i need advice?

Question

i split with my ex and i have 2 kids from him but since we split he has had another shild with another girl and she is pregnant agen he says he still loves me and he dont want this other child he said he wants to get back with me if i lost weight he has hurt me lied to me in the past so i dont no weather to beleive him wot shall i do

Answer 1

screw him if he really loved u he would have stayed with u even if u were fat he is the 1 that did it 2 u besides even if u were prgnant all girls get fat

Answer 2

Tell me if this is someone you would want your daughter to have a relationship with. Tell me if this is someone you want your son to be modeled after.

1. There was a reason the two of you split up in the first place, did he or you remedy that reason?
2. He is in another relationship, now after a child and another pregnancy he is running back to you?
3. He doesn't want the child that his significant other is carrying after the fun of making it?
4. He wants you only if you lose weight or change yourself while he stays the same?
5. He has hurt you and lied to you in the past?
Why would you even think twice about this????

Answer 3

He loves you and will get back with you *if* you lose weight?!?!?

He's a loser and, from the looks of it, a deadbeat. Leave him at the curb where he belongs. You deserve a man who will treat YOU with respect just the way you are and your kids deserve a dad they can count on. This man is neither.

If he's not already paying you child support, call your local child support enforcement office, and make sure this so-called man takes care of your children. The way he's donating sperm all over town, you're better off calling sooner rather than later. Just google the name of your state plus "child support enforcement" and you'll be able to find an 800-number to call.

Whatever you do, don't take him back. He's not good enough for you or your children, plain and simple.

Answer 4

Do you think you could trust him again - NO I didn't think so - once a liar always a liar - do you think if he moved back this would be the end of it - NO the other woman would have control over him with the other kids until they were at least of school leaving age - let alone what he would have to pay towards her kids upbringing! You life would be a misery for ever and a day!

Move on sweetheart - much as it might be hurting now - you know it is for the best!

Answer 5

You would be making a big mistake to get back with a man who is secretly planning to leave the pregnant mother of one of his kids for another one of the mothers of his kids, but only if she loses weight. Wake up and have some respect for yourself. If you read this story from someone else what would you think? Good luck

Answer 6

He wants to get back together if you lose weight? Honey, WAKE UP! He's a loser. He's hurt you , lied to you and can't accept you the way you are? Move on. Get an education to learn to depend on yourself because your kids need to depend on you. Use condoms or the pill and don't get pregnant again until you have your life together.And learn to love yourself Honey. If you love yourself you'll find guys that are worthy of you. Good Luck

Answer 7

Sound to me like you better off without him. You could not trust him anymore and when trust is gone out of any relationship you are left with absolutely nothing and would be wasting your time. If you want to lose weight then do so but do it because you want to and not for him or anyone else.
Show him you are not dependent on him and are capable of living a life with your children without him as the central figure. Although you should allow contact with his kids of course. None of this mess is their fault

Answer 8

he'll get back with you if you lose weight. r u seriously considering giving this guy another chance? he is playing you. his new girl is pregnant and he probably doesn't find her attractive right now or she isn't in the mood. so he's telling you what he thinks you want to hear just to get in your pants. ask yourself this: if he still loved you, why isn't he doing everything he can to get back with you instead of making babies with somebody else? do yourself a favor. don't listen to him. don't let him back in your bed. the only interaction you 2 need to have is about the kids. if you're not talking to him about the children, then you don't need to talk to him. you deserve better than what he is able to give you. you deserve someone who is going to love you, be faithful to you, and respect you.

good luck to you.

Answer 9

Noooooooooooooooooooo!

If you lost some weight?

Seriously, girl, you do not need this man in your life - not at the moment, at least. Get on with it, look after your children, work on improving every possible aspect of your lives - but for yourself, not because someone who's making vague and conditional offers (and, by the way, what, EXACTLY, has he got to offer you?).

Best of luck.

Answer 10

Seems like he has enough kids, and so do you, quit thinking of romance now and focus on the children, he needs to get a vas, and live on his own, and support the children he is bringing into the world. Being a single parent isn't easy, but being a single parent and a crutch is worse.

Answer 11

if he doesnt want you for you then tell him to get stuffed. If you want to lose weight then do it for you and not for some loser ex boyfriend! I can understand that as you have kids together then you need to stay civil but dont let this man back in your life, what he says to you he probably says to his current girlfriend and if he didnt want kids then he should have kept his pants on. You can do better