My wife and I are in the closing end of a divorce. We had always tried to be nice to each other. We had split apart about a year ago and in December finally decided to divorce. Now she has taken to saying mean things and being cold to me. Why is that? She says she has meet someone else and is happy, and I am happy for her. Why does she feel she needs to be mean?
2007-02-17 00:06:36 · 16 answers · asked by PuckDog 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Grieving process:
Denial, Bargaining, Anger, Acceptance.
And you get to revisit the various stages of the process as things unfold. Seems that deciding to divorce brought her back to Anger. Hopefully, she doesn't get stuck there. Right now she is blaming you for the divorce is why.
Keep contact to a minimum. I feel sorry for the guy she's dating right now.
2007-02-17 01:08:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like even though you have decided to divorce, she may be having a hard time letting go. By that, I mean, letting go of the dreams, hopes and expectations that the two of you had together.Some people mask their feelings of failure by lashing out at others. Could also be her way of showing her "new" love that she is loyal to him..who knows? Just some possibilities. Good Luck
2007-02-17 00:13:16 · answer #2 · answered by spring ocean 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is just mad at the whole idea of finally being divorced and maybe has feelings left for you. Instead of admitting that she is sad, she is lashing out at you. The best defense is a good offense. I do this to my husband some times. Instead of saying why I am hurting, I push him away. Just let it go. Say to her that you are sorry for the whole mess and that you are sorry she is hurting so much. Leave it at that. I am sorry that your marriage ended. Good luck in the future.
2007-02-17 00:14:52 · answer #3 · answered by looloo1122 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a way of detaching. Throughout the divorce proceedings you needed to deal with each other. Now, after a few more signatures, you will probably never speak again. Do not allow yourself to be dragged into an argument. She wants a final screaming match to be your last moments together. Or argue with her, your choice.
2007-02-17 00:12:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear about that
in reality people change pain to anger.she sounds like she was once a nice person. remember there are millions of ppl divorced or divorcing my point of view is it doesn't make one or the other a bad person all the time sometimes it is simply the couple where
to different to make it happend.
You sound like the type of man that can understand this.
she has probably turned her pain to anger but will change after awhile.
2007-02-17 00:50:40 · answer #5 · answered by b17_4_life 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is a psycho. She doesn't like her station in life now and is taking it out on you.
Keep your distance...why even talk to her? If you have kids, just talk the minimum amount to handle kid business and brush off anything else she says.
2007-02-17 00:11:05 · answer #6 · answered by Captain Jack 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the hurt that we carry inside us can make
us jaded and cold, but give her time and you will become
friends again, maybe you need to realise that it is time to
let go and get out there and find yourself someone to.......
Not on the rebound though get out find yourself other interests,
but above all remember what you had, and look for something
new to, relationships are complicated today, in a changing
world, you never know maybe you will meet the right person
and get over the hurt to..................................................................
2007-02-17 00:11:59 · answer #7 · answered by gorglin 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That her way of dealing with her feelings.Also she may not see you up set about the divorce. Or that her new friend is pressuring on her about you.Move on as it's over she has.
2007-02-17 00:19:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
its not all her remember she has a boy friend who try to make him self look good so he try to make you look bad my ex was the same way no matter what i did its was wrong so i kill her with kindness also i would shut her down by say we are not going there so say what you have to say and i dont have the time any more and its seem to work good luck
2007-02-17 00:31:09 · answer #9 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is jus angry because of the divorce don't let her get to you she knows how to push your bottons so its better to stay clear of her..
2007-02-17 00:10:18 · answer #10 · answered by Mary O 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋