What can I do for my gay co-worker who is being framed from someone with a anti-gay agenda?

Question

I have already told him that I truly believe he is being framed. Maybe that is support enough?

Me and my husband both wholeheartedly support gay rights. We view anti-gay discrimination as the same thing as racial discrimination.

Answer 1

How big is your company? Big enough to have an HR department? Document everything, and I mean EVERYTHING that happens. Even if it seems trivial at the time. When you have documented proof of a few instances of that idiot doing wrong things, tell HR. And document the fact that you did tell them. If nothing is done, go higher on the corporate chain (if it's there).
Unfortunately, in small companies, this crap happens all the time. And I don't know of any way to stop it.

Answer 2

First of all, you must separate your pro-gay views from the reality of the issue or your testimony will not be valid before your employer or at a mediation (administrative) meeting.

Second. If you have evidence or have any information (of the facts) that can estabish that your co-worker is being framed, you need to speak up. If you fear reprisal, your boss has an obligation to protect your identity.

Third. Believing that someone is inocent is not enough sufficient to reach a veredict acquiting a person from the charges or faults of which he/she is accused.

I strongly support gay rights, but when a person is accused of any wrongdoings, I interview the accuser and the accused. Witnesses identity need to be protected in order to ensure that one incident doesn't evolve to a major confrontation.

Help that co-worker, and give (to your employer) a written statement, so it can stand in the record. If your employer proceeds against your co-worker (and/or you), even when you have provided evidence of the person's innocence, he and the accuser will be liable for damages, but your employer will be the one to lose more for he could face charges that I will not describe now, but believe me, could easily make your co-worker get a lot of money in a settlement.

Answer 3

Getting evidence and all that is great, but it would also help to garner other co-workers who believe the same. Then all go to the management and state your case, with any and all evidence. The squeaky wheel gets the grease, they say, and if there are alot of squeaky wheels??? Your gay co-worker will appreciate the support, even if all should fall through, he will remember your kindness and understanding. Blessings, you are a rarity to stand up against prejudice and good luck.

Answer 4

Speak up and discuss your concerns with a supervisor or manager. I'm also a straight married woman. I have alot of gay friends, many going back 20+ years. Most companies do not want to deal with possible discrimination issues so express how you feel to upper management. Or threaten to get Gloria Allred and the ACLU on their azz.

Answer 5

Go to the manager of the person doing the "framing" and tell him he could be sued for violating a co-worker's civil rights, and that the employees should keep his homophobia to himself. Racism is NOT acceptable workplace behavior, ever!

Answer 6

What you can do naturally depends on the specific circumstances.
If you have evidence that can support his defense, you should share this with management or, if he has an attorney involved, make sure they know that you have evidence to back up his claims.

Answer 7

I'm am very proud that you have this wonderful attitude, it's just too bad that it's not more contagious, just be there for him and offer any assistance that you can give to him, he will need it and if this goes to trial, see if you can be a character witness for him as that is what he will truely need, and it will help that you are a married straight woman.

Answer 8

outstanding to you. gay or stright does not matter. stand by your friend and help to clear this up.