,big SUVs and the like. I was in a store a while back and went to sit down in the entry way on a bench. A Black woman was walking in looking at me like I shot her best friend. I nodded a greeting to her and she just put up her hand and said "Ugh!" and walked on. I never saw this woman before in my life. How do you think we Black men should feel when we get dissed like that?
Oh! And since your seeking only middle-class or higher Black men,be prepared for very small pickings.

Answer 11

I see lots of black women with black men. I think that you're just not looking in the right places. I'm sure that there are lots of black men out there who would like you for who you are and not the colour of your skin. I hope that one day you'll find the right person out there for you.
Good Luck.