he then makes up excuses as to why he cannot meet --- how do i get to see him? what do i do? i love him to bits serious answers please
2007-02-16 23:06:51 · 40 answers · asked by liam.cornes 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
he says he loves me but im not so sure, i don't know if he is telling the truth or not
2007-02-16 23:22:15 · update #1
I hate to say this, but I think you already know the answer to what is going on.
If you are ready to hear it, I would have a long conversation with him. Tell him your concerned that you are growing apart. Ask him what is going on and be prepared to hear the worse.
Look, people in relationships sometimes grow apart. Yelling, screaming, accusing, and crying wont help. If he is a good person he will tell you what is going on. He might be going through some issues he might not want to share, he may also be trying to let you break up with him, or he might want to end it.
Examine your own feelings and again be prepared to let him go.
Good luck to you.
2007-02-16 23:13:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
OK here is how it is, whether it is a girl or a boy it don't matter, its all the same most times your so called partner is done and over with that relationship and wants to move on, sorry to say, but when your man keeps making up excuses like that whenever y'all make plans it blurts out he wants to see others or he not interested in investing anymore time in the relationship. Or maybe he doesn't see anything happening with this, maybe put a move on him, do something different, besides our normal dating activities, something sporadic. If these things don't help, well then I'm sorry your with that man, but hopefully y'all get through this together, and figure the problem out. BoL
2007-02-24 17:01:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a good sign, and it has the makings of becoming obsessional on your end if you don't start to bringing balance back to your life. Remember the things you did before you met him? Bring them back full time! If he does call, say you'll call him right back, then don't call. Treat yourself to a massage prior to seeing him, for the rare occasions when you do get together, or for in between times when you just long for somebody to touch you so you don't feel like you'll break while waiting for him. Cultivate some really good friends, exercise, take care of your body by eating only nutritious foods, drink plenty of liquids and taking vitamin B12, shop for new clothes, read a book, have movie night with friends. Become a better person who is too busy for him. Evolve into your next phase. Then dump him once somebody better comes along.
2007-02-20 17:37:59 · answer #3 · answered by DW2020 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like he is backing out without respect. He may have found someone new and doesn't have the guts to tell you. Or just having second thoughts. I've had this happen more than once and it is frequently in male nature to be chicken about emotional confrontation. The best thing to do is ask, even if you don't want to hear the answer. Then you keep your dignity and they look smaller. It hurts but you have to do it for you. And know you will DEFINITELY find someone right for you. And it WILL make you stronger, just ride it out. I promise.
2007-02-16 23:15:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know someone going through a similar situation but they actually live together!!! He works shifts so every other week they don't see each other. Then the week they do see each other she wants them to spend time together and go out etc... he doesn't want to and just wants to go to his mates and stuff.
She really loves him and I'm sure he does love her but shes not happy and the relationship just isn't working out. She tries everything to make it work, has made sacrifices etc and he just "plods" along as he always has.
At first she tried talking to him but they just ended up arguing about it. Now she just "leaves him to it", she cant bare the arguing and also to see what "effort" he will make. But he's just the same, he thinks its great (gets to do what he wants without the hassle/arguing...) and thinks that their relationship is fine.........
I agree with the first answer and think you should give that a go and see what happens. Life is too short to waste it with someone who doesn't really want to be with you. My friend is busy concentrating on getting her life together but I don't think she'll be with this guy much longer!
Good luck x
2007-02-17 05:53:10 · answer #5 · answered by Tia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please understand what i am going to say is not easy and will not be easy for you to read. sorry. I think he is trying to end the relationship to be honest. The fact that he is canceling to meet that many times is not a good sign. Give him one more chance and tell him this and if he does not meet you, he and you will know what happens next and the relationship has ended. I hope it turns out ok and that you get to see your boyfriend. good luck!!
2007-02-18 06:50:27 · answer #6 · answered by b1uecee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just dump him hes not interested by the sounds of it the longer you leave it the more it hurts, loves an addiction that hurts so bad in the end, go single for a while much better that way no strings and nobody to answer too, good luck x
2007-02-21 06:32:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too intelligent to continue with him. He cannot commit to you. He would never commit to a conversation with you. He will tell you what you want to hear and he won;t change, Move on... YOU DO NOT DESERVE THIS. He is NOT a man, he is only a boy. You sound smart enough to realize that you do NOT want to see someone like him. Kick the mother f****er to the curb and hold your head high. Cry for one more day and move on. YOU can do it.
2007-02-24 18:47:27 · answer #8 · answered by choose happiness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve better than that obviosly he doesnt feel the same. Why dont you try speaking to him he may also be having a few probs of his own. If his behaviour continues in this way after you have talked then maybe you should break it off
2007-02-24 21:51:31 · answer #9 · answered by hope 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think you are in the worst case now that he doesn't want to hurt you, and he lets you break up with him. Or you live in place that doesn't have "hurry love" like NY or Las Vegas. Or there is some other reason.
You should call him, and directly discuss with him about the relationship.
2007-02-17 00:34:03 · answer #10 · answered by Henry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋