he likes to flirt w/women,have emotional affair, but he don't want 2 call it that way.I trust him but I'm still in dout,I don't wanna ruin his privacy but sometimes I just got to check him
2007-02-17 00:46:27 · 15 answers · asked by Rona V 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You say you trust him, but you don't really.
If you did this would not be an issue.
You will save yourself a lot of grief in future if you come to understand that flirting and emotional whatever is NOT an AFFAIR. The line is drawn at the physical. Touching, kissing,sex, whatever. The guy who is outgoing and somewhat flirtatious
is the guy you were attracted to. So why make him change that now. As long as it stops at conversation where's the problem?
This is the reason he his hiding things. You are taking his basic personality traits and are now making an issue about it. If you are after him for being the way he always was OF COURSE he will avoid the confrontation.
Your own fear and lack of trust is causing this. Lighten up and accept him or this will spiral downhill until he is gone.
You can listen to the " he must be cheating" advice that Yahoo loves to dish out or you can figure out why you are thinking like this. If he is trustworthy then treat him that way. If he is not you will find out anyway.
To continue to check up on him can only lead to one thing.
He will be gone. If he is cheating he will be gone . If he is not cheating and you continue to treat him accusingly with mistrust he will be gone quicker.
You are already seeing the beginning signs. He is shutting you out because you cannot accept his behavior.\
Understand that he is hiding things because he cannot be open with YOU.
That is not the basis of a relationship.
When it is all said and done you are pushing him away. Then you will stand back and think I could not really trust him. This will repeat itself from now until you wake up and deal with your own issues.
I am also well aware that this is a minority opinion on this site.
I would love for you to tell me there is no kernal of truth here.
I really hope I'm wrong about this but don't think I am.
2007-02-17 01:42:18 · answer #1 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without Trust there is no love... what would you hang on for? do each of you a favor and move on. Love without trust? think about that...LUST without trust okay... that I can believe... but if you're going to treat your man... like a 12 year old... your going to end up with exactly what you deserve. he's NOT your man... he's A man... and a PERSON. if you can't respect and trust him... what's the point?
2007-02-17 00:56:19 · answer #2 · answered by alex b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your "Gut" is already warning you! Pay attention to it!
These are "signals" NOT to trust this guy!
Do what you have to do! You can RUIN his "privacy", YOU BET, because he isn't being true and you want to find out, as you posted it, SO---- Follow your heart on this one, you're on the right track, lady! He's a SCOUNDREL! I know 1 just like him!!!!
2007-02-17 00:52:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if your not married i would walk
you dont trust him for god sakes at least be honest
if you trusted him you would not check up on him
it also sounds like he is very secure in him self and you are a little insecure
a healthy relationship is one where you can go out with your Friends or alone and not have to worry about being nagged when you come home or worry about being checked up on
i got out with my friend and he goes out with his he and i come home to the love our of life
2007-02-17 00:51:24 · answer #4 · answered by elite_women_rule_the_rock 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he must to tell u the truth to not make u have all this doubts.. talk to him and ask him what u doing .... and u will find the answer... don't check out what he is doing because the trust will end.. so wait and let him ex plane to u what he doing and thinking...
2007-02-17 01:38:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Trust no one! Given the opportunity--EVERY man will cheat! You are right to check him! If you have a gut feeling that he isn't being faithful, then he probably isn't!
A man that truely loves you, will not give you doubt!!!!!!!!
2007-02-17 00:51:34 · answer #6 · answered by me a 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Throw the jerk to the curb as that where he is putting you.
Cheep shots on his part ,makes you look naive.To others. Other guys will see this an think it ok .Don't trust him at all.
2007-02-17 00:58:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that's an excellent way to lose him. Let him be free...if he loves you, he will return. Easy stuff!
2007-02-17 00:50:10 · answer #8 · answered by OilCityBug 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If u pick up the habit of checking on him ur life will be ruined... don't enter into that zone, where u will be in constant suspicion, talk to him instead and reach an agreement on wat u r comfortable with and wat u dislike
2007-02-17 01:42:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is still cheating, he doesn't have to sleep with them. don't check on him, just get rid of him. you don't trust him.
2007-02-17 00:50:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋