self defence.....sincere answers only please?

Question

there's this guy who would approach me on the bus stop..he would talk to me about the bus being late, or ask if the bus is coming soon.. or if I know the time (always like this)...and seems to be waiting for the bus too...but when the bus comes he would go away and not board it (I dont know whether he lives nearby)...Im getting scared of him since this had happend several times now and he had told me a few times he find me very pretty (I don't find it a compliment, it sounds more of a threat).I dont know any self defence and Im only 5'2" and slim built, can't run very fast or far either...any idea what I can do if ever he attacks me?...

I know avoiding it is the best way...but I work as a nurse and have to do night duties...and my family/friends can't be with me all the time.... the next bus stop is 10 minutes away but is near a playground/park which is usually empty at that hour...I think the bus stop I go now is much safer because there are several houses near by and Im hoping that if I did scream they'll help or at least call the police.....
I really appreciate all your answers...

As_It_Is: for details of the guy - he is between 35-45 y.o, white, his hair and clothes looks clean, around 5'8" in height...and unfortunately he only approaches when Im alone...and when the bus comes and I look away to "hail" the bus, he usually is gone (maybe he lives near the bus?)

Spades of Columbia/brewer82:
any idea where I can buy the pepper spray, Im in UK
Live&LetLive:
or the persona alarm...

Answer 1

Inform the police.
Buy a personal alarm.
Get the bus at a different time...vary your routine.

john lewis do personal alarms online (sports dept)
I took a self defence class, ask at your local police station.
(a guy i work with did a class for us girls)
I strongly recomend you either confront this guy with someone with you or let the police know how worried you are.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Its possible he is just shy and awkards and does not have a clue how to talk to girls.... many guiys are like that. and many girls totally get guys all wrong.


Often thats how guys are with girls they like and the girls get him all wrong.

Ninjitsu is a good martial art was used by spies and assasins, who were small and often girls.


Ask him out straight how he feels.


Also how old is he, how old are you. If he is older does he come accross as young for his age.

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This is a good martial art for you... simple and is what the isreali army and fbi (and buffy the vampire slayer fight scenes) use.

And they do things like knives chokes etc right from the word go.

Also grpaund fighting which may be good for girls if you get the drift.

Ie in karate they dont do anti car jack stuff in cars.

You cam put a metal pen between fingers so its like a fist with a spike pointing oput.


Aim for eyes, neck arteries, spine nuts.


If you think you are likely to be raped ask him is you can suck him off instead. ie offer a blow.

Reason being to be able to get your weapon ie teeth, in range of his most vunerable spot... balls (ie go to suck him only suddenly sink teeth around a ball and dont let go yanking head back to rip it out and shake head like a dog with a rabbit.


These are only things you ever do when you are certain you are under attack and you do without warning...


The damage is perminant and they maim or kill.

But as said... it maybe he simply likes you only has no clue what to say or do to get you to like him and may simply want to ask you out.

Maybe use you phone to photograph him and send it ... That way you can say your mates have his photo... put make out its a fun thing at the time.


Also have someone come with you strike up a conversation with him... Maybe another guy who can ask what he thinks of you.



This is if the age is similar.


You need to put more detail.


If a nurse a shring os something... maybe fake blood and you can say its AIDS infected... or knock out drugs

Answer 4

get the bus from another stop.

take up a martial art, Wing Chun kung fu is good for smaller people and was invented by a female.

Shotokan karate is suitable for all sizes too, they are both popular styles and justabout anywhere in the UK will have a Shotokan karate club, most do a beginners 5-6 week course where you can try it out.

Answer 5

You should get urself a rape alarm, (hopefully you wont have to use it). but there very good, it will definately scare him and get you some assisatnce immediately. i'm not sure where to get it from as somebody gave it to me.
Also just to be on the safe side make sure you have company when your at the bus stop and if your coming home late.
It's always good to learn some self defence so try and find out if you can get some lessons.
I hope i was helpful!

Answer 6

Jesus! Tell the police first! Make a complaint.
Go straight for the nuts! If he grabs you round the neck, dip your head as far as you can into your chest, like your trying to put your chin into your collar bone. Then with your free hand grab his testicles and really squeeze and twist. You gotta commit your self to it and do it hard.
Dipping your head keeps your wind pipe open.
sensitive spots, eyes, top lip(just try popping a zit there), solar plexus, nuts, top of the thy, shins.
Take up Jeet Kune Do, it's brutally efficient.
Could you pick a different bus or bus stop. avoidance is the best defence.

Answer 7

If this man seriously worries you then tell the police,they will arrange for a patrol at the time you leave work..It is disturbing for you but he may just be too shy to ask you out..Even so,i bought my daughters a personal alarm each;they are quite small and also very cheap but make one hell of a noise !! Keep safe sweetie

Answer 8

Tell someone in your family and maybe go to a different bus stop if possible. Take the bus with a friend or something.

Answer 9

I'd move away or tell the driver when you get on the bus and if you can point out the man.

He could be a stalker or just some individual who is lonely, but nowadays one can't be too careful.

You might be wise to take some tae kwan do classes, but I think reporting him to the proper authorities would be your wisest move.

Answer 10

Buy some mace or pepper spray. Hold your keys between your knuckles so if you punch him it will hurt more. Also, a kick in the balls will bring anyone down know matter how big they are. Hope you don't ever need to do any of this.