i am 16 and i have a 2 month old baby boy he will be 3 monthsd the 27 i cant even get him to sleep he stays ur

Answer 1

maybe you should go to parenting classes and get some help in raising your child, your a child raising a child.

Answer 2

First, hugs momma! It sounds like you need a little break. Is your mom willing to watch baby for an hour or so (or baby's dad) so you can recharge your batteries. A couple of questions will help me give you a better idea of how to help. Are you nursing or using formula? How often are you feeding him? Now, the most important question, What is his sleep schedule really like? It seems like babies are up all the time in the beginning, but really it is just that they are down for such short periods, then up again. It is really exhausting for momma. Make sure your expectations are reasonable. At two months it is normal for baby to wake every 2-3 hours and sometimes be awake for about an hour feeding, burping, changing diaper, etc. At two months you *might* start seeing a sleep pattern, but it is just as common to not. It is a good time to start trying to create a pattern though. My now 10mo old would take a morning nap from 9:30-11, then an afternoon nap from 1-3, go down "for the night" around 8, but be up at 11, 3, 5:30 and 7 for feedings when she was 2-3months old.

Some other things to consider involve the sleeping conditions: is the room a comfortable temperature? Are all the lights off, or down to just a nightlight? Are there a lot of noises? My children (I have 5, the oldest is 7) all got in a better sleep pattern if the room was dark or very dimly lit and there were either no noises or very quiet soothing music, something like waves crashing on the beach.

I'm sorry you are getting so many responses implying that you are a child raising a child. You will face different challenges than those who chose to wait to have children, but you will also have a lot more energy to deal with those challenges than those of us in our mid-30s. LOL. Being a new mom is so challenging and overwhelming no matter the age. When I was expecting my 1st I did a ton of reading and thought I was prepared - I felt so inadequate at first! Reading that baby will only sleep 2-3 hour stretches and "knowing" that is WAY different than living it! You will find your groove with baby soon. You won't even know it is happening just one day you will realize "whoa! Things are way better!" LOL. I know. Being a mom is the hardest job you will ever have, but in the end it is so worth it! When you are having trouble remembering that, look into his beautiful little face and try to imagine your life now without him in it. I know after just day 2 with my 1st I couldn't imagine life without her. Hugs! You will get through this and be a better momma and person for it.

Answer 3

I had my first two at 17 and 21 and my last two at 34 and 36- I'm not sure which age was harder to be a mother! What I do know is that all four were different in what comforted them.

Watch your baby for cues- does he rub his eyes? does he go to sleep and then startle back awake? Perhaps he needs a quieter, calmer place to nap and sleep or would like to be swaddled (wrapped snuggle in a blanket). Does he pull his legs up, kick and wiggle while crying loud? Perhaps his tummy hurts. You can call the local hospital "Phone a Nurse" to get some tips on whether to use Mylicon drops or see a doctor. Most importantly- read tips on the net and maybe buy a few books on babies. The Dr. Sears book is good, The Girlfriends Guide to the First Year is good and fun and What to Expect During the First Year has a ton of info in it.

Like another poster said- you are a good mom for knowing when to ask questions. Don't worry about the negative comments and focus on taking care of yourself and your baby.

Answer 4

I am not a mother yet, but am expecting a baby girl this May. Some advice I have received would be the obvious, make sure he is fed, burped and changed every 2-3 hours and try a night light and soft music. If these options don't work, try some vibrations or soem type of movement.

You are a great person for taking responsibility for your actions. Don't pay any attention to the negative comments. As long as you love your child and give him what he needs you and your son will be fine in life. You will both appreciate things in life that much more. There is nothing wrong with accepting help if you need it. Just make sure to finish school. If not for yourself, then for your son and his future. :)

Answer 5

I have a 2 month old, and I am right there in your shoes. I have found she is starting to sleep more lately. I have had her on a routine of atleast 3 hrs at night, but many times goes 4 hours or more. I also have two older daughters, so I have been here before. My biggest piece of advice is to not let him go without eating more then 4 hours (preferably 3 ) during the day. In otherwords, wake him every 3 to 4 hours and feed him. Even if he does not take a full 4 oz, get as much as you can in him. Undress him, change his diaper, put baby lotion on him, and so forth to get him to wake enough to eat. He should start to space his feedings out at night as he gets into this routine. Good luck!

Also, I don't think they start sleeping solidly through the night until they are eating solids ( and three solids meals a day) which usually happens around six months or more- depending on when they are ready and you start solids.

Answer 6

First off ignore the negative remarks on here~having a baby at any age is hard. I've seen 30 year olds that are awful parents because they think they know it all and won't ask for advice or help. They say a baby can never get to much love and they are right! With my 3 sons I had them on our schedule and they slept with us (one at a time) and yes it's a hard habit to break but not impossible. All my boys are teenagers now, so we lived though it-lol. Love and patience is what it takes and ever child and mother are different so maybe try a little of the positive remarks on here and remember if you don't ask you'll never know--Don't be afraid to ask! Good luck on the years ahead!!

Answer 7

I was also a mother at 16 that will be 30 years ago in Sept. don't listen to all the negative feedback. I have 3 children and all grew up to be responsible adults. To your question, be patient babies grow up quickly and will learn to sleep through the night before you know it. If you have someone that offers help please accept. We all need all the help we can get. Sleep is very important for you also this will help with your patience level. Don't feel guilty if you let other things slide during this time you can catch up later. You and your baby are the most important thing at this time. One other suggestion I have for you is stay in school or get a GED. This will help later.

Answer 8

Forget those people who say your too young and that you should take parenting classes. Im 18 and my son is 2 months and 2 weeks old, my boyfriend is 18 as well. My little boy wasnt sleeping through the night so i started reading this book i got and it says that during the day play with your baby and use normal voices but at night when you feed him/her or change them be quieter and use a softer tone of voice and get rid of all lights and sounds, we tried it and my son slept from 10:30 pm to 6 am compared to his normal 1:30am and 4 am feed wakings.

Answer 9

Hi sweetheart!! Oh Well.... first of all, ignore those rude comments. I'm a young mother too, I'm 20 and my baby has barely 8 months. It is hard when you are young and have no experience (who will have experience at a first baby?) but you can make it happen, so just stay calm & love your baby.
He/she probably wont be sleeping until he/she is like 12months or even older , you never know. Mne already sleeps troughout the night, but some days he still wakes up.
Im proud of you because you are taking care of your responsabilities even tough you are too young and i know you can still make it happen...... Be strong :) and congratulations

Answer 10

If he falls asleep in his bouncy chair, carseat, stroller, or swing...leave him there! Don't feel like you have to move him to his crib, he will be safe in one of those.

All babies are a little bit different, and what works for one baby may or may not work for another, so you may have to just try a little of everything.

A pacifier is good for some babies. If you don't want to use one, you could try only giving it for naps and at nighttime.

Make sure his jammies/gowns fit and aren't itchy or uncomfortable. Check to be sure the room temp is okay and baby isn't hot or cold.

Try a different crib or mattress. My almost 1 year old wouldn't sleep in her bassinet or playpen, but did much better in her crib, which had a thicker mattress.

Don't overlook a milk intolerence. If you are breastfeeding, it could be something you are eating or milk you are drinking. If your baby is generally fussy all the time, I would definately consider it. He may need a lactose-free or soy formula, but DO NOT switch without talking to his pediatrician. Some formulas seem to be a little too strong for new baby's tummy, so a good one to try is Enfamil Gentlease Lipil. It has reduced lactose and some partially broken down proteins. If he also has frequent, large spit ups, he could have mild reflux--try raising one end of the mattress or leaving him in a carseat or bouncy seat for 30 minutes after feeding.

Try rocking, swinging, walking, riding in the car, etc. If you can, put him down sleepy but not asleep (but don't feel guilty if you are desperate and put him down asleep). This helps him be better able to soothe himself back to sleep when he wakes up. Also, don't feel guilty about letting him cry for about five minutes at a time. Give him about 5 minutes when you first lay him down, and about 5 minutes when he wakes up before you pick him up. Some babies cry in their sleep, and don't actually wake up until you pick them up.

Some babies like music in the background. I'm a nurse in a newborn nursery, and I've noticed a lot of the babies like classical and jazz music best, but many like the rhythmic beat of reggae too. Some like white noise like static or ocean sounds. Experiment to see what yours likes. Baby Einstein videos and CDs are GREAT.

It sounds obvious, but I've known 2-3 month olds that drink 2-3 ounces a feeding, and some that drink 5-6 ounces a feeding, so make sure he's eating as much as he wants.

Being sleep deprived always makes everything seem worse. Not to mention, at 16 your hormones are crazy, and you just had a baby, so your hormones are REALLY crazy. See if your mom, grandmother, or a close trusted friend or family member can watch your baby for a night or even a long afternoon so you can catch up on your sleep.

Good luck, and I hope my rather long answer helps! It does eventually get better.

Also: get back in school as soon as you can, and do everything you can to go to college. An education is essential to having a good job, and you'll need a good job so you can care for your baby. It is hard to go to school when you have kids, but worth it. I went through nursing school as a single parent, and now I work around 30 hours a week and am taking more classes with 2 children. It is hard, but I promise you can do it.

Answer 11

i was 16 when i had my baby boy too. what i did in able for him to fall asleep is carry him and rock him. i would sleep with him on my chest and sometimes have him lie my arms. he got so used to sleeping with me that even today he cant fall asleep unless he knows that i am right next to him. yeah we both get hot and sweaty but at least we both get a good nights sleep.
i am now 17 and my baby is turning 1 on march 5th. he still sleeps with me ever since day 1. i guess its sort of like a security thing and it makes him feel safe. i wish you the best of luck and i know that you will figure something out. if you ever need to talk just email me ok..