For example, a teenage boy who was quiet, shy becomes a romantic and caring man?
2007-02-17 02:19:15 · 24 answers · asked by Hero 2001 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Hero, I am not all that young and went to high school with a shy quiet teenaged boy, he was not popular, I was the cheerleader homecomng queen type...lots of friends...
Remet him 3 years ago, he turned out to be the BEST guy , romantic, caring and the best man I have ever known, we are very happily married now, he is the wonderful one, not me...I am the lucky one, not him...so...the answer is that while all the hot jocks are now either in prison or in the welfare line with lots of hurt people behind them in their wakes, this guy is doing great and is fantastic....I wish we girls would learn earlier, the shy quiet ones shall rule one day...don't over look them...
2007-02-17 02:26:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure people can change. It is possible for a shy guy to become a socialite or for an ex-con to live on the straight and narrow. But the change won't be quick or automatic. It'll take time and certain conditions need to be in place for personality change to happen. Our personalities are our way of adapting to the hand life has dealt us. So for change to occur, we need to exchange some of our cars. If a shy loner guy meets a wonderful woman and has children, then he could turn into a caring family man. If an ex-con stops associating with his criminal fraternity, it will be easier for him to become a better citizen. But you can't expect a friendless guy who lives by himself to suddenly become outgoing. And you can't expect an ex-con to not re-offend when he hangs around criminals all day. And even when circumstances are different you must allow time for people to adjust.
2007-02-17 10:31:54 · answer #2 · answered by Subconsciousless 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that anyone who "wants" to achieve positive change in their life is headed in the right direction. However, wanting to change isn't enough. A person has to be willing to work consistently at creating change over time. Change is a process, not an event, and how we think determines how we act. As such, a person must understand how they think and behave now, and decide what changes in their thinking must occur to bring about new behavior patterns over time. It appears, from the wording of your question, that you are already a romantic and caring person. Develop what you already have and work toward what you feel you want to improve.
2007-02-17 10:39:51 · answer #3 · answered by rico3151 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I dont think that people change to a great degree. They can however be molded into something, well passable enough. You could change your standards, as in lower down expectations, and that might be partially the compromise of the relationship. In your heart and mind, you will be able to see the other great things that is in the person, and you will be satisfied and say "good enough for me"
2007-02-17 10:30:23 · answer #4 · answered by QuiteNewHere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A great huge change overnight, I don't think so. Gradual changes are frequent for someone who wants to change his/her way of being.
If you want to change, first figure out what your end result will be, and change a single little thing at a time.
Just like John Lennon used to sing, "If you don't know where you're going, how will you know which way to turn?"
2007-02-17 10:29:36 · answer #5 · answered by OldGringo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can change. You're human. Humans mature and shape their personalities through interaction with family, friends, and community. Other change influences are education, literature, cinema, music, experience, work, sports, money. There's an infinite number of influences. You're in the driver's seat, so make it worth the ride!
2007-02-17 10:26:42 · answer #6 · answered by peacepusher 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I was quit all through high school, now I can talk to anybody. It is just getting through those teenage years that is hard to do. I would never want to be a teenager again!!!!
2007-02-17 10:42:06 · answer #7 · answered by dumbblond 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, definately. It may be important to have positive role models and reinforcing experiences. I think if its a change from being a negative person to a positive person,t hat will require more self exploration.
2007-02-17 10:25:14 · answer #8 · answered by stellabella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but depends on someone. Have you ever hear this nice phrase; woman always want man to change, but man will never change. Man want women to stay with what there are, but woman tends to change...
2007-02-17 10:29:23 · answer #9 · answered by myis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A number of factors can make someone change over a period of time. Mostly things like education, maturity, social circles and one growing sense of self.
But, a person changes when they want/are able to. You can never change a person if they don't want to change.
2007-02-17 10:27:36 · answer #10 · answered by jered_gold 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋