Why i have a desire to have an extramarital affairs, even i am leading a happy married life?

Question

I talked the same to my wife too. we both are very open and never quarrelled on this. Bu let me say i don't yet have any such relation.

Answer 1

Get over yourself. Cheating is wrong. If you weren't ready for the commitment you shouldn't have gotten married. Stop seeing the grass as greener on the other side, because once you get there there will always be greener pastures elsewhere. Be good with what you have. Respect and love your wife, she respects and loves you. Don't be so selfish.

Answer 2

Something inside you makes you feel incomplete. You need to find out what it is. Probably, you have ceased to be an achiever recently. This feeling of incompleteness as provoking you to achieve something new. Not able to see anything positive to achieve, you assume that winning a new love is what makes you feel like a winner.

You should learn a new skill, join a course or do something good for the society. Go, talk to a lonely elderly person. Take a certification. Learn pottery or start writing a book. Be an achiever and you'll be a better person.

As Alison says,marriage counselling may help too.

Answer 3

Dear friend,

the reason is the influence of your thoughts...which inturn are the result of what you read, what you see on T.V., your freinds.
It is very good that you have openly with your partner about it and as you have not done anything sofar ,all is nice.
Just think for amoment { IAM TELLINK THINK ONLY) if your wife too thinks the same way.What are your reactions.You want your wife to be loyal to you and to YOU ONLY, but you think you are above all this and can behave in anyway you like.What is this justice.The bondage between a wife and Husband is LOVE and NOT LUST.
Please read good Books.Go to good family movies..Havefriends who have moral values....change mentally step by step..surely ,you wil come out of this.
Enjoy a happy married life with your wife only.Don't entertain such thoughts.....try to think other good things when such a thought occurs.I hope YOU DEFINITELY CHANGE AND lead a very happy and purposeful life.
wishing you all the happines and Good luck.

Answer 4

1. Think why do u want to go out
2. once u find the answer talk to Ur wife and let her know that this is what u want
3. talk it out

i am telling u this cause this whole affair thing is not good for the family and relation ships cause all they get is few happy days and bad days for the rest of Ur life

trust me i have been through this things cause some one in my family had it and it was disaster so DO NOT DO IT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES

just think aobut htis ur self cause u might be sexually not content or u might be missing something in life that u were getting before marriage so think about it and find out and just do not go for an affair

Answer 5

It's natural to fantasize about other people, thoughts don't mean there is anything wrong. It's how you act or don't act that makes a difference. An honorable, moral, ethical person doesn't act on those fantasies, because that would be betraying your wife and hurtful to her. One possible approach is to ask your wife if she would mind doing some role playing, that might go a long way towards spicing up your marriage bed.

Answer 6

yup that's really true as u said i even think the same.

as u said ur happy wid ur married life so the we need some more

in life. cox then the life wud be boring so inorder to hv fun we go in for this
but at the same time we r afraid also that we might loose the kind of understanding we have wid our wife though she is cooperative

i think the best idea is to hv the same on the net rather then a localite. cox that will be more safe & healhty.

Answer 7

A lot of people get hooked on the positive feedback they get when they flirt with someone new.

Also, many who cheat are insecure and that positive feedback makes them feel better about themselves, in the moment. Later they feel like crap because they've betrayed their mates, who they really do love, and themselves as they've broken their promise to be faithful.

The best thing you can do to prevent cheating is to go talk to a marriage counselor. It may cost a little now, but it's way less costly than the lawyers, the divorce settlement and losing your best friend would be.

Answer 8

You told your wife this? Geez, how respectful. Better she was overjoyed to hear that. She must feel really special right about now. Is this you trying to drive up negative challenge? Negative challenge is not good (better than being a wimp, but it's manipulative, and it's disharmonious, and it's disrespectful).

If you are a good man, your wife is going to know other women would want you (positive challenge). Telling her that you think about cheating is disrespectful (to her and your marriage). I'm not asking you to fake anything. I'm asking you to think about respect: you should give it, and you should expect respect as well.

Answer 9

This wont be a well like answer.

With you wife, visit the site AdultFriendFinder.com

In this site, you can find couples who are happily married but desire, shall I say, variety in their bedroom. Care needs to be taken just like you would visiting a dating site. It's not for everyone but it's an option.

Answer 10

You want this because you can everything to your wife and she nevers says you anything. But you must think that she left her home, her parents , her brothers and sisters for you and came with you now it is your responsibility how to make her happy but you are showing her that you and not satisfy with physical realations you and your wife have. DO one think what you are in search from the other girl tell your wife to do that i think that will help you.