My 10yr old daughter just called me a B***** when I told her to clean her room. What should I do?

Answer 1

Discipline her. She has to know who's boss and that kind of language will not be tolerated.

Answer 2

First you need to understand it isn't REALLY about cleaning her room. She's probably frustrated about so many things in her life and she is focusing all of her release on you. Nonetheless you must maintain your authority in the household.

You must develop a 'look' all moms and dads should have one. a look that tells her the earth has stopped spinning all around her has come to a dead stop because she screwed up. This will involve keeping dead still and quiet regardless of what she says and not breaking her eye contact. SHE can break it, you may not. A moment will present itself that indicates you have regained control of the moment. Tell her in a very low voice (I use just above a whisper) "you will clean your room and when you are done you will apologize for your remark." and walk away. let us know how it works out

Answer 3

First, stay calm.
Second, ground her to her room minus tv, radio, computer, all electronics, telephone. Books, coloring, etc are allowable.
She can lay on her bed and think about what she's done for a couple of hours.
Third, explain to her why it was unacceptable to do what she did. This is where I hope that you have been a good role model. And tell her that she will owe you a sincere apology at the end of her punishment. Remind her that even though you are disappointed, even angry, at what she did, that you still love her and always will.
When the punishment is over, give her a hug, tell her you love her, and let her go about her day.

Answer 4

Wow, thats bad. Of coarse punish her by taking away something she really likes, like her video game or ect. See where she gets those words from, like is their a lot of bad language going in your home? or at school. Kids at that age are starting to become rebellious, my sister is ten and when she gets mad she has these mood swing that just are very uncontrolable, but she might be stresed out over something. Talk to her and ask her why she called you that and if she is not willing to comunicate, then punish her , so she will understand that what she did was wrong. Only punish her by either grounding her, or taking a game away or no tv or no phone. That should get her to understand that if she slips up again that there are consiquences, which will keep her away from doing it again.

Answer 5

You definantly shouldn't let it pass. By doing so it is showing that she can call people bad names without concequences and it is ok to do so, but we both know that it isn't. You need to talk to her and tell her it is inappropriate to use that kind of language around other people, especially if those people are adults and other children.

You should also find ou where she learned the word. It may mean that you need to censor what she watches on tv, or if that isn't necessary, cut her tv time because of the use of the language, take away toys or phone time.

Let her know that there will be more consequences if dhe contines to use inapprorpiate language like that.

Answer 6

Punish her. Take away her TV, phone, computer and social privileges. Tell her to clean her room and she won't get the things back for a week, also, she has to apologize and mean it.

If she doesn't clean her room again, take garbage bags into her room and throw out EVERYTHING that is not in its place. Make sure to look under the bed and in the closet.

Answer 7

I would say take her door off her room and tell her that if she is going to use that language in your house she doesn't respect you and so you are not going to show her respect for her privacy till she can show you the respect of not useing that language. Also tell her that next time she decides to not clean her room you will and she will not like it because you will go threw everything and throw it out. IF that doesn't work ground her or ground her and then try that LOL what ever you like you know your daughter and you know how to push her buttons too.

Answer 8

listen here by grounding your child you are only growing her rage for you and she will lose more respect for you why?...because you are taking away priveliges she enjoys and though it might seem that thats a way of discipline it is not....because she gonna have more reason to call you bytch why?....because you are being bytch by taking away her desires thats like taking away your car because you disrespaceted your daughter...but i dont blame you but the way to handle this type of situation is by laying it out you go up to her and tell her listen babygurl you dont hear me telling you that your a bytch and what not i give all i can and i believe your old enough to understand that i am like your friend except your yourmother aswell so i believe youshould return the respect i deserve[if youdo deserve it] so since i think youre mature enough not to get punished al i ask is to be mature enough to keep organized and i do for your good because it isnt affecting me but so as you grow you learn that no man will want an unorganized women in thier lives...just make her believe if she thinks that she is grown enough to have a dirty mouth then she should be grown enough to be clean and organized and if she wants to use that language he should know when and with who to use it because no matter what she is still going to use that laguage whether youhear her or not but lt her know with who and when to use it and that is what discipline is all in the head not physically or verbally abusing your child ..trust me...

Answer 9

Discipline her she is far to young to be using that type of language in front of her mother ground her as well unfortunately there are to many do gooders saying that discipline is wrong and we need to reason with the child . Sorry but good old fashioned discipline never done any body any harm. If you dont act now it may be to late. Think what she may be like in another six years????

Answer 10

Wow. People who call themselves "parents"...
What kind of question is this? If I had called my parent that for being asked to clean my room, not only would I be spanked, but I would have lost all priveleges.
Why are you asking us what you should do? She's obviously doing that, because you have no clue how to parent her. She's walking all over you, and you're letting her. She's ten. Who's the parent here? Her, or you?
The 2 points is good.

Answer 11

Disrespect should never be tolerated in the household - the household is a teaching model and preparation for the real world. If she treats you, her mother like this, she's likely to bring this behavior in the real world and workplace so it must be stopped immediately. If a parent reinforces misbehavior it will set her up for failure in the future. Minti (Parenting Advice website) has some interesting articles about this - check it out.