i want to make him see what's right add wrong before apposing and to be friendly with everyone she dosent move freely with others and gets tense for silly things help me to change to acheerfull person
2007-02-16 22:01:31 · 12 answers · asked by shanthi r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
spare the rod spoil the child
2007-02-16 22:11:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well depending on your kids sense of humor..... you could try something that mirrors his exact behavior. From what it sounds like in your question, the kid becomes rather volatile before completely hearing you out. Jumping to the conclusion before you have finished what you were saying to him. If this is the case be sure to do just that . Go through all the "stomping out of the room, shouting at the top of your lungs, door slamming and other rude gestures" your kid may display so he can see what it looks like. Or, secretly video tape him in his "angry defensive" mode and have him view it once he's calm..... or has friends over. Most often, if a person can see their actions from a different perspective, and it's ugly, they'll conscientiously put forth an effort to change.
2007-02-16 22:18:32 · answer #2 · answered by the77bag 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a good relationship - could you sit him down and give him a lesson on life? I mean, you would have to approach it gently if he is an angry sort of person, but you could say about the fact that you try to be understanding, but it is difficult to be understanding when he behaves as he does - you will have to work hard at pacifying him during this conversation, as he may just snap at you.
The alternative is to praise him when he is pleasant, but be very strict if he gets angry - tell him that it is not an appropriate way to behave, and that he needs to respect others.
It may be a slow process - people can't change overnight. By gradually introducing the ideas, and helping him succeed in them by guiding him, you may get the son you want!
2007-02-16 22:07:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are setting him up for failure. Unless you get some serious professional help . If he is like this at 15 then you have already done him a great injustice but it is not to late in his life to change. Change is only possible if he wants to change. Your job is to set the role model to help him want to grown out of the immature person he is. You will have to practice hard love and not what you call love..there is the difference
2007-02-16 22:12:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly in accordance on your children humorousness..... you need to attempt some thing that mirrors his properly habit. From what it feels like on your question, the newborn will grow to be quite risky in the previous thoroughly listening to you out. leaping to the top in the previous you've finished what you've been declaring to him. if it is the case be particular to easily attempt this . conflict through each and each and every of the "stomping out of the room, shouting on the right of your lungs, door slamming and different rude gestures" your newborn would show so he can see what it appears that evidently like. Or, secretly video tape him in his "indignant protective" mode and characteristic him view it once he's calm..... or has associates over. fairly regularly, if someone can see their moves from a diverse attitude, and that is gruesome, they are going to rigorously placed forth an attempt to regulate.
2016-12-04 07:08:47 · answer #5 · answered by gnegy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son's not stupid. He knows what's right and what's wrong. My mum couldn't trust me to think for myself when I was 13.She imposed lots of restrictions and sticks her nose into everything I do.We had a really bad row once and I've not spoken to her since.It's been like 3 years.Give him some space.
2007-02-16 22:09:54 · answer #6 · answered by nelson28 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Setting the right example is one of the best ways to help.
2007-02-16 22:04:41 · answer #7 · answered by icecreamcafegraphics 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u have to get closer to him and treat him like u are his friend try to listen to him and understand his age he is just 15 and its normal in his age . tell him that u passed this age too show him that u are care about him.
2007-02-16 22:16:26 · answer #8 · answered by aroura . 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like someone could be "Bi-polar" and should have help. I would have him see a doctor.
2007-02-16 22:04:27 · answer #9 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you know childre are that one but not all you can solve it by praying to God for help and also know what he likes and his dislike so that you will be able to cope with him you can chat with me on these mail
2007-02-16 22:07:28 · answer #10 · answered by obianuju u 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋