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Question

Im 16 and 4 months pregnant today! im excited but a little clueless lol i really need help on what i should buy, and i wanna name my baby isaiah but i have no idea about the middle name, o i found out i was havin a boy!! so what names do you think? i have a lot of stuff already but time is going by fast && i need to kno what to get.

Answer 1

do you have a goodwill near you? or even a a store that you can buy and sell baby clothing from? thoses are the best places to buy from they are in expensive and you can get more for your money. depending on wheather you are going to bottle feed or breast feed you need to have plenty of bottles or breast pads. one thing with breast feeding you loose the baby weight faster and the baby is less sick. if your going with bottle feeding use the playtex nursers they are easier to us and clean and its just like nursing the baby with the way they feed from them. like everyone else said crib carseat stroller combo. clothes you don't need reciveing blankets but if you want them only get one pack. if you don't have health insurence get that asap you can get free insurance through your state. you need a job babies are very expensive, and if your living with your parents you can't expect them to buy everything for your baby. you should also make sure after the baby is born go to the domestics office in your county to sue for child support from the father.

Answer 2

The first thing that you want to do is buy and read the books, What to Expect When You're Expecting and What to Expect the First Year. These will really help you with all of the questions that you are going to have about the child.

There is a huge laundry list of things that you will need for the child. You should probably go to Toys R Us or Target or another store like that and look through the infant's section. You will see all of the things that are available. There are some that you will need and some that just make life a bit easier. Start here.

You should be talking to your parents about help. They will help you through the entire process and will be priceless allies once the child is here. Regardless of your age, your mom is always a great source for help when it comes to having and raising kids. If she's not around, try grandma or another maternal figure in your life.

Baby names are a personal choice. I won't render opinion or advice on those. Good luck!

Answer 3

I gotcha, you are 16 years old and four months pregnant...I won't be one of those people who give you rude comments, like ISN"T it obvious..uggg.

I was 16 and pregnant years ago, and I know that it is tough. Good luck hun...

You will need:

Carseat

Diapers (2 packs of Newborn) then buy 3 packs of 1's, & 2's..My 8 week old baby only used 2 packs of 1's, but everyone is different.

Onesies are great - 7-10 NB

A few pairs of socks...

About 7-10 sleepers...

Blankets (one heavy one for when you go outside, and a few light weight).

If you are not breastfeeding, you will need bottles, bottle brush, & formula. My baby goes through about 9 cans (12.9 oz powdered) formula a month.

A Crib, or safe place for baby to sleep.

A swing is not a MUST have, but I would highly suggest it...Most babies love them, and my daughter loves the side to side swing even though I have both.

Diaper pails, changing tables, baby bathtubs (you can bath him in the kitchen sink) are not a must..

There are surely so many more things but this should help you get started...I remember what its like being 16 and pregnant...so good luck to you...My son is now almost 12...and it's still a clear memory.

Oh and if you haven't already you should join babyzone.com. There you can join a pregnancy board and talk to others due when you are..I found it helpful with my latest pregnancy.

Answer 4

The best thing to do is not to panic about anything. You need to look after yourself and the baby.

Make up a gift list so that when anyone asks what you want as a present you already know what you need rather than saying "Whatever!". Have a look at a catalogue or website for babystuff and see what you NEED! Don't be tempted to buy one of everything. Ask your mum what she needed and go by that.

All you need is a pram, cot, bath, nappies and some clothes just now. Everything else you can buy as you go.

As for the name Isaiah, it's lovely. That was what we would have called our daughter if she was a boy.

So enjoy being pregnant cos as soon as you give birth, people stop fussing over you and they fuss over the baby instead. So milk it while you can.

Answer 5

First of all you need supportive parents. Just because you are young doesn't mean your mother shouldn't help you. I had a child who had a baby at a young age and I was and still am there for him. You and your mother should go to Babies R Us and go down each isle and write down what you need and want. Register for a baby shower at as many different stores that you can. In about two or three months have you mother give you a baby shower. You will get a lot of items you need and want. The joy of being a grandmother is to help and nurture the grandchildren. What a joy and blessing.
Grandmother of 8

Answer 6

Isaiah is a beautiful name. Good choice.

I really REALLY recommend NOT buying: Pajamas that have the feet in them (you will find out that the baby's feet get up into the legs and you have to constantly get him untangled). DO NOT buy any clothing that has buttons or snaps on the BACK. I say this because the buttons hurt the baby's back when he is laying down. Also, check clothing that has any kind of stitching or sewn patches on the chest area. The stitching on cheap clothing is often so raised that it really irritates the baby's chest.

Buy socks. Very important. Buy some 0-6 zutano booties on babycenter.com website. They really stay on well. Don't bother buying him shoes until he has been walking for several months.

A baby-wipe warmer is great, especially in the winter. Those wipes get COLD, and makes the baby cry.

For bottles, get the Dr. Brown brand.

If you are thinking about formula, get similac advance with iron.

Buy a bouncer seat that keeps him sitting up a little at an angle, so he doesn't get acid reflux. Preferably a seat that vibrates and plays soothing sounds.

Get a couple of those cages that you can put all the baby bottle parts into, to wash in the dishwasher.

If you don't have dishwasher, buy a special try with sticks coming up out of it, especially made for air-drying baby bottle parts after you hand wash them. You HAVE to have this.

Some size 1 pacifiers. It isn't bad to give a baby a pacifier, in fact, babies need to suck. It is good for them.

We relied on a music cd for many weeks to create a ritual of going to bed at night. Nature sounds with soothing music.

Last, as far as meds and toiletries, here is a list:
Aveeno baby wash/shampoo.
Baby oil
Aveeno moisturising cream for babies.
Infants tylenol.
A comb and a soft brush.
Baby nail clippers (don't worry about the fancy ones with the magnifying glass....you will never use that)
A baby bathtub (don't worry about the spa/jacuzzi shower spray. You will never use that...just get something simple.)

Don't bother buying gas drops or acid reflux medication. They usually don't work on babies.

Of course you gotta have a carseat.

That is all I can think of. Congratulations!

Answer 7

First and foremost, you will need a car seat for a newborn. They won't let you leave the hospital w/o the correct one. A bassinet and a crib, possibly you might want a pack-n-play, if you plan to go places w/ your baby. Also, you will need about 6 sleepers,(4 thin, 2 thick), about a dozen onsies, and 6 pairs of socks. If bottle feeding, you will need a dozen bottles, as well as formula. And burp rags and baby blankets. You will need a diaper bag, unless you intend to use the one given by some hospitals. I would recommend a larger one. Diapers and wipes. Little things like; cotton balls and cotton swabs, for cleaning the umbilical cord. Diaper cream, baby soap and washcloths. A baby tub. Also, a nursing pillow, we used ours for tummy-time. This is all just for the first 3 months. After that I would recommend a bouncy seat so you can actually take a shower, or a baby swing if you prefer, we had both. lol Also, an exersaucer for learning to stand and walk. Baby toys, strollers, and highchair. You name it, you'll need it!!!

Answer 8

I am also a teen mommy (I'm 18). My son is almost 2 so I had him when I was 16. I found these things MOST useful:

-Onesies and side-snap shirts. They go through 3-5 of those in one day.
-A dozen cloth diapers to use as burp cloths.
-baby blankets, as they will be wrapped in it most of the time for the first 2 months.
-Dreft detergent to wash this stuff ( I did his laundry pretty much everyday)
-mittens. for the first few months, their nails are really soft but they are sharp enough to scratch their cute little faces.
-socks
-bottle warmer if you're not breastfeeding or if you plan on using the bottle to put your breast/formula milk in.
-bottle sterilizer
-a swing helped A LOT when I needed to wash bottles and do the laundry.

when I started my son on formula (i breastfed the first 3 month, then went back to school. plus, i started using birth control. it goes right in the breastmilk which is a no-no for baby to take in) a thermose is a MUST to keep the water you boiled for the formula. but it stays REALLY hot so this is what I did: after boiling water, for the 4oz bottles. I filled them up halfway (2 ounces). I had about 16-20 bottles. Then i put the rest of the boiled water in the thermose (sometimes I boiled more water if there wasn't enough). then, when baby gets hungry, use the hot water from the thermose to fill up one of the bottles with the (now cooled down) water. add formula, shake, and presto! warm milk for baby to eat!

The rest is self explanitory, like crib, carseat, diapers, bottles, etc... I just named the things I found the MOST useful when at home (you don't take them out that much anyway when they're newborns). You can buy a few outfits just in case you do go out and want to show off your cute new baby but not too much cuz they grow out of them really fast!

one more thing, if your family offers to help, take that time to catch up on sleep. but make sure you go back to being the mommy because certain people end up taking over your baby. and you don't want that! (i know i found that VERY annoying like with in-laws. they think they know everything just because they went through it before. grr. haha)

sorry for such a long answer but when you're young and a mom, any advice helps!

also, one more thing. being 16 with a baby...trust me, the only hard part is dealing with in-laws and hearing the same thing over and over from other adults. they think just because you're young, you're incapable of being a mother. let them know that you are able to do it by not letting them take over and don't be afraid to say no to something you don't agree with. there's a difference between someone supporting you and someone trying to do all the work cuz they think u cant do it. (sorry, haha, i had some bad in-law experiences)

Answer 9

There's not really a lot you need BEFORE the baby is born. I thought I'd need all the trappings before my first was born and found how little I really used after.

I found no use for a crib. They're expensive and not necessary if you cosleep (see AskDrSears.com for safe cosleeping information).

I also found no use for bottles or pacifiers as I exclusively breastfed both my babies and they refused all artficial nipples (see LLL's website, Kellymom.com, and Mothering.com for great parenting and breastfeeding info). Again, it's basically free to breastfeed as opposed to buying bottles and formula.

If cost is even more of a consideration, cloth diapers are an option too. There are very cool modern inventions in cloth diapering that make it as easy as disposable if you have access to a washer...and much cheaper too! Plus, esecially for boys in the first 6 months of life, disposables can be harmful to baby's health and future fertility. Disposables keep the boy's scrotum much warmer than cloth diapers. This can damage the testicles and possibly affect future sperm production.

Strollers are great and convienent, but not absolutely necessary either. It is often more convienent to "wear" a small baby in a baby sling or in an asian style baby carrier (like a mei tai). Keeps baby close to you, which results in less crying, and lets you get about your business.

I found plain white onesies to be extreamely useful. Gender neutral and suitable for under clothes in the cold weather and as an outfit in hot weather. Newborns need a couple of hats. A dozen or so pairs of white socks. A couple of receiving blankets.

A car seat is necessary too if you are going to be in a car w/ baby. Convertable carseats are probably more cost effective, but Ifound that infant carseats were really easier to use in the early months. They seemed to support baby's head and neck either.

I would avoid buying too much in the way of outfits. Babies grow really fast and you can't be sure now how big your baby will be at birth. Try to buy clothes no smaller than 3-6 months. Babies can grow into baggy clothes and you'll get more use out of them than the newborn size (my son surpirsed us by being nearly 10lbs...he outgrew 0-3 month size by a couple of weeks!). If your little one turns out to be really tiny, you can always purchase some smaller clothes after the baby is born.

Congratulations and good luck.

Answer 10

Don't be afraid to take things from other people! I got so many things from other babies and at first I was unsure of using them but bottom line - babies need clothes, and they grow out of them so quickly. The best places I found to buy clothes inexpensive and cute was Target and Old NAvy, you can always get stuff on sale for less than $5. You will need plenty of washcloths, towels, and bibs. All that spit up and snot has to go somewhere. Recievnig blankets and onesies are great too - the little snap on undershirts are very easy to get on and off, very convenient. PAmpers and Huggies are the best diapers, it is worth buying for the money - just try to find on sale. The best wipes are Target brand soft cloth wipes. Hope this helps!

Answer 11

My grandmother insisted on buying 2 packages of cloth diapers (complete with pins and plastic overpants) when I was pregnant with my son. I thought how old fashioned noone uses those anymore geez join modern world. Those proved to be the most valuable thing for me. They make great burp rags, great to lay the little one during a nap nude to air out the diaper area and help with diaper rash. Run out of disposable diapers in the middle of the night or during bad weather? problem solved. Great to cover the little guys privates during changing to keep from getting peed on. You will find so many uses for these soft absorbant clothes.

Alot of people will give advice so my advice is to put it all on a mental shelf and take what you need down when you need it, you just never know when something will work for you.

Good luck and don't ever settle for less than the best for you and your son. Raising a child without a mate is hard, but with the wrong mate is a disaster.