Im 23 and got married last year, now we are planning on buying a home and the other day the guy that is helping us with the loan put my name infront of my husbands name in the application for the loan, after 2 days when we got the copy my husband saw that my name was before him and he started yelling and got very mad because he said that he is the man that his name should always be before mine that he is who supports the house etc..He made me feel like i was worth nothing to him. that hurt my feeling very bad. I would never get mad over something like this no one is better that anyone we are all the same, plus I pay 1/2 of everything at home he divides everything in half even though i make much less than him.
2007-02-17 03:11:31 · 13 answers · asked by ♥*´`*•. mommy♥*´`*•. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He didn't make you feel anything.
You let him make you feel that way.
Why can't you just see it's important to him to be a man and a good provider for his family?
You should see a counselor for your self-esteem issues. Take him with you.
2007-02-17 03:15:33 · answer #1 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have read a couple of the other letters you posted and according to what you have said, it is a situation that I am all to familiar with.
Remember that I am judging this on all the letters you have posted.
This kind of a situation will NEVER get better no matter what he may promise you. To these kind of men, the wife is something that is owned, the same as any other thing he has bought. You must realize that the situation you are in will remain like this for the rest of your life. And please do not fool yourself by thinking that it may change, I am quite knowledgeable in this area, and I know that these kind of men NEVER change.
You have two choices.
1. Live under the shadow of his family for the rest of your life, or break it off and free yourself.
I know how difficult these kinds of choices are, but I see far too many of these kinds of marriages to know that it will ever bring you any kind of happiness.
P.S. No matter what kind of crap you read from other people, this is not your fault, it's his! He is responsible for the way he treats you. A man should treat his wife with love and devotion, PERIOD!!!
2007-02-17 03:44:17 · answer #2 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like you found out something about him you didn't previously know. It's not a good sign. Marriage is definitely a 2-way street and both streets are the same. I can't believe the answer someone wrote stating that you are the one who's wrong and he did not make you feel like nothing. I don't know if I'd buy a house with this guy. And what is this 1/2 garbage. Put your money together and make it one, as you and your husband should be. This also sounds like the beginning of a bad situation. Re-evaluate and say good-bye.
2007-02-17 03:31:51 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is a immature man.Do not pay attention to that behaviour indeed,why? Because anyway, the house loan have your name and his name.The same, when you buy the house,the owners will be you and your husband,so,does not matter at all; if your name is first than him.He is trying to shows you, that he is the macho man in the house.That behaviour, men had 50 or more years ago.Now that behaviour it is not working anymore in marriages.Only cause unhappiness in wives.Believe me,do not pay attention to that fact.Be happy,smile.You will have your own house,that really is very important.you will be the Queen in that house.Some men never learn how to treat a lady.We as men need to be kind,gentleman all time with our wives.Good luck.
2007-02-17 04:19:45 · answer #4 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AwwwYou're be ok who ever that guy or woman is that made you sense like your worth no longer something ought to get punch interior the face ... i'm.particular you're worth greater then you definately think of. Dont be unhappy turn that frown the different way up ;)
2016-10-15 12:35:24 · answer #5 · answered by fugere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men view their partnership based on financian contribution. So if he makes twice as much as you, you owe him favors to make up for the debt. I know at least one person who thinks this way and doesn't show any sign of changing after one divorce and one broken engagement.
It is manipulation. You are equal partners in a marriage. If he doesn't see it that way, you should call a lawyer and begin divorce proceedings. Life is to short, and you only get one ticket.
2007-02-17 03:37:41 · answer #6 · answered by Martin Pedersen 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you guys roomates? He makes you pay half and then acts like that? yes I would be totally hurt too if my husband said that stuff. I hate when men think they do everything and you contribute nothing,maybe you should let his name be on everything by himself so you can just walk out someday.
2007-02-17 07:42:40 · answer #7 · answered by maryann c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're like the Jerry Springer show. Read back through your questions, and according to you...
Your husband is controlling, lives with his mom and she runs you around, and you have fantasies of doing it with other women and are thinking of hiring a female escort.
You need professional help. Man, oh man. He may be a turd, but who else would marry you? You aren't ready for marriage, you aren't marriage material, and you need to do a LOT of work on healing yourself.
2007-02-17 03:25:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
gee, i think i was married to that *** hole.
do yourself a favor, forget the house and find a real man. this guy is not a real man a real man would never do such a miserable thing to you. he is an abuser. if he hasn't done this kind of thing before, trust me he is on his way.
don't ask him to go to counseling, demand that he go. if he refuses. you will have your answer.
believe me you are in a bad situation. remedy it now or it will only get worse!!!
2007-02-17 03:21:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Wow I hope you have started planning the divorce. You are both very immature and will fail at this marriage unless you can suck it up and be adults
2007-02-17 03:26:02 · answer #10 · answered by tp3bop 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋