Am I overreacting?

Question

My step daughter had put several videos (from her camera phone)of her and her friends on you tube. I told her that it would probably be a good idea to take them off (mainly because I didn't want the other kids parents getting upset and also because of all the pervs). I also told her never to put anything involving "our house" (brothers, sister, me or her father) on you tube as well. Guess what..I log on and she has several video entries on her profile including her brothers and sister. I am ..for lack of a better word...Pissed and want her severely grounded! Am I overreacting?

Answer 1

no, you need to set a limit, and make sure it is drawn clearly. explain to her that you have no problem with her having a bit of fun, but that for the safety of your family, it is important that she delete all contents that star in it other than her. explain to her that online vidoes, are viewed by millions and milllions of people all over the world, of all types, including the freaks and creeps who love to perve and that is important she indertand the danger she moight be putting herself and your family in. if she don't abide, pull the plug out, and tke away those cameras.

there is no such thing as "overreacting" when it comes to parenting, well maybe sometimes, but not this time.

Answer 2

You're not overreacting. You have set a limit and she ignored you. Now is the time to take control. No teenager should be putting videos of herself, friends or family on the internet. You know it's just too dangerous out there. Your daughter is testing the limits and you have to let her know it won't be tolerated. I would take her phone away and ground her from the computer for two weeks and possibly ground her to the house for 3 days. It would depend if she has done this type of thing before (ignored your rules). Tell her you love her and won't allow her to do things you feel are wrong and possibly dangerous. You're sorry she chose not to follow the rules, so now she has to suffer the consequences. If she's as grown up as she thinks she is--she should take the punishment and move on. Of course, I'm in a dream world if I think she's going to deal with this punishment well! I have teenagers also. She's going to get very upset, but you'll have to be strong and firm. If you don't protect your daughter, who will? Good Luck!

Answer 3

sort of but as a teen the more mad you act the more she will want to do it. teens always want to do the opposite of what you say. what you need to do is come to a compromise, like she can put on whatever sh wants but she has to check it with you (if you two have a good relationship, not if she considers u the evil step mom) or her dad. Then be lenient when approving don't say no to everything because shell just do it anyway then. if she still does it then go w/ her dad on a united front to take away her computer privileges.

Answer 4

Yes you are. My 5 year old little brother is on youtube.. =| i mean.. its one thing for for her to have a video of her on but if its nothing provocative and she is not subjecting herself to those pervs then it should not be a problem. just make sure she is not giving out personal info and im pretty sure she is smart enough to do that. just calm down, it is not that serious.

Answer 5

a little as long as theres nothing like an address in the background then there really isnt that bad i would say yes ground her because she put vidios on there when you told her not to but if you just look at her vidios and make sure there all ok then theres nothing really rong with it

Answer 6

Contact the parents and ask them. You are not over reacting.

Answer 7

no depending on how you and your spouse approach discipline i would not let that go

Answer 8

no, she should have done wat u said, u r her parent and its the principle that she didnt listen 2 u and u should talk 2 her father bout it

Answer 9

i dont think so...... she should have listened to u.......