Married for just one year and when I first met my wife our love was great. However one year later there is no chemistry in our marriage. I have really loved and cared for my wife and gave her anything she wanted. I still love my wife very much but as time goes on my love is fading for her as I don't receive it. I am the loving type of person but there is no intimacy, no hugs or great kisses as she only likes a peck, at night she pushes me off when our sex is done. I always feel so disapointed afterwards as I would love give my wife great night where she would just grave for more but not to be. I feel like I am living with a room mate not a soul mate. I can't believe it has happened to me , any one else have the same experience and what did you do?
2007-02-16 23:10:46 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have the same experience. What you two have to do is to start communicating freely about this situation. You both will have to agree to work at correcting the problem together. First you both have to agree there is a situation causing friction in the marriage. If she does not recognize there is a unhealthy resentment within the marriage, you have to tell her. From there you two should discuss what is expected as it relates to intinmacy and romance in the marriage. You both must understand where the other is coming from. Marriage is not her way or your way. Its is our way. Remember women like romance and romantic things spoken to them. And persistence wins out on resistence any day.
2007-02-17 00:20:15 · answer #1 · answered by MeToo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't seem your that comfortable, if you can't sit down and talk to her, its not great enuring a marriage being unhappy, so talk to her if you want things to get going. Do you have a variety in your sex life- sometimes it might be boring if theres no variety, also carressing does wonders. Sometimes even go up to her and give her a big hug and ask how she is, sometimes when there is a lot on a girls mind they tend to be a little preoccupied. Come out and ask her 'do you love me' see how comfortable or uncomfortable she is with the question and go from there.
2007-02-16 23:29:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like either you were never right for one another from the start, or she doesn't really want to be married to you anymore. Did you do anything to make her mad lately? From my experience I would say you probably need to seek some counseling, especially if both of you want to remain married. Ask her is she still interested in being a part of your life, then ask what she needs you to do to make things better and to be happy. Then you tell her what you need to be happy. Marriage is about communication and without it your marriage will be doomed. You two need to talk, talk, talk. After just one year, it sounds like there is a breakdown in communication between the two of you. Do you have any kids together?
2007-02-16 23:24:23 · answer #3 · answered by mixedup 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you able to sit down with your wife and have a really good, open honest chat with her about how you feel. You both need to discuss how you think your marriage is heading and if it is what you both want. If it isn't what you both want it's better to end the relationship now instead of remaining in the relationship and being unhappy for a long time.
2007-02-16 23:18:06 · answer #4 · answered by gollylobblehisbom 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is sad that she does act this way and if you truly love her sit her down and let her know how you feel. No one wants a room mate for a marriage partner. Work on making a change. TALK TO HER.
2007-02-16 23:19:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off, buy the two books, the Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands and The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage, and read them, and ask her to read them also. Secondly, be sure that you are viewing things fairly here. You've made it out to all be on her shoulders when in fact, are you sure there isn't some responsibility on your part? Also, are you sure that you are 'seeing' things that aren't really there? Feeding the hurt, looking for those things....Good Luck!
2007-02-16 23:26:57 · answer #6 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
howdy. enable me commence via saying you're no longer on my own, I too journey the comparable superb element, exept i've got been married for too long. i'm the passionate and sensual one, he's not, and there are no longer any chemistry between us. you have an benefit, you're in basic terms been married for 12 months and have no young ones, i'd advise you attempt counseling and likewise tell her precisely the form you sense and if that doesn't remedy it, then there is in basic terms one element to do and that i've got self assurance you recognize what that's. stable success.
2016-10-15 12:21:55 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell whats the problem have you thought of being romantic getting her flowers pampering her?try it and see how it works.Spice things up.Like im taking my bf first time in six years out to another country for his birthday spicing things up and just pampering him since i want to show him how much i love him.
2007-02-16 23:15:56 · answer #8 · answered by bitezoflove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No joke man you need to print what you wrote above and give this to her. Except ask her what it is you can do to make things better. However I dont believe you are the issue in this situation.
And yes I have the same issue...
2007-02-16 23:18:09 · answer #9 · answered by ae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have a serious talk with her to see what is going on with her. It is to early for the air to be out of the relationship .Otherwise make a clean cut and start over new .
2007-02-16 23:15:37 · answer #10 · answered by silverearth1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋