after 5 months of marriage I was left...he stated that he was not ready for marriage and my daughter &moved 5 hrs. away to his parents. told me to move on with my life that I deserve someone else. I cried and was heartbroken. After a few weeks that heartbreak turned into anger, after all I had sacrificed and done out of love for this man, this is what I get ? After a few arguements and hearing things like "You will never do better than me" ! Someone else asked me out. I said yes(just to get my *** off the couch, and stop being depressed) My husband who abandoned me and wanted a divorce in the first place then hacked my email and found out that I went out to dinner with some 1. Now he is telling his family and every1 that the marriage is over because I cheated. But I never did ! We were seperated and hesaid he didnt want me or accept my daughter...I took it very serious and really thought that it was the end. ANd nothing ever happened anyway. I forgave him for so many lies and things..
2007-02-17 02:22:10 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I forgave him for alot of stuff he did to me in the past, out of love,why cant he get over this,if he is the 1 who left us ? I told him I love him...and he told me that it was just a TEST to see if I would go see some1 else...I told him that I am grown and I have I child, I dont have time for tests...now he is telling lies about me, but ultimately he is the 1 who left...
did he ever really love me in the first place ?
I helped him when he was in a bad situation in life...I did everything I could...
was this marriage ever real ? I still get occasional emails from him saying that he loves me, but cant get over the fact that I went out with someone...(he was on dating sites weeks before he found out that I went out) !!!! I was alone for Christmas, and now Valentines day....eventhough I love him, my question is....HOW DO I GET OVER THE LOVE OF MY LIFE WHO HAS DONE NOTHING BUT HURT ME AND TAKE MY SELFESTEEM ? I FORGAVE HIM IN MY HEART, NOW I JUST WANT MY LIFE BACK !!! (IM 25)
2007-02-17 02:28:30 · update #1
he left, and said that it was a test??? People like that have serious control and hypocracy problems... He wants his freedom, but he wants you wallowing in sorrow at home. That's not how it works. You deserve a healthy relationship. What he says doesnt matter. People who really know you will know the truth, and those that don't know you well just dont matter at all. Besides, chances are his family/friends know that he left anyways, and i'm sure that this type of controlling behaviour is not new to his personality.
If you stay, be prepared for his rubbing it all in your face. Be prepared that he'll probably take off again.
You and your daughter deserve a real man, not a little boy. Little boys get mad when someone else plays with their abandoned toys... Jealousy is the same thing, only with people. And its a juvenile trait... I'm sure there are other childish traits to him as well, and you deserve better!!!
2007-02-17 04:21:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anah B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will only be the love of your life until something better comes along. And it will. The guy is a jerk and not worthy of you or your daughter. Take some time, regain your self-esteem and move on. You deserve a better person, and your daughter does too. His behavior could also cause damage to her sense of how relationships work as she grows up. Ignore the talk of who cheated. You know the truth.
2007-02-17 10:45:14 · answer #2 · answered by PuckDog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im going through the same thing right now my wife has hurt me so bad im just trying to take it one day at a time good luck but i feel for you if you want email me and we can talk
2007-02-17 10:37:41 · answer #3 · answered by 1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Return to the anger you felt, and divorce him. Ensure you receive financial support for your child. He sounds very immature.
2007-02-17 10:44:08 · answer #4 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to divorce that creep and find you some one that loves you and acepts your daughter im sorry your heartbroken i am seprated and im heartbroken too
2007-02-21 00:42:35 · answer #5 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋