Hi, my fiance and I are trying to get more information about pre-marital counseling. My brother and sister-in-law said it was very effective in preparing them for marriage because they were able to address any potential areas that they didn't agree on. If you have experience with pre-marital counseling, did you find it to be helpful and/or necessary?
2007-02-17 00:19:51 · 7 answers · asked by ladymai21 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do it, what do you have to lose except a little time? I belive pre-marriage counseling actually takes you through very practical things, and that my dear is what life is about. Sure, you may love each other, but love doesn't solve a disagreement about kids, money, in-laws. Love does NOT conquer all, but communication and hard work can. If you do the premarital counseling, you will be that much more ahead of the game. And, if you find that the two of you are very incompatible in an area or two, don't be fooled into thinking one of you will change, it could be a red flag that the relationship will not work. Perhaps you are afraid of what you will learn in pre-marital counseling? Best to have your eyes wide-open and make better decisions now, before the committment of marriage. Best of Luck.
2007-02-17 00:32:59 · answer #1 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling is only good if both parties agree to it. If both are going to be honest and upfront then it will be a tool to improve your relationship. But just remember the person you are talking to is just human you have to take things that will work and dismiss things that won't work. But I agree that premarital counseling is better than trying to save a doom relationship that is facing divorce. Good luck
2007-02-17 00:35:54 · answer #2 · answered by chancesare45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i went to two counselors and ended up both turned out to be duds
you have to find a counselor that you have faith in as there are good and bad in any profession..i seen couples break up after going to these sessions as they could not take the truth...but do what you think is best..but knowing that these shrinks in disguise have some real scam artist in the business tooo
2007-02-17 00:25:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel that it cant hurt more you know the better youre are so you can start your marriage right you dont want to be like buy beware ok but communication is the most powerful tool and asked question about kids job and his role in rise kids will he help you with the house work? and kids more you know the better you are good luck its good you getting marry
2007-02-17 00:39:41 · answer #4 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is both necessary and helpful. It's good to have an "outsider" suggest things and look at your relationship in another way. Valuable things are discussed.. make time for it.
2007-02-17 00:57:29 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For crying out loud! If you need to see a counselor before you get married maybe you should not be together.
2007-02-17 00:48:08 · answer #6 · answered by cuddycab 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2017-02-16 23:00:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋